Mr S1

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Well, I am.......and I was talking to one of the lads at work today who's married. He says he misses being able to go out when he wants, do what he wants etc and said he envies me. I countered that by saying that's all well and good, but when all your mates are shacked up / married with kids getting a night out is a real struggle, and I seem to spend alot of time on my own. I've got plenty of people I know, but I said that I find it really hard to get out and meet new people being the only one in my circle who is single. He couldn't grasp what I was saying, and thinks I'm out every weekend and end up in bed with a different women and I assured him I don't !

Anyone else in the same boat and struggle as well ?

RichardPON

More importantly, you want to ask yourself why you're NOT ending up with different women all the time!

pee vee

cos we aint all that confident, Mr Pon lol

I'm not over 30.. but know what your saying mate. kinda anyway. lol

fuzzy

best of both worlds would be married but still ending up in bed with 1 nighters every weekend.

Ginge !

im in a relationship and still manage to go out when i want, the missus does too

ok we both end up in the same bed at the end of the night,,,, but tbh when i was single there was a 10% chance of me getting laid,,,,,,,, prob less

so i wouldnt change things,,, its important to still go out and be normal like others though or you will start to resent the relationship i guess,,, but what do i know as ive been with my missus since i was 21 i think

rssteve

yes it otally agree with you, im currently single and don't do anything that i think may make me meet new people. All my friends are currently in relationships and im not the sort of person to chat someone up anyway, unless im pissed of course.

Mr S1

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I just found my mates attitude a bit strange. I know they always say the grass is greener on the other side and all that, but...............

I agree entirely Ginge - you have to have your own space and your own life. Agree totally.

Ginge !

think people take thing for granted, being single is good if all your mates are single,,, once they all paired up its awkward, its worse if you are all a big "couples" group

a guy i work with has split with hes missus,,,,,,,, best thing for him as she was a lazy leach !!!, but he gets down with the " i miss cuddling up to someone at night " thing

i gave him a " give up smoking" selection of stress toys to keep hes hands busy,,,, i told him i dont want him going blind

hes getting on with things now,,, but he is having it hard still i think

JohnnyB

i have the best of both worlds

christianh3

Im in that boat through choice, happily single have been since last august'ish. One thing i do miss now im this age is not having kiddies....yet. I'm sure i will when the time is right, would rather do it properly than do it for the sake of it and end up unhappy in a broken home.

Mr S1 do not think you're over the hill mate you'd be surprised at the number of ladies 10 years our junior who would be interested (if you want a younger bird that is!)....just keep positive keep fit try and look well things will fall into place.... i.e. dont moan about having no bird meeting no-one if you're a fat smelly jobless 30+ yr old etc

Ginge !

nevera truer word said,,,,,, but i would also remind people IN RELATIONSHIPS to keep this in mind,,, i started to try and work on things when the misus mentioned ive gone a little too far,,, made me think tbh as id rather her WANT to be with me than be with me out of habit,,,, and should things change,,,,,, where would i THEN be,,,,,, wa hard enough getting a bird in the first place being ginger pmsl

if it makes any of you feel better ITS A FACT THERES A MAN SHORTAGE !!!, theres people out there with 4 birds on the go regular aswell as other things that come by

when ive seen people doing this i wonder why others are single tbh

christianh3

totally agree.... and something i usually forget..... i'm a dream machine when single and a fat bastard 6 months into a relationship......no wonder i usually get the push first LOL

Mr S1

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quality Ginge

Christian - nah, that ain't me mate. I work hard, got my own place, cars, money etc so some lazy fucker who's got fuck all I'm not - at all.

Stavros

Id fucking hate to be the only one of a load of mates who is single. If they at the stage where they not going out etc anyhow.

But then again id fucking hate to be shacked up with some bird just because "i dont wanna be single" even worse.

Dig some new mates up.

fuzzy

but your just a cunt and im jealous as fuck

christianh3

Wasn't suggesting you was mate.... something will turn up, like stavros said try some new buddies, just keep yourself well, out & about, and as bufty as you can without turning into a gaylord and it'll all come good. Just be yourself relax have lad and girl mates. Take this as me bragging (cos i am lol) there's a bird at my works 22 not a stunner but well worth seeing to she is doing all the running not cos im whatever its just because im showing no romantic interest although i am being friendly polite etc.... women dont understand "happily single blokes" you become a conquest lol.... thing is i really am happily single.

Mr S1

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I was just wondering if I was the only one.......I'm not particularly worried about it too much right now, it just came up at work today. I was friendly with a women, who has gone all odd over the last few days and now won't talk to me or anything, which is how the subject came up in the first place. I spent half the weekend just gone with her and she was a good as gold !!

Odd.

fuzzy

if you spent half the weekend with her and she was good, the fact she's not talking now suggests that perhaps she didnt rate you as highly?

Ginge !

mate dont try to work women out EVER, they are a simple breed who never know what they want,,, look after em and they fuck you over,,,,, be average/ treat em a little harsh at times and they seem to stay happier ???

maybe blokes are the same,, i dont know

but when ANYONE goes cold towards me its time to fuck them off,,, let them come back !

NEVER EVER run after a bird !

Mr S1

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3 weekends on the trot suggest differently mate.......which is what is odd ! I'm not particularly bothered, more pissed off about it ! I ain't running after her. But noooo way.

Katie

The law of three good weekends in a row states that it's now cycle time...and not the bike variety

Mr S1

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matts1

I think the point about staying trim and having a decent job is a good one. At 30 tbh your at the ideal age.

You have a huge range of birds to choose from, from the 20 year old to the 35 year old. The key is meeting these people....

Right, first up and going back to the first point, looking good, ALWAYS have smart clothes, clean shaved, good hair cut and smelling nice. I would also strongly suggest you take a good look at your teeth, women look at teeth and shoes, make sure both are as good as possible.

Be nice and smiley to every bird you meet, not overly, just confident and cheery. You may end up running into them from time to time, and a happy personality and smart dress makes for someone they will be more willing to talk to.

Next up - NEVER blank people, you may have mates of mates, or minker birds you know, if you see them,chat to them SO many times I have met women through a friend of a friend etc - more chance of doors opening if you chat to more people.

so many people are single and are crying out to meet a partner, but everyones is a little nervy, so you just have to be a confident happy person that people feel at ease around.

If you tend to meet no one day to day, then don't shy away from singles clubs, my sister does it, 10 - 20 people men and women go off on rambles, meals out, bowling etc etc - now you might not meet your partner on them, but you may make new friends, who introduce you to their friends, family etc, and you never know, your new mates cousin, sister, sisters mate etc etc may be the one!!

As said, it is about getting a larger cirlce of friends, meeting more people and having a relaxed happy attitude that makes people feel at ease.

Then you can get into a relationship and a year on the sex will be less frantic, the maoning more regular and you'll be saying to your single mates " I envie you, go out when you want etc etc"

DazC

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So, does your mates other halfs not let them out at the weekend for a night out then? Or go out with them?

Charlie Chalk

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Im 24 in June, I don't do to bad when it comes to getting a lay, but I get bored of it, same meat, same taste...


I need something different and more often

mechanic28

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i am close to 30 fella and in the same sort of boat!pleased i aint alone in this tho!

dovboy

loads going on in this thread,1. if you are 30 you have a load of mates(ones you have not seen since early 20's)who will be breaking up with there partners right about now! you can go out on the town with them!

+you can go looking for a famale without it being the search for a wife!!

++ if you are cripplingly shy remember there will be much the same type of women out in the same places as you ,just make the move they can only say no!**you dont hang yourself at this point**.

Mr S1

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This thread is now making me laugh it isn't a divorced and desperates post I'm just wondered if I was the only one who thought it was all 'odd'

Paddy

When the fuck did you decide you like women???

Gary F

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Steven_RW

31 and single. Not got lots of mates who are single nowadays either.

Call it risky, call it madness, but match.com is quite entertaining. I have met a few nice girls through it. Take some time putting up a profile tho as most guys profiles make them look like fucking idiots

Good luck with that

RW

Nath

Whenever your looking for something, it'll never find you

Less.

single but then i am ugly and broke,shy thick and a short arse

Nath

You've had a girlfriend before so go and get another one

Less.

i have a few gfs nath not looking at the min and always seem to find one when i not looking

with my charm and wit and being hu8ng like a horse (okay I admit its a sea horse) shouldnt be too hard to find another lol

Nath

Well on the plus side and after reading that Stu won't have any problems at all ...providing she's CYCLED past her best after date

DanCossie

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i would hope to be with a long term partner by the time im 35 but i cant see it happening at all

gingeRS

i'm single now, have been for over a year after a 5 year relationship, and last year was great, loads of single buddies around, getting plenty of skirt....couldnt complain at all

and then christmas rolled round....the girl i was seeing went travelling for 18 months, my flatmate went travelling with my brother (my best drinking buddys) and my other best mate met a new girl.

now i'm back living with my parents, most of my friends are paired off, and i havent even got a shag at the minute

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