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Old 02-10-2008, 04:00 PM
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Default Serious question about sex after marrage..

I know a few blokes that are married, and I'd say over half of them all go on about how the lack of sex is and how it is a 'treat' , since they got married?!

I know Rab brags about not getting it much too now he's married, Infact I bet he puts in paper work to go away with work, just so he can wank, or have some bumfun with the new boy?!

But why?

When I've had a girlfriend, we can't do nothing else but fuck, and if/when I get married, I won't be changing that...

Am I missing something?



PS: Rab, no offence, I just know you go on about it LOL
Old 02-10-2008, 04:03 PM
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We've been wondering this too lately.

9 years on and we still bonk like rabbits, so does that mean if we get married a switch is thrown and suddenly the old wanger thinks 'thats the wife, she cooks and cleans'??
Old 02-10-2008, 04:05 PM
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bugger that!!
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Originally Posted by l0ubie
bugger that!!
Bugger me!


Old 02-10-2008, 04:07 PM
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Radders.



I swear to god it's like a light switch mate. I used to get it ALL the time. It was great!!! I mean HOT HOT. Now it's still very good. But this year (2008) she's let me pump her 3 times

Apparently asking her just makes it worse
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biggest contraception around ..... wedding cake .....
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Nine years, well done Christian and Becky.

What is your secret? Seriously.
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not like that with me.
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Originally Posted by Rab
Radders.



I swear to god it's like a light switch mate. I used to get it ALL the time. It was great!!! I mean HOT HOT. Now it's still very good. But this year (2008) she's let me pump her 3 times

Apparently asking her just makes it worse
3 times? ... Mate, seriously, somthing is badly wrong there ... Classic sign of playing away or somthing similar... Get talking to her, the longer you leave it the worst it will get.
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No wonder ppl shag other folk if your not getting at home
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Originally Posted by RWD_cossie_wil
3 times? ... Mate, seriously, somthing is badly wrong there ... Classic sign of playing away or somthing similar... Get talking to her, the longer you leave it the worst it will get.




She was pregnant from october 07-june 08 so nothing during those months.

She just doesn't want to any more
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Originally Posted by lead_foot
Nine years, well done Christian and Becky.

What is your secret? Seriously.
Mate, its one thing I've believed in for years. You have to work on it, but it's certainly paid for us. I think alot of people just get 'comfortable' and I won't let us get like that.

We still make the effort and are 'touchy-feely' on a daily basis, which helps. Even though having a child around can make it more tricky, we still make sure we get our time and we get dressed up and go out as often as possible too.

I'm not kidding, I'd say we have it 3-4 times a week, sometimes every day.
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It also helps that Beccy is quite aggressive and after a few days she needs that aggression 'fucking' out of her, so it's rare that we'll go a week without. Very rare. Well, theres 3 or 4 days each month where it really is a no-go, but we would if we could!!
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Rab you crack me up
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Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
Mate, its one thing I've believed in for years. You have to work on it, but it's certainly paid for us. I think alot of people just get 'comfortable' and I won't let us get like that.

We still make the effort and are 'touchy-feely' on a daily basis, which helps. Even though having a child around can make it more tricky, we still make sure we get our time and we get dressed up and go out as often as possible too.

I'm not kidding, I'd say we have it 3-4 times a week, sometimes every day.
Fair play mate. Wish I could say the same for my relationship.
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Damn.........................


What the fuck am I doing wrong. I wash my helmet twice a day and she still won't touch it
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you need to sit her down and watch a good porno..usually works.
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I need to find out why she doesn't want me first.....
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I've nearly had sex every day this week, nearly on monday, nearly on tuesday..

SO close last night but stevenebm couldn't get me drunk enough, oh did he try though.
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Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
It also helps that Beccy is quite aggressive and after a few days she needs that aggression 'fucking' out of her, so it's rare that we'll go a week without. Very rare. Well, theres 3 or 4 days each month where it really is a no-go, but we would if we could!!
as the famous saying goes... "When the river runs red, take the dirt track instead"
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Originally Posted by Stoo
I've nearly had sex every day this week, nearly on monday, nearly on tuesday..

SO close last night but stevenebm couldn't get me drunk enough, oh did he try though.

:L a saw your name as the last post and a KNEW it was gona be directed at me.prepare for some random post in the muppet roomoh and no wonder you couldnt get drunk on your headless shandies
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we have been married 14years

we fuck(each other) 4 to 5 times a week, even before swinging we were doing the same.

we are just sexualy(sp) compatable we both love sex.

but I feel some people start enjoying the newnes of sex with each other and then cannot be arse with it anymore.
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balls to that swining lark each to there own and all that but how the hell can you watch your missis get fucked by some other bloke. couldnt do it just couldnt do it
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Originally Posted by stevenebm
oh and no wonder you couldnt get drunk on your headless shandies
Aye, what was that pint all about? I swear she pissed in the glass or something.
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johnny the mens room is cryin out 4 more pics, not with photobucket though.



pmsl at stoo.
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its a mind set 999, we do it as its fun, nothing in depth just fun.

its just sex, we have a much deeper thing
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Originally Posted by Lawrah
you need to sit her down and watch a good porno..usually works.
+1

Don't reckon it's marriage that turns women off sex, but with marriage often come kids, and that's a definite passion killer. Having kids totally removes spontaneity from the relationship - Especially if you don't have any folks or friends who can babysit for you!
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Originally Posted by DanW@FastFord
+1

Don't reckon it's marriage that turns women off sex, but with marriage often come kids, and that's a definite passion killer. Having kids totally removes spontaneity from the relationship - Especially if you don't have any folks or friends who can babysit for you!

Bang on,

we had to find time, as we are over sexed lol, but kids kill things
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Originally Posted by Lawrah
you need to sit her down and watch a good porno..usually works.

Strap her down, might be easier, and match sticks in the eyes.... make that bitch watch until shes screaming to be shafted up the wrongun.
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Originally Posted by JohnnyB
Bang on,

we had to find time, as we are over sexed lol, but kids kill things
Haha - There's no bigger passionkiller that hearing one of them through the monitor when you're 'on it'!!
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once you get married you dont need to try anymore. well the guy can try all he wants but the wife doesnt
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Yeah was going to say kids are the real passion killer!

Have a baby then you'll soon know what lack of sex is!

People always said it to me (as we were always at it too) but I just thought nah, we'll be still going for it.. fook it's hard to get the chance to do it. All I ever considered was the repair time needed for the mrs but the little thing takes over your life for a while and he just seems to wake up the moment you even lay a finger on eachother.. it takes frustration to a whole new level (especially if you were always at it before like me)
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Originally Posted by Rab
Damn.........................


What the fuck am I doing wrong. I wash my helmet twice a day and she still won't touch it
wrong helmet Rab,
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LMAO
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Originally Posted by Charlie Chalk
Bugger me!


OK
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Originally Posted by AlexF
OK
Pics or STFU.
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Both STFU.
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I get the same amounf sex now (married) asi did when she was just my girl friend.Im happy though cause i had some last night.
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Originally Posted by Rab



She was pregnant from october 07-june 08 so nothing during those months.

She just doesn't want to any more

and why does being pregnant make a difference?

there's only a few weeks of pregnancy where it's advisable you shouldn't (first couple of weeks)

after that is fine
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i think tbh that it isn't always marriage that gets in the way it is life , me and the wife have been together 13 years now and married for 3, and the sex is as great as ever but, we both work long hours so we are always knackered and normally just cuddle up but when we do it is mindblowing!!, when we go on holiday we are at it like a couple teenagers (i'm28 she's 27) I think being relaxed with no stress of home or job is a great tool in getting the spark back but like chrisian said you have to work at it and it is all about foreplay to get in the mood


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