Sitting here crying
19-04-2005 | 01:44 PM
#81
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Cant afforf fucking priavte healthecare
I pushjed all my freinds away
CaBNT EVEN TALK TO THE MISSUS i SAFE IN MY ROOM THE REAL WORLD NOT GET ME IN HERE
fUCKING HELL i AM MAD,GOD BELSS BPROZAAC yeah fucking right
I pushjed all my freinds away
CaBNT EVEN TALK TO THE MISSUS i SAFE IN MY ROOM THE REAL WORLD NOT GET ME IN HERE
fUCKING HELL i AM MAD,GOD BELSS BPROZAAC yeah fucking right
19-04-2005 | 01:46 PM
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Ive got a great life at the moment.
I own my own house but i dont have to pay the mortgage cause i rent it out to my auntie and uncle cause my parents have just bought a larger place and i enjoy living with them and my girlfriend likes it there too, and its cool cause ive got my own couple of bedrooms for if mates stay over and my own seperate lounge etc.
Ive got a job i enjoy on pretty good money
Ive got quite a few cool cars at the moment, and am also normally helping one or two othe people out with cars i find interesting too, in fact got a really cool project for a mate in the pipelines at the moment
My health seems great
My lovelife is fantastic like its basically always been
Got some good friends i know i can trust
Cant really think of many ways in which life could be going any better TBH.
I think a lot of it just comes down to a positive mental attitude, im sure if i stopped to think about it there are just as many things i could be unhappy about, but i dont ever look like that, im very much a "glass half full" kind of person.
Maybe you just need to focus more on the things that are going well?
I own my own house but i dont have to pay the mortgage cause i rent it out to my auntie and uncle cause my parents have just bought a larger place and i enjoy living with them and my girlfriend likes it there too, and its cool cause ive got my own couple of bedrooms for if mates stay over and my own seperate lounge etc.
Ive got a job i enjoy on pretty good money
Ive got quite a few cool cars at the moment, and am also normally helping one or two othe people out with cars i find interesting too, in fact got a really cool project for a mate in the pipelines at the moment
My health seems great
My lovelife is fantastic like its basically always been
Got some good friends i know i can trust
Cant really think of many ways in which life could be going any better TBH.
I think a lot of it just comes down to a positive mental attitude, im sure if i stopped to think about it there are just as many things i could be unhappy about, but i dont ever look like that, im very much a "glass half full" kind of person.
Maybe you just need to focus more on the things that are going well?
19-04-2005 | 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by Maximum
Yeah - thats..... Thats REAL helpfull chip.
Nice one mate
Nice one mate
you just gotta have the confidence in yourself and apply yourself to make things happen.
19-04-2005 | 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by chip-3door
Maybe you just need to focus more on the things that are going well?
One thing that jumps right out at me is the number of people on here that obviously care for you - there will be tough times mate, but you WILL get through them.
19-04-2005 | 01:54 PM
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Originally Posted by St3V3_C
Originally Posted by chip-3door
Maybe you just need to focus more on the things that are going well?
One thing that jumps right out at me is the number of people on here that obviously care for you - there will be tough times mate, but you WILL get through them.
19-04-2005 | 01:59 PM
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Originally Posted by chip-3door
but i just focused on the good things and have got to where i am now
Do they make doors wide enough for your head? and when are you gonna stop masturbating your ego?
19-04-2005 | 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted by Maximum
Originally Posted by chip-3door
but i just focused on the good things and have got to where i am now
Do they make doors wide enough for your head? and when are you gonna stop masturbating your ego?
19-04-2005 | 02:01 PM
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Less hun, get hold of you girlfriend tell her how your feeling, she loves you for who are are, if you did anything stupid, she'd end up hurting as much as you are now, I know you probably feel like you'll bring other people down if you talk to them but trust me that isn't the case, your girlfriend will be glad if you spoke to her and told her how you feel I'm sure, shows you can tell her anything, she will want to be there for you, you won't bring her down hun honestly!!
19-04-2005 | 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Maximum
Originally Posted by chip-3door
but i just focused on the good things and have got to where i am now
Do they make doors wide enough for your head? and when are you gonna stop masturbating your ego?
i think most peeps wud love to have chips outlook on life i say good luck to him
x x x
19-04-2005 | 02:04 PM
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Originally Posted by martyn
Maximum, coming in a bit strong with your first few posts arent you? 
Nothing like a good introduction of yourself...
Nothing like a good introduction of yourself...
Makes no difference to me one way or the other though TBH he can abuse me on the internet all day long if he wants, im not bothered.
19-04-2005 | 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by martyn
Thats not the point though.
No need for the personal attacks, especially on this thread
No need for the personal attacks, especially on this thread
This place is best place possible for personal attacks on me i should think, cause im pretty sure Less doesnt like me anyway LOL
Seriously though Less, you just need to focus on the good things, at least you have a girlfriend, i know plenty of people depressed about being single for ages etc, so focus on stuff like that.
19-04-2005 | 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by * Rudey *
chip i care because i can relate and less is a long time friend not because i say it to look helpful and good and yoda like
I care cause im generally a caring person (underneath the asshole facade, lol) but thats not the same as to someone who knows him.
You should get round there and give him a hug then i reckon mate.
Share the love
19-04-2005 | 02:16 PM
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At the end of the day, we are all complicated in our own little ways, but fundamentally life is simple, you either look for the good or you look for the bad, and it doesnt matter how bad your life is if you look for the good you will be happy and it doesnt matter how good your life is if you look for the bad you will be unhappy, you only have to look at all the popstars etc with depression despite having a seemingly fantastic lifestlye, happiness is just a state of mind it doesnt really rely on much external influence 
19-04-2005 | 02:21 PM
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Best advice given on this thread so far IMHO:
Only YOU control your own state of mind, its just such a fucking weak willed copout attitude when people start saying its the fualt of others or the state of the country etc.
I have a family member who has just lost a grandchild, had to sell their house due to the collapse of a business venture, has to do a job they dont really like very much, and has some quite bad health problems.
And yet everytime i see her she is smiling, not cause life is dealing her fantastic cards, is it fuck! but just cause she has the right outlook.
Likewise i know of some right miserable twats who havent really got any reason to be, it just turns into a viscous circle and also becomes a self-fulling prophecy, if you REALLY believe you are a piece of shit that only bad things will happen to, thats basically what is going to happen in the long run, cause your attitude will make it, like if you spend the whole time miserable etc then eventually the people who do care (like your bird or whoever) will just fuck off, a lack of motivation will lose you your job, etc
Originally Posted by DazS1Turbo
Listen and read to people's experience's LESS
Things will and do get better you have to help yourself tho mate..........
Things will and do get better you have to help yourself tho mate..........
Only YOU control your own state of mind, its just such a fucking weak willed copout attitude when people start saying its the fualt of others or the state of the country etc.
I have a family member who has just lost a grandchild, had to sell their house due to the collapse of a business venture, has to do a job they dont really like very much, and has some quite bad health problems.
And yet everytime i see her she is smiling, not cause life is dealing her fantastic cards, is it fuck! but just cause she has the right outlook.
Likewise i know of some right miserable twats who havent really got any reason to be, it just turns into a viscous circle and also becomes a self-fulling prophecy, if you REALLY believe you are a piece of shit that only bad things will happen to, thats basically what is going to happen in the long run, cause your attitude will make it, like if you spend the whole time miserable etc then eventually the people who do care (like your bird or whoever) will just fuck off, a lack of motivation will lose you your job, etc
19-04-2005 | 02:48 PM
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music is a good way of stopping your mind wandering be sure to have some on less when ya sat in, but tbh its this that is part of the problem you adapt to your soroundings so if your room is it, your not gonna be doing much interacting and socialiseing confidence is key it seems yours has been beat down along the line you need to start doing lil things for yaself like takeing walks change of scenery may seem insignificant but its amazeing what little things you draw confidence from, ive been in therapy over a year now and the dude i see is uk,s voice on mental illness we,ll have a chat mate see therapy isnt case specific thier is a general formular and the main thing is to have a structerd day as its when your sat doing nowt the think monster takes over (the mind) think of it as a monster as the more you thik the more it feeds and the bigger the problem seems, if you can get any time off id like you to come and stay for a weekend i think i can pass on some helpful info to you mate but needs to be up close n personal upto you mate if i had a license id be thier shout me anytime on msn mate, see the biggest part is to admit you have a problem the pro,s say!! i think youve demonstrated that by posting so your closer than you think to sorting it mate trus me 
19-04-2005 | 02:52 PM
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Originally Posted by * Rudey *
main thing is to have a structerd day as its when your sat doing nowt the think monster takes over (the mind) think of it as a monster as the more you thik the more it feeds and the bigger the problem seems
Nail on the head mate. 
cheers simon jus wanna help 
19-04-2005 | 03:04 PM
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if you ate a tin of sweetcorn. . and never chewed it. . would u shit out corn on the cobb, or would it be corn on the log?
If you eat a sausage a poo comes out the other end, how come then when i eat a poo a sausage doesent come out the other end!?
