I recently split with my partner of 4 yrs whom i still love dearly, shes moving on quickly as they do and i have ended up hyrting my mates in various manners by being totally paranoid and plain dumb as fuck. can you tell me if a m8 can forgive you if you accused him of having something to do with her several times. My head is in my arse and cant see a way forward.

 

Drinking is great in this kind of situation. Go to the pub and come back at about 4am. Life will make much more sense after 30 pints of laaaaager!

 

trust i have tried that but then im an easy target for chavs and steriod users in the clubs and pubs in my shitty city.
need to find a sober suggestion to try and reolve my dumbass mistakes other than swinging from a noose.

 

drinking is no answer and dont even joke about suicide!!

are you still talking to your mate? if so just go round his and lay your cards on the table - honesty is best policy!

 

ive told him exactly how stupid i was for even thinking so and other m8s i have upset to, i have layed the full deck but he says he dosent believe me and also says that i will continue to be the same. the thing is i stuck by him when he was down to the bottom and he said he hadnt forgotten but i am at a loose end to how i can make it up to him. we were like brothers once surley it can be different if he is willing to let go of the hurtfull things i said. i dont joke about things of a serious nature and i have a healthy fear of death. but when you work completely alone, come home to your empty gaff and family are far from local you tend to get a bit desperate.but all said and done life is for living i am just having a really tuff time trying to get my head around how i had it all good and now its shit, i am a nice person but have turned quite paranoid and dellussional of late.

 

Admiting your mistakes is the first step

Time is the only thing you need now

PS dont listen to me im pissed out my face and need to fuck dirty sluttys

 

If you really were like brothers once then surely he misses that kind of friendship

And if youve apologized numerous times and he still wont have it then Id be wondering why not , maybe you werent wrong about him after all and him keeping you out the way and wanting nothing to do with you is easier

 

i have always found ..........follow your instincts works best, he is supposed to be a mate and he is being a bit of a coont if he knows your having it bad and not understanding, look at the psychology of him, he is steering the blame to you........you accuse him of something, he makes you feel guilty, you apoligise, he doesn't accept it, you go on major guilt trip....
REASONS
1 he did bang your missus and is trying to hide the fact
2 he is not an actual mate, as mates understand
3 he is not a mate, me and mine used to always rally round who had just been dumped

just phone him, go out for a beer, get him right on your side, throw some curveballs at him "it wouldn't of mattered if you had, because your mate" type of ones........if he is pissed enough and you are convincing enough, he will come clean and then you can take all you pent up agression out on him by giving him the beating of his life

if he don't admit it, he probalby didn't do it and if he did you ain't ever going to know!! so just get on with it, find a new bird..and keep it real

 

from my experience with mates like this, some dont like to talk about it. (blokes will be blokes!) actions speak louder than words, just try and go back to the relationship you had before to show him you've changed.

everyones different tho, you probably know him best and what to do!

best of luck with it

 

DONKEY SEX

 

The guy im talikng about lost his girl to his best mate so i feel he would never do that to another (as he quoted).But him not understanding that right now im freaking out big style because ive lost my life with my partner and that i am bound to be very distrusting to all. Im only human and gawd only knows. Thanks to all for valuable advice, im sure he may read this all as he goes on p/ford CheeRS lads and ladettes

 

I'm still spending time with my ex and we get on well but she has lied to me on numerous occassions and i've always caught on. its funny how some peoples body language screams at ya

 

drop her like a stone or she will walk all over you........

when you find a new bird, you 'll get fooked from noon till nite for the 1st 6 mnths........tis great

enjoy it matey, don't look back in anger, look forward

 

A true mate will always forgive you. Splitting up from a long term partner shouldn't always make you distrust people. It is hard, it does hurt, but it will get better and you will move on too, may just take some time

Z

 

a true mate will forgive but it also depends on what you said to him.

 

tis in my thread! Anyhoo ppl that are stubborn about accepting the deepest apologies obviously as i read earlier have 3 possibilities and i hope that i dont find that my stupid isnt a reality as i would be frightened of the consequences.

 

Any mate who wont accept a geunine apology is just a tosser not worth knowing IMHO

 

ive decided now just to cut loose and knock it on the head with caring about it.like youve all pointed out a mate that can be a m8 aint nowt but a stranger and right now i need genuine people to just have good convos and a laff to keep me from going loopy loo. Today i found out my dad has angina and it upset me to think that family means the mostand not to worry as some m8's do come and go but true ones stand by.thank you passionford peeps you have been a real help and god bless you all.

 

Tell your mate youve gone battin for the other side and want to bum him, he will listen then

 

What he said

 

 

put in true words, she lied to me upon lies and now am beginning a new way of life.my friend has been round just a moment ago and it was great to see him. he understands what ive been going thru and that i was talking out of my arse a while back. i no know i have to focus on getting better and travelling some to find myself. fair do's to all for advice your all i repeat all SOUND in my books