Been a while since I posted, but I'm really feeling fooked up just now. I split up with my girlfriend just over two weeks ago and I just can't get over it. I feel so bad. I feel like I'd be better off dead because my life is just such a waste and I have no confidence left inmyself anymore. I've just started at uni in Huddersfield and my housemates are all like "oh you'll meet someone else" but out of the 6 of us I'm the only person in the house not to have a partner, and I don't have anyone to go out on the prowl with as a result. But I love my ex so much and we only really split because I moved here and she lives near york and as the only one of us who drives, she finds it too hard to have to travel here to see me and only really see me at weekends.

Now, a month back she was talking about moving out with her mate. I've just told her she can stay here with me and either commute or get a job here and she said she doesn't wanna move out.

I just feel so fucked up. I've been drinking since 12 today and I think I'll be going to the pub when my cans run out. I just dunno what to do with myself. What I need to know is whether I'm actually depressed or not. I just feel so shit and keep crying all the time. I just wanna sit in the house and drink alcohol while listening to depressing music. I feel shit but when I'm with the lads I can let go a little and have a laugh. Is it possible to be able to do that when you're really depressed or would I feel so down all the time that I wouldn't even go for a drink with the lads?

Any help is much appreciated and I'm sorry to have to burden others with my shit. It just helps to let it all out.

Thanks folks....

 

Hey Buddy,I'm a firm believer in a problem shared is a problem halfed, so by letting your feelings out it may get better, I'm not going to give you all the cliche's like "plenty more fish in the sea and all that" as I'm sure you're getting enough of them from people allready.
All I will say is just to give it some time and see what happens, I'm sure deep down you know that drinking doesn't help though.I've had a pretty bad week too if thats any consolation, but as I heard in a film once,"you just gotta keep on keeping on!"
Chin up buddy, give it some time.
Andy

 

Hi mate

You are definitely a little depressed, but it won't be proper clinical depression.

How old are u? 18? Unfortunetly thats when depression is most likely to strike - young men coming out of their adolecense.

Uni is a major life event - so u'll be under a lot of stress with that. Living with a load of people with partners at uni is a bit unusal - that prob wont last.

Id try and forget going back with ur gf - think that chapter in ur life is over and u should move on. Its not good imo to be with someone when u start uni - goto the pub and get drunk with someone random - u'll have a buzz...

 

Hi guys. Thanks for you words. I'm actually 22. Just gone to uni a little late.

She's just replied to my text telling me she's sure she'll have a lot of fun in manchester this weekend. I've jsut lost my bond cause there's now 3 dents in the wall of my room. How can women be so cruel???

 

I'm 24 mate. On my second degree so have lots of experience. Thewhole i'll have fun in manc thing does seem a little harsh. Im in manchester tonight - and it is a buzz lol. She probably didnt think that she's rubbing it in - ive had girls do the same recently - and i dont think they realise theyve just kicked u in the bollocks. U need to have ur own fun in Huddersfield

 

I was clinicly depressed for 3 yrs, to be honest in you'l block ne remote possibility of anythinmg positive the way you feel at the moment, but one thing to do is surround yourself with the things that made you happy. For me that was music, id force maself 2 go out 2 gigs, or to play em more coz im in a band, and obviously my passion for fords, i started working on ma XR2 and now i got the RS..

Relationships are always the best thing in the world and then the worse when there over, but if you split on the terms that things would be awkwad while your chasing your carear atleast its been on good terms, you can appreciate the time and fun youve had. Where as if you'd split coz she had cheated or you had or something bad, then it would be alot worse. Cherish the time you had together, you obviously didnt spend however long you where together depressed so why torture yourself now.

Feel free to post back, i been through hell last few years and ive come through it all despite alot of shit still going on, ive learnt to be stronger and not soak everything up. It is a stupid and overheard cliche but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

And if you still feel bad in 2 weeks, il take you for a spin in the RS coz im up visiting ma mate and ma x who r both at Hudderfield uni.

 

Thanks again guys. She's been a bitch. We spilt over the distance thing but now she's saying she doesn't want a relationship and she just wants to have fun. I dunno what to do. I've got 16 paracetemols in front of me plus one and a half cans of lager and I am seriously considering taking them. I'm devastated. I can't handle the way I feel.

 

my wife got very depressed after she had a bad car crash and started drinking a huge amount and said she saw no future in us and was crying alot,i took her to the docs and he gave her some mild anti depressents and told her that its the drink that makes you feel worse so you drink more cause you feel bad and so on,try and cut down the drink as this will not help ya and try and get some anti depressents,talk to your family,brothers sisters or good friends back home,even good old MUM,
cheeRS gary
AKA shrek

 

dude, I'm a qualified ambulance tech. do not take the 16 pills as it will basically burn your stomach lining out and cause you to be very ill, this is not the way forward.You may be feeling very down at the moment but you need to remember better times, as these are gonna be coming along soon.Just think of your future dude, you have got so much time infront of ya to do great things, taking pills and od'ing is not a good future.
It's only a suggestion , but why not go to bed, sleep it off and start a new day tomorow.I allways find that when I'm down a cuppa helps too!
C'mon dude, look toward your future.
Andy

 

Shit mate, I'm really sorry to hear about whats happened.

Things will get better in time! I know its no consolation to you now but time is a healer. Dont going doing anything stupid as you've got your life in front of you. Stop and think about what your doing and what you plan to do. I know it will be hard but you will come out of this stronger and a better person

Andy, very wise words indeed mate

 

dude just drive down and treat her to some fist








jus kidding.

 

you need to not be alone at this moment!!!, go out and meet up with a few mates, go have some fun,
Women are strange creatures dude and they get some kind of twisted pleasure from knowing you are suffering, why let the bitch win, go out, get wasted, find another bird, bin the pills get positive

Keep smiling

Remember, don't just live life....LOVE IT!!!

Pugo

 

Bluesmoke, chin up dude. I mean if you going to university you will be studying and hopefully gaining a proffession that one day wil help my children in sum way. Look at it in that way that as you lose one thing you gain another.
Years ago I had the same issue and me so called best mate was seeing megirlfriend. I tried ending my life and me other mate found me. i then found sumone else , my current partner and now have 2 kids a house etc.
I'm sure you will get through this.

And, if its any consolation, my sister has just found out her chap in 4 years has been cheating on her with 7 women and he shas 4 different kids through em all.

All the best to ya dude

 

if shes a bing a bitch with you now.. do you really want her back.. me n my gf split up at leeds fest.. was so upset and had 2 spend 2days still wiv n sleep in the same tent with her.. but i thought.. well hold on.. shes fuckin me about here.. so why should i be upset.. if sum1 can obvisouly get 2u then do u really wanna b with them..

once we split i cudnt giv a shit, coz as i say, she was being a twat, n if thats the person i was going out with then i dont wanna get back with her, simple reason is that kinda person isnt for me..

And then i went and watch Mozza and The White Stripes

 

U know that fing for all musical notes on a piano "Every Good Boy Deserves Footbal"

Every Girl Bitch Deserves Fist

 

Im real sorry to hear what your going thru, a while back my wife left me & i was soooo down it was unreal! It felt like it would never get better but you know what mate IT DOES GET BETTER! Ok, i still think about her sometimes but i dont sit there constantly thinking about what if's. I posted up a thread on pf night my wife left & the response i got in return was brilliant & i believe that really helped me. So although it's gonna seem real difficult for you to cope with you've got to stay strong & you will come thru it ok.

 

Yeah mate. It definately will get better. The way you gotta look at it is that if she is being a bitch now better to find out and move on rather than let her do it in 5 years time when you might have a couple of kids, house etc. Jog her on because there are a lot of nice decent birds out there.

Unfortunately its human nature to always want what you can't have and they play on that. The worse she treats you the more you want her. Turn the tables. Don't pander to her and she will be the one missing you. She sounds like a right bitch with her comment about having fun in manchester. You're better off without her as not all birds are like this. Thing is you gotta experience a naff bird to appreciate a good one. Make no mistake you will get over this, you will meet someone else and you will be happy.

 

Seriously fella, she ain't worth ending ya life over, I know it seem's real painful, and yes it feels horrible, and you feel sick inside, and no matter what anyone say's it ain't gonna make ya feel better, but, and I believe this to be true, if you get through the 1st night apart, then you are good for the rest of ya days Ya m8's will stand by ya as all true m8's do

 

i suffered from bad depression when my girlfreind left me after 6 years and went and got herself pregnant i ended up in hostpital avin my stomach pumped after
takin a full 32 pills and neary dead thats when my m8s all pulled together 4 me and gave me support cos i allways thought their wud be no future 4 me enymore
but ill tell ya this there is m8 so chin up and look forward to ur future

p.s
if u ever need to talk pm me and and u can av my number and we will talk

 

have a read here mate, there will be things you can relate to.......

https://passionford.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=73292

my world is fucked up at the mo, i really do KNOW how you feel right now

 

Bluesmoke...
as a lot have said here - your mates are what is important right now - the real ones will be happy to be leant on hard, and will help...
I don't know u, but i do understand where u r at from my own experience..
PM is there if u want to talk, shout or whatever...

 

Chin up i say lad, in time you will forget all about her

 

you'll be ok mate when im depressed I know its kinda wrong but I always try to think there is someone worse off

chin up m8

 

WELL I IN THE BOAT TO
1 MONTH TODAY MY X BROKE UP WITH ME BECASE I WAS JELOUS OVER A FRIEND
THAT SHE GOT WITH THAT NIGHT
BUT REMEMBER YOU CAN TEXT YOUR X IF YOU WANT MINE WILL NOT CONTACT ME OR LET ME CONTACT HER WHICH IS THE WORST PART AND TO TOP IT ALL OFF I HAVE A X BEFORE THAT WHO ONLY LETS ME SEE MY DAUGHTER TWICE A MONTH AND WHEN I DO MY DAGHTER ASKES FOR MY X I JUST BRAKE DOWN IN FRONT OF MY 5 YEAR OLD BUT REMEMBER SHE LEFT ME I STILL MAKE SURE I WORK I GO OUT AND I GET ON WITH MY LIFE WHY BECAUSE SHE WAS THE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED AND THERE IS
ALL WAYS SOME ONE WORST OFF
AND BETTER OFF
THE MORE IT GETS YOU DOWN (THINGING TIME THE WORST IT SEEMS)
I WORK ON THE DOORS IN PUBS CLUBS AND GOD PEPOLE SAY YOU GET THE GIRLS NO I DONT BUT
I MANAGE TO GIVE THE CONFIDACE THAT I AM OK 2 WEEKS AFTER MY X HAD GONE AND NOT CALLING HER MY X HELPS
AND LAST NIGHT WHILE I WAS WORKING ON THE FRONT DO I DONE TO THINGS I WANTED TO DO
1 PULL A GIRL WITH HER LIP PIRCED
2 GET OF WITH A GIRL WITH THE TOUGUE PIRCED
GREAT TWO DIFFENT GIRLS IN 1 NIGHT AND I WAS WORKING FUCK THE EX THE BETTER ONES ARE OUT THERE
GIVE YOURSELF THE ROOM AND GO FIND THEM
REMEMBER
THE BEST IS YET TO COME
BUT YOU NEED TO MAKE THE TIME TO DO IT I WAS IN MY ROOM FOR TWO WEEKS AND DIDNT DO A THING BUT I THOUGHT FUCK IT I GOT THE CAR I ALWAYS DREAMED OF AND WHY LET HER WIN THERE SO MANY FIT SINGLE GIRLS THERE WHY HAVE ONE WHEN THE WORLD IS OUT THERE rison: AND BORDEM SET A GOAL AND GET IT DO ASAP
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