skeg

I'm with Ginge on this one. People may say that you only get one mum and dad but they won't know the true ins and outs, besides Thrush did say he was keeping it short, not going into detail.

Carfixz made another good point when he said "eveyone gets a biological father but it takes a hell of a lot more than that to be a Dad".

As for the money/presents thing, well its the oldest trick in the book to get you on side, if all else fails that usually has more sucess, be it money a car or whatever and it seems in this case as well, it has! You are thinking about him probably more than you have before.

If you don't get on and can't get over this for certain then you should stick to you guns. What you do with the money is irrelevant if they don't have the desired affect he wants. Also if he will remain in contact with the others then you can always re-establish contact, not as if you are an only child so NO, its not your last chance.

Mrs T

you already seem to know what you want to do,

dont have any regrets thou

st3v3

Yeah people do get only one mum and dad,im sure he didnt want to leave the kids but only your mom maybe.

do think he may be hurting inside aswell??

You have way bigger issues to sort out here other than a couple of cards,infact the cards are in reallity are nothing at all other than bits of paper.

The fact that he's trying to get back in to your life does show that he has regret,there might be a day when you actually feel different to how you do now....that day might be a day too late.

Hope you get things sorted.
steve.

biglee

my dad left the family a little over a year ago now, i thoght he would be with my mum forever....they were together for over 25 years..

he hurt everyone and i was absolutly sure i hated him because of what he did to my mum and family.. never wanted to see him again.

untill i bit the bullet and went to talk to him and tell him how he had fucked it all up... i listend to what he had to say and why he did what he did and to cut a long story short i now have more to do with him than i ever have, and i know why he did what he did and i would probably have done the same...

you should face him out and get it off your chest.. its not good to live your life hurting and wondering,.. your and his life is short...

Thrush

iTrader: (1)

Again, thanks for the rples, but there is a good point worth noting hee;

I DON'T WANT TO SEE HIM AGAIN.

My life is a lot more peacefull and stable with him gone, and I'm happy with how it is.

st3v3

fine then throw the cards away and forget it, how simple can it be.
If you dont/cant open the cards give them to your sister,she will open them,then go put the money in a charity tin.

Harris.

Send him the money back then and be done with it, its not hard!!!

Graham S1

Thrush.. you don't have kids do you? So that's one thing you won't be able to understand, is the feelings for your children, that are very hard to ignore.

Not sure what to say really, apart from I'd give anything for another 5 mins chat with my old man. If he passed away tomorrow, would you regret not speaking to him again?