MET A NEW BIRD.................bit of advice needed please..
05-05-2007, 03:33 AM
#1
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
MET A NEW BIRD.................bit of advice needed please..
Hi all as most of u know i split with the wife oct last yr took it really bad and was really down for a bit but pulled out and got on with my life anyways this week got chatting to a girl on aol whos gone through the same 9 months ago(ex cheating on her)...........anyways exchanged pics and spoke for hours(on computer) and after the 1st night were im'ing for 5 hours next day morning 7 hours abd evening 5 hours we've got so much in common its untrue she really likes me made her laugh and put a smile on her face 1st time since her split,ive text her and spoke to her aswell 
shes an ex paramedic and wants to go back to uni to study forensic science/criminology so shes go brains!! .....shes a nice 28 5' 2"!!(im 30 and 6' 4"lol)girl size 10 36D blonde 
lives in chorley at the mo (3hrs from me) but shes soon moving to sandhurst (45 miles from me 
)....she wants to meet up and come down to mine (by herself)etc...............thing is she has 3 kids 8yrs/2yrs/9months......................her ex is a complete cock and doesnt give a shit about her...he has the kids every other weekend and pays her money etc....she very independant so shes not looking for a meal ticket etc......shes just a really nice girl whos been through what ive been through and says shed never do it to me/anyone etc...she wouldnt mind me working away as shes got the kids and its only 4-5 days at a time which is great .....i personnely dont mind(yet) bout the kids but some advice from u guys would be much apreciated ....please no piss taking i really like her and would just like some guidance please, thanks all 
................and im smiling aswell
shes an ex paramedic and wants to go back to uni to study forensic science/criminology so shes go brains!! .....shes a nice 28 5' 2"!!(im 30 and 6' 4"lol)girl size 10 36D blonde lives in chorley at the mo (3hrs from me) but shes soon moving to sandhurst (45 miles from me )....she wants to meet up and come down to mine (by herself)etc...............thing is she has 3 kids 8yrs/2yrs/9months......................her ex is a complete cock and doesnt give a shit about her...he has the kids every other weekend and pays her money etc....she very independant so shes not looking for a meal ticket etc......shes just a really nice girl whos been through what ive been through and says shed never do it to me/anyone etc...she wouldnt mind me working away as shes got the kids and its only 4-5 days at a time which is great .....i personnely dont mind(yet) bout the kids but some advice from u guys would be much apreciated ....please no piss taking i really like her and would just like some guidance please, thanks all ................and im smiling aswell
05-05-2007, 06:09 AM
#3
BANNED
BANNED
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Surrey BUT IF UR A FIT WOMEN
Posts: 4,185
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Been there done that
Sep 05
meet on the net same day i chatted god a stunner
160miles away got out off the car thought OMFG
see her every weekend for a month
then stayed three day nights
then
Dec 05
Moved in
took the kids to school every morning cooked you name it the the girl changed so
Jan 06 6 weeks later moved out and over
Sep 05
meet on the net same day i chatted god a stunner
160miles away got out off the car thought OMFG
see her every weekend for a month
then stayed three day nights
then
Dec 05
Moved in
took the kids to school every morning cooked you name it the the girl changed so
Jan 06 6 weeks later moved out and over
Trending Topics
rison:
05-05-2007, 07:18 AM
#15
20K+ Super Poster.
Depends how you feel about kids, if you like kids go for, it otherwise forget it.
Personally I love kids so would not bother me, I consider it a bonus!!
Would be a very big change to your life with kids as you are responsible for them and their mistakes!!
If you are able to do the comitment thing then go ahead, remember it will hit you financially as well, as kids clothes etc come first, car 2nd.
I hope it all works out for, why not try a holiday all together first to see how it all goes ?
Best of luck.
tabetha
Personally I love kids so would not bother me, I consider it a bonus!!
Would be a very big change to your life with kids as you are responsible for them and their mistakes!!
If you are able to do the comitment thing then go ahead, remember it will hit you financially as well, as kids clothes etc come first, car 2nd.
I hope it all works out for, why not try a holiday all together first to see how it all goes ?
Best of luck.
tabetha
05-05-2007, 07:28 AM
#16
you and her getting it on doesn't seem to be a problem, but how are her kids going to get on with you?
do they see their dad as a cock? i'm on about the 8 year old rather than the other 2 but you know what i mean
if you can get on with them and she works out then i don't see wht not, but don't rush into things
and don't ofer to move in to help he out until you know whats going on
do they see their dad as a cock? i'm on about the 8 year old rather than the other 2 but you know what i mean
if you can get on with them and she works out then i don't see wht not, but don't rush into things
and don't ofer to move in to help he out until you know whats going on
05-05-2007, 07:32 AM
#17
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
Originally Posted by tabetha
Depends how you feel about kids, if you like kids go for, it otherwise forget it.
Personally I love kids so would not bother me, I consider it a bonus!!
Would be a very big change to your life with kids as you are responsible for them and their mistakes!!
If you are able to do the comitment thing then go ahead, remember it will hit you financially as well, as kids clothes etc come first, car 2nd.
I hope it all works out for, why not try a holiday all together first to see how it all goes ?
Best of luck.
tabetha
Personally I love kids so would not bother me, I consider it a bonus!!
Would be a very big change to your life with kids as you are responsible for them and their mistakes!!
If you are able to do the comitment thing then go ahead, remember it will hit you financially as well, as kids clothes etc come first, car 2nd.
I hope it all works out for, why not try a holiday all together first to see how it all goes ?
Best of luck.
tabetha
05-05-2007, 07:34 AM
#18
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
she also loves.....F1,WRC and SUPERBIKE get on it girl........she also loves rallycars.....so ill be scaring the shit out of her in my mitsubishi evo 5 
........and maybe even christen it
........and maybe even christen it
05-05-2007, 08:00 AM
#20
PassionFord Post Whore!!
i think you sound genuine enough to want to make it work then go for it is my advice.
if your just out to screw her - which i don't think you are - then it's not worth the hassle.
as said take things slow and see how it goes,i wouldn't see the kids as a issue i don't think but i've not really been in that position. on the other hand your gonna have to prepared for the best laid plans to be called off last minute due to the kids.
if your just out to screw her - which i don't think you are - then it's not worth the hassle.
as said take things slow and see how it goes,i wouldn't see the kids as a issue i don't think but i've not really been in that position. on the other hand your gonna have to prepared for the best laid plans to be called off last minute due to the kids.
05-05-2007, 09:22 AM
#22
Just remember if she is that "into" you in a few days, the first time you guys have a fall out she will be that into someone else already.
I'd say you sound like you are really rushing into something and its likely to go tits up, worse still it sounds like she is doing the same despite having 3 kids to think about.
I genuinely hope it all works out for you though mate
I'd say you sound like you are really rushing into something and its likely to go tits up, worse still it sounds like she is doing the same despite having 3 kids to think about.
I genuinely hope it all works out for you though mate
05-05-2007, 09:25 AM
#23
PassionFord Post Whore!!
Go for it buddy
my missus has a kid before hand and is now divorced and wee have a little 3 month old ourselves
life is the best its ever been for me and the missus
my missus has a kid before hand and is now divorced and wee have a little 3 month old ourselves
life is the best its ever been for me and the missus
05-05-2007, 09:41 AM
#24
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
chip mate....thats what i was thinking when she surggested we meet for a drink this sat......ive arranged we meet 26 may.....but shes coming down we'll go for a drink and chat a walk etc to get to know each other etc......and ill prob not shag her as theres more t a relationship than sex and we've both been hurt before and it wont be fair for 1 of us to usthe other one 
........we've sooooooo much in common its freaky and we've both said we feel we've known each other for years(prob because we've chatted non stop for 17hours on the net and on the phone!!lol), but she's really nice...........just gonna take it slow......and as she's said theres no rush .........topgirl
........we've sooooooo much in common its freaky and we've both said we feel we've known each other for years(prob because we've chatted non stop for 17hours on the net and on the phone!!lol), but she's really nice...........just gonna take it slow......and as she's said theres no rush .........topgirl
05-05-2007, 09:46 AM
#25
Hope it works out for you mate, as Tabetha says I would view the kids as a bonus as I really like kids, but on the other hand just remember that if you spend 5 years raising them and playing with them etc and really feel like you love them and then she decides its not working out and fucks off as far as im aware you will have NO rights to see them, so something you need to think about before getting involved.
Dont get me wrong, probably sounds like im some sort of depressive looking for all the bad things, but you seem to have found the good things already so thats the only reason im playing devils advocate a little and saying dont get so swept up with how great you seem to get on that you dont see the bigger picture.
As for when you meet her, I would say the sooner the better to that personally, as its only when you meet her you will really know if you get on or not, so not pointing "falling for" someone you havent even met yet and then when you meet there is no spark.
Dont get me wrong, probably sounds like im some sort of depressive looking for all the bad things, but you seem to have found the good things already so thats the only reason im playing devils advocate a little and saying dont get so swept up with how great you seem to get on that you dont see the bigger picture.
As for when you meet her, I would say the sooner the better to that personally, as its only when you meet her you will really know if you get on or not, so not pointing "falling for" someone you havent even met yet and then when you meet there is no spark.
05-05-2007, 09:57 AM
#26
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
Originally Posted by Chip-3Door
Hope it works out for you mate, as Tabetha says I would view the kids as a bonus as I really like kids, but on the other hand just remember that if you spend 5 years raising them and playing with them etc and really feel like you love them and then she decides its not working out and fucks off as far as im aware you will have NO rights to see them, so something you need to think about before getting involved.
Dont get me wrong, probably sounds like im some sort of depressive looking for all the bad things, but you seem to have found the good things already so thats the only reason im playing devils advocate a little and saying dont get so swept up with how great you seem to get on that you dont see the bigger picture.
As for when you meet her, I would say the sooner the better to that personally, as its only when you meet her you will really know if you get on or not, so not pointing "falling for" someone you havent even met yet and then when you meet there is no spark.
Dont get me wrong, probably sounds like im some sort of depressive looking for all the bad things, but you seem to have found the good things already so thats the only reason im playing devils advocate a little and saying dont get so swept up with how great you seem to get on that you dont see the bigger picture.
As for when you meet her, I would say the sooner the better to that personally, as its only when you meet her you will really know if you get on or not, so not pointing "falling for" someone you havent even met yet and then when you meet there is no spark.
...have been thinking bout things kids etc....havent got a problem with the kids would rather meet a girl with children who genuinely loves me and stands by me job etc than to meet the usual fit single girl whos a spoilt little brat who fucks off whens shes bord etc.........just feel im not 21 anymore im nearly 31 and id rather meet someone my age whos mature and knows what she wants in life ...........wouldnt say ive fallen for her just feel she a lovely girl whos got so much to give and like u said im not going to know how i feel about her til we meet etc...........but thats life if we don't get on ill prob stay friends with her..because we get on very well and we give good advice to each other
05-05-2007, 09:59 AM
#27
What good advice could you possibly give each other when you both just fucked up a relationship, surely its like having driving lessons from someone who just crashed a car?
Seriously though, I would have thought that having kids will mean she doesnt want to keep hopping from bloke to bloke and is more likely to mean if it works out that it becomes a long term thing, but obviously it all depends on her and you as people.
Seriously though, I would have thought that having kids will mean she doesnt want to keep hopping from bloke to bloke and is more likely to mean if it works out that it becomes a long term thing, but obviously it all depends on her and you as people.
05-05-2007, 10:03 AM
#28
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
not just relationship mate just general things in life......in both our relationships our ex's have cheated on us we were both in those relationships for the long term etc and they fucked up not us.........
05-05-2007, 10:31 AM
#31
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
Originally Posted by Chip-3Door
Originally Posted by dojj
so you are comparing notes?
Mine needed to look elsewhere for sexual satisfaction cause im bad at oral.
OMG WOW, mine too, we have soo much in common!
........
05-05-2007, 10:48 AM
#32
10K+ Poster!!
The joys of internet dating websites, where people can pretend to be someone nicer than they actually are and not head fucked
Only joking!
Just see how things go and good luck with what your looking for
Only joking!
Just see how things go and good luck with what your looking for
05-05-2007, 11:42 AM
#35
PassionFord Post Whore!!
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Super Barnsley
Posts: 4,223
Likes: 0
Received 0 Likes
on
0 Posts
Originally Posted by COSSIE 1
lets just say she aint quiet in the bedroom department
05-05-2007, 12:32 PM
#37
I've found that life I needed.. It's HERE!!
Thread Starter
Originally Posted by AJC
well i live 15 mins form chorley so give me her number and i wil check her out for you mate
05-05-2007, 01:19 PM
#40
10K+ Poster!!
Originally Posted by COSSIE 1
weird how u meet people??
I'll be honest and admit I did meet a few girls from the net and a lot of them were so messed in the head I jacked it in and gave up with that malarky
I ended up talking to one of the girls down my local about anything and everything about life. I didn't expect to be with her nearly one year on.Its funny how things work out but you only know this when you look back to see how things were before and to how things have moved forwards(obvisously)...
...anyway best of luck
but try not to fall for her before you get to meet the real her 