I dont very often put my personal life on a forum but im feeling so down at the mo i just need to get things out and didnt know what to do, ive moved into a new area and know no one and my friends dont wanna know.

Nearly a year ago i was having breathing problems which at first was thought to be plurisy but after biopsys and endless tests i have been diagnosed with non small cell lung cancer i have had one course of chemo before xmas and have now started my second course to try and shrink it.

I feel so drained and ill all the time its starting to do me in and i proper feel like giving up, im trying to keep my head up but its so hard trying to do it on my own.

sorry to go on just needed to get it out

maybe i can sleep now

 

feel for you mate, it must be hard. Is there nobody about at all? Even for a couple of jars every so often.

 

Mate, which area are you in? I'm sure there are events and stuff going on which you could attend and be made to feel welcome at..


Cheers,
Grant

 

what about your family bud?

 

just hang in there mate life is hard i was going thru a shit period for ages but th last few days ive decided not to be a victim and sort my life out...n now things are looking up! things can only get better mate just hang in there

 

Does it compare with this blokes? Ie cancer.

 

What area are you in? There are over 100,000 shoulders to cry on on PassionFord.

Get to know people on here in your local area? Dress in a nurses outfit and you stand a chance with ALOT of the old pervy homo's! (Lambchip on his shoulder for example )

 

obv not - why twist it tho? im only trying to be supportive!

 

keep positive mate ,theirs lots of people on here happy to help you out,


cheers james

 

I wasnt mate, just thought if it was you could bring out some positives. Everybody needs someone whos been there from time to time

 

oh and as rick said where are you? Bound to be a few off here that'll fancy a beer or two

 

yup!

+1

give up and its all over

 

long story but i lost all my family, always been on my own and coped just this time i cant find the strength to do it

 

Hang in there mate, someone from this forum will no doubt be in your area and take you out for a few jars

 

Where are you mate?

 

wiltshire

 

A bit too far from me mate, well to have a couple of pints any meets near you? Rsoc or the likes

 

Chin up, must be very hard but as said probably loads of people around that area willing to do whatever, go cruising, go for a jar or 10, go pussy hunting....I mean, who's not up for that?????

 

My missus, apparantly its not the done thing. Wtf!

 

keep your head up mate

 

Keep your chin up mate, Wiltshire seems like a really nice place whenever I've been there.

Are you completely alone or do you have any kids or a Mrs you can talk to? Do you work at the moment?

Big-Dan.

 

Chin up mate, I know its easy to say but only you can make yourself feel better about the situation your in right now....as said theres plenty of people here on PassionFord that you can call on, i've been through some right ups and downs recently and even kind words from others can gave me that boost to keep soldiering on and see itthrough to the other side.

I can only imagine what it feels like to be alone in a new town, i'm looking to move away by myself somewhere different this year to get away from the arseholes/shit stirrers/general idiots in the town I live in- it'll be a big change but worth it in the end.

Now I dont know what your into but im sure there'll be some local meets or similar in your area, they might not be your thing but would be good for you in a social aspect.....even get yourself down the local and get chatting to some randoms!

Hope things look up for you mate and you getthings sorted in good time.

Paul

 

if your feeling down you need to go to your doctors they can help you
out iv not been as strong because my mum died of cancer. i no it must be hard for you i also go to meets twice a week to talk about things its helping me out and these people no what your going through if you feel down or need to talk drop me a pm or your number chin up

 

Todays a new day.
Get out of the house, go to you local church say hello, all non christians are more than welcome, talk it over with the vicar/minister/priest. You are not alone. Not far from you are people who care about you and will listen and help.

 

hahahaha


Get fucked, fucking religion is the answer? PLEASE!

 

Sorry i forgot to type to the OP!

DK
Chin up mate, i bete there is someone here in your neck of the woods! I'm scottish and a million miles away. I don't even know where wiltshire is. I guess middle to bottom left of england? you could offer me Ł1M to name a town there and i'd be fucked
Why have you moved areas? Is it far? Why aren't mates interested? Sorry to hear that Maybe time for new friends!

Good luck mate.

 

Because the answer is ???? Get fucked
I can't argue with that well thought out reasoned reply.
What time does your special bus arrive at to take you back?

 

Aye ok! Go and waste your life praying to something that isnt there!

DK. My Dad was diagnosed with this 2 years ago. It had also spread to his shoulder and pelvis. He had the chemo and a bit of radio, and 2 years on he is still here and doing well. I didnt think he would with what i had been told He has put weight on and at the last checkup the cancer had shrunken even more!

Good luck with it all, and stay positive. My Dad was determined to beat it, and whilst it will never completely go away, he is still doing very good. You would have thought he would have thrown the towel in having just overcome prostate cancer too the year before !

 

Come on then you tell me why it's such a good idea to have some fucking weird religious cunts fucking with his head and telling him that some made up mystical cunt in the sky is watching over him and "protecting" him

Then we'll continue

 

Nothing to do with that at all mate.
If you actually read the original post D.K. is alone with no one to talk to. You aren't actually going to drive down there yourself nor am I. If the guys about to top himself the one place you can go, for sure, and receive a sympathetic ear and a cup of tea is the local 'weird religious cunts'.

Nothing to do with religion or even close to it. Just someone to talk to, face to face, which is what I thought DK was after.

 

Fair comment, and a valid one at that.

Im not afraid to admit I went to church a few times when I felt alone in the world, I genuinley felt lonely and dropped in to my local one. Although I werent interested in the religion side of it, it did help to have someone to talk to.

 

Who said going to church has to be revolved around religion?! might not be the answer BUT if he doesnt have anyone to talk 2 there as always people there who will, u dont have to become catholic or start attending church every week, start praying everyday or even beleive in or give a shit about god, but churches always have people to talk about ANYTHING and its a shit load better than rigning a phone line trying to get help, or bottling it up and doing nothing about it..........

As said mate if u have no mates in the area hopefully a few people on here might be local and can help out etc or try other forums with interests like urs who have meets etc in ur area.

No comparrison to what ur going thru but ive been having health problems since i was 17 which still cause me problems now (i'll be 30 in april) to the point if it doesnt get better soon i may have to look at giving up my job at McLaren ive had for the last nearly 5yrs as i suffer with tiredness and have to commute 90miles each day and struggle to get to work for 7.30 each morning!! I've gone thru many highs and lows over the years and in the past spent alot of time on my own, but deff found coming onto places like this and chatting to people can help take ur mind off things!!

Also in all seriousness if ur looking to meet someone as in relationship wise but are struggling have u tried somewhere like match.com?! someone i work with was telling me the other day, basically he was married and they have now seperated but still have the house and live together so obviously is hard for him to meet anyone else and a mate of his told him to sign up and he did for a laugh, and was surprised how many people were genuinely on there in his area!! He has now met a really tidy blonde girl off there who is in a similar situation ie married but seperated and they seem really happy together, and he was only on there a few weeks so shows sites like that do work!!

 

oops double posted

 

Thanks for the advice and support guys, Ive woke up this morning in a new frame of mind ive been through to much to let some shit arsed cancer get the better of me im gonna fight it all the way im to young to go just yet (26 next week)
I had a misses but that ended recently i was meant to move in with her and have a fresh start and stuff but it went wrong and i ended up going it alone. Things have been a bit crap since i lost my son nearly 3 years ago they say times a healer but its not got any easier yet.

But hey ho no point dwelling on it lifes to short and im a free lad and if i aint got much time left im gonna make sure i live it to the max!!
Pussy hunting here i come

 

Thats the spirit lad!

On a serious note, if you want to chat i'm only a PM away.