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I hardly reply on here but fuckin hell! I feel for you but if she was going to do it best now when there are no kids (between you two), I wish couples could just say thats it face to face when its in the shit and not do what she has done.

Hope things get better for you soon.

 

Jeeesus Brad - Not got a clue what to say having never been in that situation before

No doubt you'll of had the usual advice of "chin up she obviously wasn't worth it" yada yada, but that won't make it no easier I guess

 

that is shit mate,know how you feel had a bird walk out on me aswell,keep your chin up it does get easier.

 

Jese i Dont even know you and reading that makes me sort of Upset.

And i dont really get upset about these sorts of things.

I have no real reply or words of wisdom other than these things are sent to try us. You have been forced into a fork in the road.

One way can get so worse so quickly with the pills and drink possibly etc etc.

The other way is "im better off anyway" and getting out there and starting again.

It must be so hard to do that but its the best way.

She sounds a very heartless woman that was obviosly planning this for a long time, Possibly seeing someone else too unfortunately.

This exact same thing happened to a friend of mine and he got out there lost 6 stone going to the gym every day and has the time of his life partying meeting women and hes 50.

Its the decision right now that could shape the next phase of youre life.

 

To be honest mate it seems like this was brewing for a while. I know it might not be what you want to hear but by the way you put it, it sounds like you have a bit of a short fuse and by having the hump quite alot of the time may have been they key to her doing the off! In my eyes if you're arguing all the time then your obviously not really a good match! But if she can just do one without a word or warning she's a pretty hard person and it probably best she's done it now and not when you had a kid! I know it's a kick in the balls but ride it out and wait for her to explain why, but I have found that 9 times out of 10 once people seperate and move out, if they do get back together it doesn't work cos the trust has gone and is always eating away at the relationship

Sorry for all the doom and gloom but it sounds like the best thing for the both of you, but it is just my personal opinion!

Ps get the RSPCA on the case of her folks - cruel c##ts!

 

i really do feel for you. me and my daughter dad were 2gether 5 years we had our problems broke up for a while he did sum stupid stuff in the 6 months we were apart including moving in wiv another woman. when we got back 2gether things were great, moved away from where we were living so not 2 bump in 2 the crazy woman he started seeing.
4 months ago as he works night shift he came home in the middle of a shift said it aint working packed a bag and left, my daughter never saw him for 2 weeks then.
I know everyone will say her loss and ur get over it to you and at the moment i expect it makes u feel worse, people will slag her off even though u prob hate her and ur angry it hurts 2 hear people say stuff about sum1 uv been so close to. all i can say is things will get better, yes it takes time. just take each day as it comes, mates are great to help you, take up a new hobby. i really do feel for you. and untill you speak 2 her and find out what actually happened you wont get over things. so wait abit to calm down and try and find a way 2 talk 2 her.
and im sure peeps on here who have been heartbroken ect wont mind u ranting on.
good luck with it all.

 

Wow what a mad story.I hope you can get things sorted bud. Women are a queer breed.I was with this bird for a few years and she was a nut job.She would never go home to her mams house.We used to sleep round our friends house when there pearents were on holiday.Sleep round her mates house.We also used to sleep in the car.This was going on for months and i was getting sick of it.

We decided to rent a flat together cause i was just sick of dossing about finding somewhere to sleep.My ex started a new job working for this 50 year old bloke in a kids day care centre.She got really pally with him.She used to come back to the flat and all she would do was talk about him.I must of had sex with her once in about 8 months.

One early morning her phone work me up.But she didnt hear it.It was a message from him saying how much he misses her and all that shite.Anyway to cut a long story short she was having an affair with him.I found out in the end and i just went back to the flat,got all my gear and went back to my mams house to live.

 

gutted for you mate, sounds like she had something else planned for a while though mate tbh. Onwards and upward my friend

 

brad if it makes you feal better right it down on here . as at the end of the day we have all had shit in life and we all under stand wot you are going throw . just keep your self bissy doing things and time will help my hart is with you mate

 

boogy woogy woo woo

 

by doing that you may have made it easier for her to something she has wanted to do for a while

 

your right , trouble is its been the only way i have ever been able to get through to her and get her talking to me to sort the problems out .

 

well if she had a smile on her face doing it then sorry but she sounds like a right heartless cow. and more than likely had been seeing sum1 else. i hate it when people get messed around in relationships, if ur in a relationship then i dont mind the whole look but dont touch, i mean there alot of gorgeous people out there and its only natural 2 have a look, but if people want 2 start seeing sum1 new the at least end the other relationship its not fair on the other person. all i can say is not all woman are the same and it will take time but u will get over her.

 

I second that a speshaly....all i can say is not all woman are the same and it will take time but u will get over her

 

How old are you BRAD... and im not taking the piss

 

I agree...

It sounds like the relationship hasn't been working properly for a while, for her at least (even if you thought it was ok like that, she probably didn't!)

I was going to say just walking out with all her stuff is pretty cowardly, but then you said you told her to pick her stuff up - which maybe gave her the reason to do what she already wanted to do, but was probably too scared to.

I've been in a similar situation (the girls situation!) and to be honest it sounds like she has 'left' emotionally a long time ago, and has only just had the guts to do it physically. I wouldn't hold out much hope of the two of you working things out.

 

seroius question, why did the previous relationship with your kids mother break up?maybe a underlining problem there, my ex wife was a lunatic(normally under the influence) i eventually plucked up the courage to walk away from it all (twins were 18 months old then) as soon as i left it felt like a massive weight was removed off my shoulders.

 

I feel for your Brad but to be honest maybe you just weren't right for each other. Sometimes the anger you feel within can be brought to the surface by a combination of all the little things that a partner does or doesn't do if that makes sense.

I think if you spent an hour sat writing down all the attributes you would love in a woman, and then sit down and honestly put a tick next to the ones that she possessed, you will likely find that in reality she wasn't well matched to your expectations and whilst not doing anything particularly wrong at ant time, she did in fact rub you up the wrong way just by being herself which leads to conflict.

I'm not saying your perfect mate, you have already admitted to having a short temper which I myself used to posses, but fixing that is another story.

Have as good a weekend as possible mate, and try not to involve too much beer.
As you reach saturation point It makes the pain inside so much worse.

 

sound advice. yeah drinking may seem a good idea but it will make the situation worse cus 9 times out of 10 ur end up calling her or trying to find her and say and do things ur regret in the morning!

 

Brad,

Sorry to hear this mate

If you're still local and fancy going for a drink/chat sometime, then let me know

As said, it'll take time, but you'll be better off without her

 

Damn. I have no real words of advice. hope you are ok.

What Stu has written makes perfect sense. Maybe you could tkae some comfort from the words.

hope things improve for you

 

Keep good mate everything for a reason in time all will be good

Just keep your head up pal

 

Time heals all m8.

 

shibby

 

If it was me id find the fucker knocking off your wife and kill the cunt tbh.

 

Beleive me mate I really know how you feel

You will find your friends really come through for you at these times. I know mine have been fantastic and really picked me up.

 

Seriously mate, this sounds just like my ex, infact, a lot of your story sounds like my ex.

Only difference being was I found out who she was sleeping with and I left instead.

Just like my ex she did fuck all, I did everything, sorted all her money worries out.

Sex life was dead.

And when I left, I was hoping for some reaction, but no, didn't give a shit.

Top it all of she was lieing about everything to the point she got me in trouble with the rozzers!!!!

But yeah, 3 years totally wasted.

Still with someone many times better now, she got locked up for two years for lieing to the cops, and I am a happier man

Seriously thou, it might be a right shitter now, but I guarantee, a year down the line you will be going what a waste that was and my life is much better now.

 

mate had the same happen last year, was with my x for 8 years then same sort of stuff ur saying happened and she did the off all i can say is it does get better and u really need to get out there and have some u time and a few beers with the lads!!

The only women u can ever trust is your mum!!

 

It sounds like the relationship was a bit sour anyway mate and things will work out for the better, they always do in some way or another

 

trust in kharma brad
she will get it back one day and then maybe she will understand.
onwards and upwards mate the real missus right is out there somewhere

ps i would report the parents to rspca for sure thats just fooking shocking

 

Brad I feel your pain mate. Just look forward to the day you meet the right one, it'll happen.

 

first of all change the locks and secure your finances. I dont know if you have split accounts etc but get it in order so that she cant take more than shes entitled to.

Look after number 1 for the time being till you get your confidence back. its obvious she didnt give a shit about you.

oh and also report her parents to rspca

 

Sorry to hear this, can only agree with previous comments, it does get easier.
I used to be a right slag/stud in my younger days, even when going out with girls knew it wouldn't last, as I was always seeing a few at the same time.
I would say take the time for YOU, to do what you want, don't go out looking for them, as they pop up when you least expect it, and the button clicks between you both.
tabetha

 

A good mate of mine once told me "once she stops wanting sex its over" and true enough everyone of me mates that has been moaning about the sudden lack of sex has had the relationship end shortly after or found out the slut had been getting the crust knocked off her elsewhere.

I'm so glad i'm happy being single as i know loads of lads who cant be single and go from lass to lass without a break and have been shit on so many times. Unfortunatly i dont think i'll ever settle down as i just dont believe in long term relationships lasting these days and really done trust women, but i know this is wrong of me and there are decent women about but i dont want to take the risk and put my happiness in the hands of someone that could potentaly cripple me emotionally and financially

 

YES! ^^^^


Brad honey, surround yourself with your friends right now, and just remember that things werent right.... a relationship isnt supposed to be HARD work....

Look after YOU now honey!

 

I know this wont be easy for you fella, because it never is.

The absolute best thing for you at the moment is to surround yourself with close friends and family. It wouldnt help one tiny bit if you just go out on the piss and try to act as if none of this bothers you - because your human and it bothers us all when things like this happen.

Its not as easy to say your better off without her, because that was your girl but the important word in that is WAS, you have to somehow regroup and with time things will definately get easier - although it wont be overnight.

My advice at the moment would be to spend a bit of time with your friends and family but also remember to spend some time on your own, relax and just do probably what you have forgotten to do - chill by youself and make some time for yourself.. if being on your own is getting a bit of an issue have you thought about getting a dog, sounds daft but if your used to having somebody around its somebody in the house with you that you can share your time with and give you something to do take it for walks etc etc.

hope it gets better fella!

 

I think you speak alot of sense in the fact that your single and your happy, sometimes its best to be single for a long while and find yourself.

 

Had that sinking feeling myself just reading your story. What she's done is totally out of order. My advice is that you never speak to her again or pay her another bit of attention. I know it might seem impossible, and I couldn't do what I've just advised myself, but it's the right thing.

It's going to take a long time to get your head straight, but she's really not worth it. Move on as quickly as you possibly can.

 

hi brad,fair play for having the balls to post your problem first of all.good idea to get it off your chest and listen to different opinions.painful it is but times heals mate,you could of been further down the line with kids and a house etc.keep your chin up