i am having some serious problems at the mo

to sum up as much as i can bring myself to type claire has moved out and it looks like its all over, this after 14 years of being together and 7 years of living together is fucking pulling me apart and i really dont know what to do or how to go on people say take it one step at a time but all i feel like doing is fucking well stepping under a train to ease the pain. this i know i will never do as i aint no coward

i, like everyone including her parents, never saw it coming and she says its nothing ive done so its nothing i can put right

i dont really know why im posting such things on a public forum like i say dont know what the fuck im doing end of

turned in for work on monday and left about 10 mins later in tears after speaking to a very good mate there, i aint been back since, am going to force myself in tomorrow cos i know i have to

im now living in a house, our house, on my own that everywhere i turn i see things that remind of the person i still love to bits and miss dearly even after the worst 3 days of my life

my close mates have been absolute diamonds over the past few days sorry to the mates on here that are finding out about it like this but i aint been in any kind of state to be ringing you lot up telling you things that at the mo i cant bring myself to repeat hence the notice to all

 

sorry for ya pal happend to my bro after 11 years bet this was u and the claw yesterday pmsl

 

sad news mate, i really dont know what to say as iv never been in that position mate

chin up

 

i dont know u from adam but sorry to hear that geezer.. but time does heal everything..easy to say i know but ive been through something similar and it hurts like fook but things will get better ..all the best m8

 

dont know what to say
sad news

 

real sorry for you mate

 

Keep your chin up Matt. As much as it cant be easy for you, the pain will ease in time .....

 

thats sucks dude but as they say time is a great healer just gotta do ya time head down and keeping going mate and when u feel like u hit rock fucking bottom well it gives u a starting point to work ya way back up

 

Matt I really am sorry to here this, my thoughts are with you in what I know to be a very difficult time.

 

SHIT THE BED MATE

I'll pop up tomorrow eve if you like mate... Listening to my Brummie Drawl has gotta be enuff to make anyone think of somet else.

See if I cant pull Yoda up as well.

Peace

J

 

If its really nothing YOU'VE done then dont fret it. What can you do? Would you have her back again? Could you ever trust her again?

Its not easy.

Chin up sir.

 

Sorry to hear this Matt.. As said it will ease but does take time. Best thing to do is like you say...get into work and try to get things somewhere close to normal as possible. Dont lock ya self away in that house get out with the mates as much as possible

 

situaton i can relate to mate , unfortunatley time is the only thing that will make you feel better, nothing anyone will say or do will make a snots worth of difference as you know, you really HAVE got to take it a day at a time and hang on in there, theres nothing worse that can happen to a person, but having said that you WILL come out the other side of it in time mate

 

Ive met matt before (hes even had the privalige of a ride in my old 3dr, lol) and hes a sound lad, and wouldnt wish this on anyone, never mind him.

Matt mate, its harsh as fuck, PROPER harsh, you never see these things coming, things like this is why i have a SERIOUS phobia of relationships and is such a slag.
Ive never been with someone for that long, but even 1.5yr relationships when they suddenly end out the blue are bad as fuck and the way the just END is always the bit thats spins you out.

This kind of thing happens so often, dont get to thinking its your fault as id be 99% sure it aint, this kind of crap just happens

My relationship phobia works fine now, but will suck ass when im older, so TRY not to get into the "i dont trust any birds" thing like me, as its not a good plan.

Things will get better even tho at mo it dont seem like it, got to take your mind off the bad things and on to the good things.

Chin up matey, tho it might not seem like it immediatley, things ALWAYS work out for the better in the end, trust me

 

Matt, i dont know you but i feel sorry for you mate I know exactly what your going thru as my wife walked out on me earlier on this year & i thought i'd never cope without her but you know what mate, it really does get easier as time goes by I still miss my wife at times but i just get on with things & coming on this forum helped me out alot because i too posted a thread up on here when she left & the nice people on here replied & made me feel better! Even thou it's gonna be difficult to stay positive at times you've gotto keep your chin up & stay busy. I hope that's helped mate.

 

Matt, really feel for you mate dont know what to say really...hope you can work something out together

 

fucking hell dude , if you fancy getting away from it all, theres space in the car for a weekend at the ring if you like.......

Paul

 

Not sure what good words from a random on the internet like me will do, but it happens to the best of us and probably all of us at some point.

Just keep yourself together and your real mates will be with you all the way!

Keep your mind occupied and don't do anything stupid!

 

Never actually met you Matt but am gutted for you mate! As others have said, get yourself back to work & surround yourself with your mates to keep your mind off things. Sitting around moping on your own will only make the pain last longer I'm affraid.

Chin up lad
Cheers,
Ian

 

Its a sad time Matt, but you must be strong and be positive! Life does go on, no matter how hard it seems now, the pain will never go completely, we just learn to deal with it and thats what makes us stronger and in the end wiser.

Allthough its hard to see now, try to cherish the past but look to the future! You're still a young guy with everything to look forward to (including that BIG fook off laggy bastard turbo upgrade!! ) so for now keep yourself busy, spend as much time with your friends as possible (Come and stay with me for a while if you fancy you can make the brews and look ugly in the passenger seat whilst mapping), and most of all be strong and keep your pride!

You owe your pride to yourself, never forget that!

 

Chin up mate i'm sure things will get better they often do and quickly!
Regards Spadge...

 

Sorry to hear that Matt. I dont know you, but i know how u feel.

Someone once told me: dont cry because its over. Smile because it happened.

I couldnt smile at the time but i can now.

Chin up

Rich

 

if you fancy a night out in sheff give us a call

 

Matt, really sory to hear that mate i dunno what to say really apart from, times a healer sorry mate.

 

chin up m8, been threw this last year 9years living together trust me m8 it takes time but you,ll get threw it.

 

Don,t know what to say mate
At the end of the phone if you need anything mate
I,ll let you have a blast in the tigra to cheer you up a tad (proper car)

 

proper fooker matt !

 

it does ease with time mate, went through it myself a few years back, nearly done mysell in aswell, but glad i didn't or i would never have met my girlfriend now fiancee, time heals, give it a couple of months and you'll be cushdy.......me and the rest of the durham clan will help ya over it at the AGM mate with a skinfull of largerrrrrrrr

regards
scott

 

VERY sorry to hear that Matt. As has prob been said a million times before life does go on. It's a nightmare, can't make it any easier other than to say it will get better. Stick in and time will take over. There is light at the end of the tunnel though it might not seem like that now.

 

Matt

Sorry to hear it but the pain will ase,dont seem like it now and then are plenty of pople who respect and like you who will look after you.

No one will ever take away from you

 

Gutted mate for u mate

Hope it all sorts it self out mate, keep chin up lad!!!!!

 

 

Matt

Very sorry to hear this mate

Like people have said, it does get easier and im sure DEEP down you know it will

But that doesnt help now

If i can do anything mate, i am only a phone call away

All the best Matt

 

Matt...mate...i really feel for you....i could not imagine life without my girl..i can only compare your pain for when i lost my dogs....tore me apart.

Lifes a bitch..FO REAL....................i aint gonna say chin up it dont work.


One Luv......and i hope you get thru this.

 

sorry to hear this matt.... thought it had been a bit quiet on your posting front!


hope all pulls back together for you and claire! keep at her mate!!!

Dave

 

hold it together matt.

either of two things have prob happened... its either an impulse flash in the pan thing... in which case you'll sort it with time.. or its been building for a while and she's taken alot of time considering what to do etc... in which case not alot you can do if it wasnt out in the open.

keep your chin up and put your mind heavy into finding something else you enjoy doing.

I feel really sorry for you, hope it all turns out so that you become happy in the end.

 

 

matt, if you want to get away this weekend.. theres a room here with your name on the door..

have a weekend , kent southern shandy drinking poof style

seriosuly, got some football, golf and heavy nights going on and your more than welcome mate

 

Cant even begin to think what your going through at the mo.

Just echo everyone else's thoughts / comments really, lean on your mates in times like this - and you will find out why they are TRUE mates. From a lot of the comments so far - it looks like you have plenty

 

like i said on msn mate in a non gay way im here for you one matt to another lol

if you fancy a night round the printworks in manchester or if anyone does then just let me know dude

peace out