Almost like asking if your car is RWD when its FWD.

 

yeh my parents didnt build a fund for me and never tought me to respect money either so when i was a teenager i just blew everything, int going to be much Ł25 a week but over 18 years thats alot, just hope he doesnt resent me in the end i guess

 

Yeah my mum brought me up alone and I never had any money of my Dad and its not easy now. I pay my board as my mum doesn't earn alot but together the money keeps us going, although doesn't leave much for me to do anything with.

As said, for something to do I would get a project car mate. Even if you just take it apart clean it up and put it back together then sell it again it will still pass the time and if you are just messing about with it then it shouldn't cost you much.

 

Like I said mate, I'd get in contact with a solicitor, she can't deny you the right to see your child.

At the end of the day, it's upto you. If you feel that he will be better of without you then you can't help that, your feelings could change towards him in 12 months though and you might want more involvement in his life, if you haven't made an effort now then a court/judge will take that into consideration at a later date should you choose to go down some sort of custody route.

Again, if you want any advise or help arranging to see a solicitor let me know, pretty clued up on shit like this since me and the ex broke up, showed her that she can't use him as a bargaining chip to get what she wants.

Big-Dan.

P.S I wasn't suggesting that you don't want to be is father, just telling you that if you want to, you can stand up to her.

 

if u show him you tried mate and u have the trust fund for him i dont think he will resent you, atleast ur try unlike some who would just say fxuck you and walk away

 

i had a 2 month old jack russel, most clunge i ever got, go for it

 

 

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dnt worry fella new wot you meant, i do want to be part of his life but at the same time it will b easier for all to jus take a back seat, its hard and confusin, when im ova the initial break up i'll look into it and be able to make the right decision for both me and my son

 

Good lad, you'll get over her eventually, might take abit of time but these things do.

Anyway, on the work side of things, don't you have your own business or something like that?

Big-Dan.

 

my best mate has all sorts of grief from his ex. they have two girls one is 8 and the other 5yo.
get the visitation rights sorted early, the rights for dads have improved greatly but if you dont do the paperwork now it will cause stress later, you will need to put in effort it sounds like shes being a bitch.

as for the rest of it it just takes time, bit of a hallmark card statement but its true bro

the route we followed with my mate a year ago was to get the job sorted sharp'ish it will built self confidence as it did with him. bit of money in your pocket goes a long way when you want to do something you can just go do it.
tesco asda bus driver whatever to start you off in my experience its easier to move between jobs once your holding a position however lowly it seems.

all the rest drops into place once you build confidence up.

ive been to the brink too, 11 years ago i thought the world had ended when at 22 i broke up with fiance, a 4 year relationship but known each other for much much longer.

took some time out, nailed a few chicks that offered while i was engaged, i declined at the time but with her gone why the hell not!

now years on have a nice flat, a couple of cars, top girlfriend of 9 years with a cracking rack lol

im also overweight and my hair is running away from my face, maybe me and Big-Dan should start a sub forum, anyway more support your way, times the healer

 

no never took really, with plenty of agencies and apply for every job i can do, i'm gettin some money in jan and i'll use it to do my class 2 license, be a lot easier with that, i can go back into recovery work and get the funds to vacate ipswich then

 

If I was in your situation I would spend all my free time fighting for my son.

Fuck her and her new hero fella its your child thats important and you have rights. Go to the CAB and find some legal aid. Do whatever it takes to ensure you are in your childs life. He will be the one thing that makes you smile. When all else is bad in the world your children have a way of righting those wrongs. Something simple like a smile or giggle or just saying a new word etc and your heart melts.

I would also look into the name change thing. Can she do that? Even if she can she cannot stop you seeing him!

In 18 years time, when hes grown up not knowing who is father is do you think he will give a fuck about a little money you've put aside? I wouldn't. The emotional turmoil and hatred from a kid that doesn't know their dad has no price! He will take your money, think your a cunt for not fighting for him, and run. Sorry if that sounds harsh but its the stark reality of the situation. Without being in his life you will not really mean anything to him at 18.

Fight man!!!!!!