basically i pissed my girlfirend off for looking in her msgs on her phone and there was 1 or 2 messages that i didnt like(txts to other guys), so i deleted them!!!,(she noticed a few hours later) but i kinda know there just mates to her and shes told me herself that shes really close to all her mates, blah blah blah!!

i was like well i didnt like those txts i saw and shes like well u shouldnt have been looking on MY PHONE and at MY MESSAGES(thats how she wrote it in her text to me).

anyway what does everyone think about that?, was i wrong to get all angry about the texts and just delete them or do u think u would have done the same? maybe im just too damn jelous and paranoid, i dunno!

 

What did they say?

 

paranoid and jealous chill man if she is a babe then other men are gonna want her FACT means you have good taste thats all doesnt mean she wants them either

 

If she doesn't have anything to hide then she shouldn't mind you looking

Personally i'd just not look and not worry about it though

 

How would you feel if she went through your phone?

Phone, email etc etc private IMO hands off!!!

 

Out of sight out of mind.

If your looking for msgs and that then shows you don't trust her. A relationship is nothing without trust

 

IMHO The main basis of any working relationship is trust, if thats not there then you might as well go your seperate ways I could never be with anyone I'd always have to keep my eye on.

 

depending on what they say dont worry about it.
but the worrying thing is how she reacted about u looking at it.
or is she just a very personal person who likes to keep her things to her self?

 

if she was sending pictures of her tits or gash to blokes then worry.

I made the mistake of giving the ex and second chance - then she went full on and went and f**ked the bloke while away!

Still all in the past now though! You live and learn

 

I just had a similar thing happen to me today mate waiting till she's finished work and will tell her to fuck right off. It aint worth the hassle or worry over

 

Why did yuo delete them - wasn't that a bit of a giveaway?

 

do u trust her??
does she trust u??

if so forget it, have some make up sex and enjoy life!!

 

If she had nothing to hide shed not care, but she has, cause birds are sly as fuck and cant be trusted as far as you could drop kick em

Birds are just as sly and sneaky as blokes are, well much more actually, esp if they fit as they always get people cracking on.

Unless she ugly, reclusive, or bizzarely faithful, she gonna have somthing dodgy going on, or at least there ready as a backup plan or escape route, so maybe ignorance is bliss

My Mrs (well ex now ) shouldve done the ignorance is bliss thing, she read my fone the other week and now im well and truly dumped No lying my way out of them texts either, spelt out exactly what had been happening in no uncertain terms

Personally I find being the single person shagging everyone elses girlfriends far far more fun

 

david, Sonia been chasin alfie moon?


Depending on what the txt messages said, i'd prob react the same, although i dunno if i would of looked in the first place, but going by her reaction they must of been something in it to make her think "oh shit" or to make you think "is she?" or could just be reading too far into it and she's genuinly not fucking about but just didnt like the fact you went into her phone and make her feel you dont trust her!
hope it sorts itself out for you anyway

 

Steve - if your missus didn't know you was up to things elsewhere, then she probably wasn't as intelligent as she was good looking

 

Summit like that mate You wanna go for a beer later ?

 

 

Would do mate, but i have -Ł90 to my name the now might be up Zoes later also

 

Not to worry mate, later on in the week

Pop into my work if your at Zoes

 

I hear that m8!

I got burned! never again!

But I do look @ it now what u/they dont know wont hurt you/them!

Its much better!

 

david, I will do mate, prob be tommoz tho, as i'll prob head up late afternoon if i can gadge a lift of the oldies

 

well your doin them a favour cus there birds cant be trusted!

but do it to a so called mate and you deserve to get the biggest kicking of ya life!

and be honest your a man! your dick will think before you do!




ima you shouldnt have been goin through her phone without good reason! guilty consince(spelling) perhaps?!

tho if the txts were that bad you wouldnt have just deleted them you would have confronted her so tbh they couldnt have been that bad!

 

ok i didnt tell u much about her, shes 25 and got 2 kids(another bloke she was with for a year or 2), so i dont reckon she fucks about if shes been in a relationship thats been so serious to have 2 kids!?

she told me that she dont like anyone going through any of her personal things(which i guess is fair enough). so maybe she just got angry cos of that.

OH MY GOD, bloody girls, i could bash my head agianst i brick wall i really could!

why cant anything ever be simple or go the way u want it to!

 

 

Were they texts "to" her or texts "from" her?

 

hate to tell ay this but two kids means fook all!

people still cheat when they got family!

been proved normally happens when women are ovulating! (comin on heat basically) for men its all the time! were programed to spread the seed!

sorry fact of life!

 

I dont nail good m8s birds!

ANy 1 else's mrs is game though!

 

well she keeps the outbox on her phone clear cos obviously u can then store more messgages in your inbox.

so the ones i saw were to her.

im just thinking now, there was like 30 odd txts from me and only 1 or 2 from other blokes( which i think were mates). so i guess thats pretty good, at least she dont delete all mine

The in texts in question were like "hi sexy, how r u, u wanna meet up agian soon, we had loads of fun lastime".

just texts onlong those lines, but i guess there ones where u dont know if there was anything in it or not.

like i said she was in a relationship last time for 2 years and had 2kids with the bloke. i think im just gunna ring her and say sorry

 

That soooooooooooooo means, well you know what that means, im sorry, but thats almost exactly the texts I send as a first step once I decide I want another go on em.

Engaged, kids, married, nothing stops birds if they think they can get away with it.

Time to show her how stong the back of your pimp hand is

 

That text is harsh, not really sure what to make of it, women are so hard work i think you should ring her and apologise and just go from there.

although she has 2 kids like said above, don't mean shit, my ex and i were together for 5yrs, we have a nearly 5yr old kid, and she cheated on me 4 times the first being when lil'un was 1, the last being when he was nearly 3

 

I've sent things like that to girls i'm just mates with before now though as well

Basically, with women, if you go looking far enough you will probably find something to get annoyed/upset about, so just don't look at all

 

Ive got texts from loads of birds on my phone.. and I aint shagging any of them! (working on one or two though )

she's prob. just pissed off that you were checking up on her.

 

i hope so phil!! [/quote]

 

I'm with Phil on this.

My best mate is a girl, and we always send each other text messages EXACTLY like that, and it's totally innocent.

It's all down to the individual....................

 

hardly a threat being so gay though are ya

 

Fuck's sake!

You're like some sort of sniper - nothing on the board for days, and then you just pop up, shoot, and then disappear again!

Gillette Mach 3 at the ready

 

Bring it on, got my sword waiting

 

Im my experience, where a guy feels he cant trust the girl enough that he has to go through her phone.......... it has always turned out that the guy was the one who ended up being the one to play away from home

Clearly you dont trust your girlfriend, talking to the opposite sex on text messages is always going to look odd to the boyf / girlf, its human nature to get jealous, but if you truly trust your partner then I dont see that it's an issue, I would ask yourself why you feel she would decieve you like that and why you dont trust her?

I used to get the arse with my ex going through my phone every time I wasn't in the room, so to stop the arguments I just deleted anything I knew he'd kick up about as it came thru, then he could look through my phone all he wanted. Now she knows you're checking up on her, she'll be more careful where she leaves her phone and what messages she leaves in it, then you'll never know the truth about what's going on, catch 22 really

 

Speaking of girl friend problems (Sorry to hijack thread) ive just got this email off my bird possibly soon to be Ex as were not getting on at the moment

BIRD

D'ya fancy a couple of beers tonight, we haven't spent time since Friday night/Sat morn ? Would be nice to see you. Have missed you :-(

ME

Cheers but im going home to bed - heeds bouncing - im gonna watch the football celebrations as I didn't see anything yesterday n have an early night

Id just end up shouting at you as im still pished off about us

Maybe another night

BIRD

Hopefully this is just a bad patch but if it's more I would hope we could talk amicably as I still have all your things. We have gone out for a while and I would hate us to hurt each other by being nasty. I understand your distance, I guess we both need to think!
Have a Good night Darren.

Does that mean she's gonna TORCH my things if I Break up with her?!??

Blimey ive about 6 Lacoste polo's n god knows what else at her gaff and it's all been bagged up in a bin liner

 

nice to get a girls view clare

This all happened lastnight(when she realised what i did) and i havent had chance to speak to her yet today and shes at work at the moment so im just gunna have to wait till she finishes and see if she answers my text or not, if not then ill have to ring her