How many of you are 'old' free and single?
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Just curious to see how many of you beyond say 35 are single due to divorce etc...?
May be joining you very soon (seriously) if she doesn't stfu
May be joining you very soon (seriously) if she doesn't stfu
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Originally Posted by roybacer
My mum and dad are both in there late 40's and divorced
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Spadge. women never stfu. you should know that the 3rd time round ![Surprised](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/bigcry.gif)
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This one is the longest at 7/8 (fooked if i know exactly) years and i swear if it wasn't for my son (whom i love dearly
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Guys don't get all mournfull on me please if it happens it happens life goes on and all that
Only thing that really concerns me is my son
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Originally Posted by SPADGE
Originally Posted by roybacer
My mum and dad are both in there late 40's and divorced
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but moved out of home when i was 17 due to them
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So tbh i dont think it effected me in anyway really, other then some debt from renting when i was on shite money
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tbh i cant think of that many of my good mates whose parents are actually still together
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Gotta agree with Spadge it doe's get messy mate and is well fucked up when there are kids involved I split from my ex ex mrs 6 years ago my girls are 9 and 11 and she is still a bitch now
Fucking heart breaking mate
Iv'e just got over a ban from seeing the girls and now its fucked up again
Stupid bint
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Fucking heart breaking mate
Iv'e just got over a ban from seeing the girls and now its fucked up again
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Stupid bint
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Spadge, dont take this the wrong way fella, but if your not happy, and both not getting on, that type of envirement want be good for the little one.
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...
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Originally Posted by staffi
Spadge, dont take this the wrong way fella, but if your not happy, and both not getting on, that type of envirement want be good for the little one.
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...![Sad](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...
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I know mate and he is such a dear little lad
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Problem is i truly believe i would be a better 'full time' parent for him if he could only have one of us
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Problem in this day and age as always is that i no doubt will have very few rights as regards my son regardless of who is better suited as a parent due purely to the fact that i am male
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Its about time in this age of equality that the laws regarding parental rights were brought up to date and men wern't discriminated against just for being men
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Thanks for the rest of your replys i have read them all!
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Agree 100% mate, laws are a joke
Kids lively hoods we are talking about here, its time something was done
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People slate those dads that climb Buckingham Palace to protest, but thats the only way they are heard...........for fuck sake, they only want to see the children...........
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Kids lively hoods we are talking about here, its time something was done
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People slate those dads that climb Buckingham Palace to protest, but thats the only way they are heard...........for fuck sake, they only want to see the children...........
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Originally Posted by SPADGE
Originally Posted by staffi
Spadge, dont take this the wrong way fella, but if your not happy, and both not getting on, that type of envirement want be good for the little one.
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...![Sad](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
Iknow its shit having to split, but kids pick up on atmospheres and rows...
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Problem is i truly believe i would be a better 'full time' parent for him if he could only have one of us
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Problem in this day and age as always is that i no doubt will have very few rights as regards my son regardless of who is better suited as a parent due purely to the fact that i am male
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Its about time in this age of equality that the laws regarding parental rights were brought up to date and men wern't discriminated against just for being men
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Thanks for the rest of your replys i have read them all!
I've a friend who had to go through hell and high water to have access to his kids because of a psycho wife
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Sometimes it works reasonably well, sometimes, it doesn't - tough choice to make.
Might be worth seeking experience from folks who are from divorced parents, or parents who stayed together despite their lack of "interest" in each other to see how they lived it, and maybe help you make a decision for the better of the lil' one.
MrsFrog lived through a similar thing (as a kid) for 12 years until her parents eventually divorced. She says that whatever and however her parents tried to hide, the fact they weren't getting on wasn't lost on her as a kid.
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I stayed with her about XX years longer than I should have because of the kids.
My 21 yr old Step-daughter and 17 yr old son both chose to stay with me as they can't get on with her either.
I know it's different for you as your lad is still young.
But as has been said they both knew there was a tension between us at times.
Might be worth sitting down and telling her how you feel first and try to sort it after all at worst you would just seperate anyway, at best you could sort it out.
Good luck either way.
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I stayed with her about XX years longer than I should have because of the kids.
My 21 yr old Step-daughter and 17 yr old son both chose to stay with me as they can't get on with her either.
I know it's different for you as your lad is still young.
But as has been said they both knew there was a tension between us at times.
Might be worth sitting down and telling her how you feel first and try to sort it after all at worst you would just seperate anyway, at best you could sort it out.
Good luck either way.
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i would say try and work things out,and it takes a lot of dedication from both of you, if all fails i dont think it is good for the child to be in a bad atmosphere,if you are arguing a lot ,dont do it in front of your son,it is hard not to but bite hard on your lip!
i split up from my girlfriend after 9 years,she run off with another man,and although i hate her i never slag her off in front of my kids,i have them every weekend and always try and ask how mummy is,and try and seem interested in her,it makes things better for them!
think of your son and yourself,and be the best daddy you can be for him,but you must make sure you look after yourself,trust me ive been on my own since begining of december and i am so content now,and my kids are very happy,and love it when they come over to stay at weekends
hope thats some help mate! regards phil
i split up from my girlfriend after 9 years,she run off with another man,and although i hate her i never slag her off in front of my kids,i have them every weekend and always try and ask how mummy is,and try and seem interested in her,it makes things better for them!
think of your son and yourself,and be the best daddy you can be for him,but you must make sure you look after yourself,trust me ive been on my own since begining of december and i am so content now,and my kids are very happy,and love it when they come over to stay at weekends
hope thats some help mate! regards phil
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Hi Spadge i have read some of your other posts and thought you was abit of a coont
firstly would like to apologize for that as after reading this you seem v.sound. Secondly im not sure how old your lad is but when i was 10 my parents separated (lived with my mum)and ever since (now 24)my relationship with my dad has grown stronger. He is now like a best mate and i see him at least twice a week also he has just helped me build my 3dr. So i wouldnt worry to much about what is going to happen as im sure whatever happens you and you lad will be fine.
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Not going to reply to individuals as i'll be here all night but thanks very much for all your advice and support
It is a sticky time and to be honest has been getting progresivly worse since our son was born very prematurely 2.5 years ago. He is a great little lad and seems so far to have got this far unscathed by the obvious atmosphere between myself and the wife but i am sure i see a bit of worry on his face sometimes
The situation isn't helped and if anything been made worse since the wife decided to start doing a different shift pattern at work which involves working stupid times from 3pm until 2am
Its on a 4 day on 4 day off rotation but she needs a min of 8 hours sleep every night and turns into a real fookin freak if this is cut short! I tried to get her to not start it in the 1st place but her being a stubborn fooker just went ahead and did it any way.
Getting time without our son around to have any sort of chat let alone a lengthy discusion isn't easy due to the above but i'm going to make damned sure it happens in the next day or two and get this sorted one way or another.
Thanks again for your input and all the support
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PS. cossie350 i can be a coont at times and boredom often plays its part in that! but please don't judge a book soley by its internet cover
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Not going to reply to individuals as i'll be here all night but thanks very much for all your advice and support
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The situation isn't helped and if anything been made worse since the wife decided to start doing a different shift pattern at work which involves working stupid times from 3pm until 2am
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Getting time without our son around to have any sort of chat let alone a lengthy discusion isn't easy due to the above but i'm going to make damned sure it happens in the next day or two and get this sorted one way or another.
Thanks again for your input and all the support
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PS. cossie350 i can be a coont at times and boredom often plays its part in that! but please don't judge a book soley by its internet cover
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get someone to babysit your lad and take your missis out somewhere where you can have a sit down and a good chat
just being able to relax together will be a help in itself
goodluck with whatever you decide to do
just being able to relax together will be a help in itself
goodluck with whatever you decide to do
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Originally Posted by T28 RST
Spadge is this you in the back ground of this pic, i was told it was you but dont know
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That is Ian3door's wife Deb next to me together with his 3 door and my moonstone saff in the back ground
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get someone to babysit your lad and take your missis out somewhere where you can have a sit down and a good chat
just being able to relax together will be a help in itself
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just being able to relax together will be a help in itself
goodluck with whatever you decide to do
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Havn't been out on our own for over 2 years
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I'll give it a go mate and cheers for your advice and support!
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Couldnt resist taking the pic of Elvis
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Elvis and co got lost in Cumbria and asked if they could follow me to the show 200 yards from the entrance
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Genuinely sorry to read this Spadge... ![Sad](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
Ive been here and done this myself, and know a lot about how much "Right" you have, and its virtually nil mate, virtually nil. However, the fact your married gives you far more right than i had as an unmarried father, even though we had lived together and fathered 2 children over almost 12years.
I fought my ex for custody of mine and only got to see them after 2years of aggro and grief, and still today we argue over bugger all and there is always a horrible air about teh place when we are together, its grim for all concerned.![Sad](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
I do have access now and have the girls every other weekend and over teh school holidays etc, so all is well again, but largely only because they grew up and started making demans the mother couldnt meet, both mentally and financially. I almost won by default and not by right...
I think you need to find someone to watch Elliot whilst you go out for a night, or ideally a weekend. Make her aware of how low your feeling and hope she puts as much value on a good frank discussion as you are obviously prepared to. If she doesnt, you have problems as we both know a stubborn woman wont stay in teh room long enough to hear your screams, let alone hold a discussion.![Sad](https://passionford.com/forum/images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
All the best for teh coming weeks fella...
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Ive been here and done this myself, and know a lot about how much "Right" you have, and its virtually nil mate, virtually nil. However, the fact your married gives you far more right than i had as an unmarried father, even though we had lived together and fathered 2 children over almost 12years.
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I fought my ex for custody of mine and only got to see them after 2years of aggro and grief, and still today we argue over bugger all and there is always a horrible air about teh place when we are together, its grim for all concerned.
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I do have access now and have the girls every other weekend and over teh school holidays etc, so all is well again, but largely only because they grew up and started making demans the mother couldnt meet, both mentally and financially. I almost won by default and not by right...
I think you need to find someone to watch Elliot whilst you go out for a night, or ideally a weekend. Make her aware of how low your feeling and hope she puts as much value on a good frank discussion as you are obviously prepared to. If she doesnt, you have problems as we both know a stubborn woman wont stay in teh room long enough to hear your screams, let alone hold a discussion.
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All the best for teh coming weeks fella...
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