Right,

I have a mate who is married, Now me and my Missus go out with them a bit and are good friends.....

BUT.......

He has come to me and says all is not good in the relationship ect ect.......He THINKS she is messing around.....

NOW

My missus is out with this lads Wife tonight and she is texting some lad....and has just deleted all the messages ect......

WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stay out of it as its not my business?
Tell me mate, but then it will come out that my missus has told me, then i told him.......if you see what i mean.


What to do

 

just tell him that your lass seen her texting and end it at that..she will trip herself up at some point.


steve

 

How much do you trust your mate to not mention the texts to his wife and not mention that your wife said something to you?

Id tell him without question, and go about finding out whats happening without bringing up the texts so your wife doesnt get involved in it.

 

I wouldn't say anything without cast iron evidence, if he's a good mate just be there if and when the arse falls out of his world.

 

say fuck all, not worth the hassle. She'll fuck up and he'll find out sooner or later.

 

tell the poor fucker would you want yer mate to tell you. i know i would

 

Have a word with her. Tell her that your lass was concerned so told you. Tell her you have not told your mate, and give her a chance to tell the truth to your mate first! Tell her if she doesnt tell him you will!

 

tell his misses to knock it on the head or the hubby finds out.leave it a bit ask him how things are if no change tell him she is a ho.
or
tell him now,she is cheating after all the dirty fucker.
is he more your friend or is she more your other halfs friend if you understand me?

 

cheers chaps........

It has really started to play on my mind......

I get him telling me about whats going on in there home life ect and how shit it is......

Then my missus tells me that she is texting the lad that my mate thinks is involved..........

He knows i am here for him............I just dont know what to tell him, as i know that WHAT i know will be like a bomb going off....

 

tell him ,it sounds like he knows already anyway,just aint got the proof

 

Does this count as 'grassing' if so be careful how you answer this!

I was in a similar position where I heard from a third party that the bird of a colleague (from a different mag) was shagging her boss. I felt like a cunt for being the one to tell him, but I would want to know if the roles were reversed. He was really relieved as he'd been suspicious for a long time.

One other option would be to get your missus to have a word with his missus and let her know that she needs to sort the shit out either way.

 

He is a mate that i have worked with for ages and get on really well with....

My missus and i have been invited round a few times for meals ect ect....

I would say i am more mates with him than the women are with each other.....but they are getting on really well and my missus says she gets on well with her ect.......

Bloody tough one this...

 

tell him!your not his real mate if you know that his lass could be messing him around and you dont let him know.its as simple as that.if he is just a bloke you know then keep out of it.if its your real mate then you gota.its in the rule book

 

ask yourself tiff ,would you like to know if it was your missus messing about?,
i know i would want to know and if my mate kept it from me ,well he wouldnt be my mate for long

 

Me having a word with her could be a good call tbh....hadnt thought of that.......

 

Hearing that mate......deffo hearing that......

I may have a little word in her ear i think...........

 

Speaking to my wife - who's the voice of reason - she said the wife could be texting the lad to tell him to leave her alone. In that case your mate shouldn't be told anything.

Hmmm your missus needs to dig deeper!

 

tell him, how would you feel if the tables were turned and you found out later that your mate knew

 

Another thing Tiff

If you dont tell him, and later they spilt as he finds out anyway, and somehow it comes out that you knew about this will he be ok with you?

 

it's realy hard howto play it mate, go with your gut

 

Was the fella a mate before he got with said cheating skank ? if yes , tell him and watch him tear her a new arsehole

Do you or your missus intend to stay friends with said cheating thundercunt if they split?

Is said unfaithfull bitch a 18stone cage fighter

If you can answer no to both the above then drop her in the poop like the scheming donkey raping shit eater that she is .

hth

 

OR

Tell her you want anal once a week or youre telling him

 

hasnt he followed her or owt?

if she has a fancy fone get some gooogle latitude banged on it
can get software that will find deleted tests off a fone, just gotta plug it in when shes in the bath or summet and it'l do the rest

if she is then she could fuck off so he should secure his assets

 

My missus told me that she went out with this girl last week and she was on the phone all night, Then tonight she has been the same, texting this lad all night so far..........

My Missus caught a glimpse of who she was texting ..........

My mate has said that she wont go anywhere without having her phone with her.........

AAAAAAAAAAArrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggggggggggggggg:w all:

 

Dont start................... you know how big it is...lol

I know what you mean though John....

 

I would stay well out of it, unless i had seen the actual text messages with my own eyes

 

Can your other half not just ask her what's going on?

 

tell him to check her phone records and ask whats going on she then has to say who the number belongs to and why she is in contact so much

then tell her to stop it of fuck off then you havnt told him she is seing some one else but he will see how often she is txting him that way the mesanger dont get shot your missus dosnt get it in the neck and if its just a friend it will get resolved

 

Tell your friends everything... Regardless. It feels shit knowing you were being cheated on, and it feels worse knowing your mate had an idea and said fuck all. He'll feel like an even bigger cunt then. As though everyone knew and he never.

Benni.

 

I dont know Dan....My Missus has said that she doesnt want to be the one that starts all the shit that will follow.......

We hate being in the middle as My missus is seeing what she is like, teling me......then i am seeing what he is like and telling him to start checking things...... as at the minute im not sure what to do, ie tell him what i know or not

 

Yep.......good words.....

 

If it was me I would tell the poor cunt that I thought he was getting f*cked over. Don't need to go into all the details, but make sure he knows that he is right in thinking it is going on and it is time to do something.

Lets face if, when they split your never going to be able to be friends with both without playing piggy in the middle.

Although not married, I found out my mates misse was dogging behind his back, so told him straight away, was actually there when she got back from her night out with 'the girls' he told her to do one there and then, when she denied it, I let her know how i knew and she looked pretty wounded that she could not weasle out of it, my mate was better off out of it.

 

The relationship's clearly not right if she's texting some fella and he's moaning about their relationship. You could be doing them both a favour. I don't envy your position though mate.

Are there any other girls in the group who'd be prepared to be the whistle blower?

 

id go the other way on this, stay out of it, simple as.

If its not what you thought then you could get the blame for some real shit that isnt really of your making, whilst i understand the predicument you find yourself in Tiff, its not your business mate, let them sort it out, you/your wife dont know what was in those texts and might mean nothing but you saying something still might cause trouble you'll get the shit for if youre wrong.

My missus texts blokes and deletes them after, but i wouldnt say she playing around....Your call mate.

 

well we all know what your next big post is going be then !!

My cheating fucking missus has.............

 

Steve

I know what your saying aswell mate....... i have thought exactly that......

By the sounds of it, My mate is going to be unleashing both barrels on her tomorrow anyway......

 

has he access to her phone records at all?! tbh he would want u to tell him but if he can see who's shes been ringing/txtin etc loads then he could just bring that up as the reason for kicking off and see how she plays it, least then it saves ur name being dragged up, for now anyway!!

If he suspects somethings up then least it not u telling him out the blue thinkin their life is rosey either!!

 

By the sounds of it, My mate is going to be unleashing both barrels on her tomorrow anyway......[/QUOTE]

if she comes home

 

tiff if you dont tell him ..then your not his mate ,sorry

 

I have told him to check the phone.
I have told him to check the phone bills ect ect