relationship problems.......dunno what to do??
25-04-2008, 04:08 PM
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It's as easy or as hard as you make it. Take control of your own life 
Know what you want and don't settle for anything less. I know that when emotions are involved it's hard but the longer you let it fester away the harder it will be to make tough choices later on if you need to.
If she won't talk to you, you can either sit and take it and be a mug or you can decide to get on with your own life, leave her to fester in her own misery and she'll soon come out of it.
That's the problem sometimes, the more you pander to a woman the worse she will make you feel. Sometimes it's a battle of wills, just depends on how long you want to let this go on for before you do something about it
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Know what you want and don't settle for anything less. I know that when emotions are involved it's hard but the longer you let it fester away the harder it will be to make tough choices later on if you need to.If she won't talk to you, you can either sit and take it and be a mug or you can decide to get on with your own life, leave her to fester in her own misery and she'll soon come out of it.
That's the problem sometimes, the more you pander to a woman the worse she will make you feel. Sometimes it's a battle of wills, just depends on how long you want to let this go on for before you do something about it
DISCLAMER!! - I DON'T MEAN ALL WOMEN JUST SOME
25-04-2008, 04:11 PM
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It's as easy or as hard as you make it. Take control of your own life Know what you want and don't settle for anything less. I know that when emotions are involved it's hard but the longer you let it fester away the harder it will be to make tough choices later on if you need to.
If she won't talk to you, you can either sit and take it and be a mug or you can decide to get on with your own life, leave her to fester in her own misery and she'll soon come out of it.
That's the problem sometimes, the more you pander to a woman the worse she will make you feel. Sometimes it's a battle of wills, just depends on how long you want to let this go on for before you do something about it
DISCLAMER!! - I DON'T MEAN ALL WOMEN JUST SOME
Know what you want and don't settle for anything less. I know that when emotions are involved it's hard but the longer you let it fester away the harder it will be to make tough choices later on if you need to.If she won't talk to you, you can either sit and take it and be a mug or you can decide to get on with your own life, leave her to fester in her own misery and she'll soon come out of it.
That's the problem sometimes, the more you pander to a woman the worse she will make you feel. Sometimes it's a battle of wills, just depends on how long you want to let this go on for before you do something about it
DISCLAMER!! - I DON'T MEAN ALL WOMEN JUST SOME
25-04-2008, 04:13 PM
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One thing I finally have learnt is that if only one of you is actually wanting to save a relationship, then there is NO fucking point to it at all, if she doesnt care enough to actively want to sort it out, then why the fuck would you want to spend your life with her?
25-04-2008, 04:14 PM
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i know but thats kinda why i posted my feelings on ere to get peoples views! i just not sure weather to move on or make a go of it! dont get me wrong when things are good there the best just dont seem to be very good at the mo! thanks for your comments and help though mate!
25-04-2008, 04:15 PM
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Until the next time she gets bored and fucks someone else.
One thing I finally have learnt is that if only one of you is actually wanting to save a relationship, then there is NO fucking point to it at all, if she doesnt care enough to actively want to sort it out, then why the fuck would you want to spend your life with her?
One thing I finally have learnt is that if only one of you is actually wanting to save a relationship, then there is NO fucking point to it at all, if she doesnt care enough to actively want to sort it out, then why the fuck would you want to spend your life with her?
25-04-2008, 04:15 PM
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Seriously mate, sit her and and ask her if she actually cares and wants to save your relationship, if her reply is one of indifference then dont bother wasting your life on her, just move on.
If she actually seems genuinely concerned, then fair enough, but what is the point in trying to make it work on your own?
If she actually seems genuinely concerned, then fair enough, but what is the point in trying to make it work on your own?
25-04-2008, 04:16 PM
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Seriously mate, sit her and and ask her if she actually cares and wants to save your relationship, if her reply is one of indifference then dont bother wasting your life on her, just move on.
If she actually seems genuinely concerned, then fair enough, but what is the point in trying to make it work on your own?
If she actually seems genuinely concerned, then fair enough, but what is the point in trying to make it work on your own?
thanks mate!
25-04-2008, 04:17 PM
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Take some time out for yourself away from the situation, I'm presuming that you don't live together. Tell her how your feeling and that you need to have some 'Time Out'. Gives you both a chance to have a proper think about the relationship. By 'Time Out' I don't mean a day, I mean proper time away from the situation, perhaps a week or so to truely give yourself some space. Go out with your mates to take your mind off things and don't have any contact with your GF. When your ready revisit the situation again to either resolve it or put an end to it. Unfortunately if it's over it's something that you'll have to deal with eventually, but the time away from eachother may give you both a kick up the backside that you need to sort it out
25-04-2008, 04:21 PM
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Take some time out for yourself away from the situation, I'm presuming that you don't live together. Tell her how your feeling and that you need to have some 'Time Out'. Gives you both a chance to have a proper think about the relationship. By 'Time Out' I don't mean a day, I mean proper time away from the situation, perhaps a week or so to truely give yourself some space. Go out with your mates to take your mind off things and don't have any contact with your GF. When your ready revisit the situation again to either resolve it or put an end to it. Unfortunately if it's over it's something that you'll have to deal with eventually, but the time away from eachother may give you both a kick up the backside that you need to sort it out
25-04-2008, 04:25 PM
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Do what you thinks best, it could be that your just stuck in a rut, but like what Chip says, no point in carrying on when its all one sided.
Hope it all works out for you
Hope it all works out for you
25-04-2008, 04:25 PM
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Blag bag her...... If she's left for 3 days and not contacted you then put ALL of her stuff in black bags and throw it on the doorstep. A single text to say your stuff is outside come and collect it or it's going to the charity shop.
If you don't want to text her drop the bags outside her parents house when you know theyre out & put note through the door.
Be a man and stand up for yourself mate...women who are capable of messing with your head enough to make you feel like you do arent worth the hassle.... It hurts real bad when you split but take confidence in the fact that you can and probably will one day find the right woman for you and not get the kind of greif your getting now.
Dan
If you don't want to text her drop the bags outside her parents house when you know theyre out & put note through the door.
Be a man and stand up for yourself mate...women who are capable of messing with your head enough to make you feel like you do arent worth the hassle.... It hurts real bad when you split but take confidence in the fact that you can and probably will one day find the right woman for you and not get the kind of greif your getting now.
Dan
25-04-2008, 04:27 PM
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25-04-2008, 04:28 PM
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Don't assume she's playing around, if you've had no suspicions then don't take some strangers word for it on an internet forum! There's obviously something wrong, but it's more likely that she's just had enough of the relationship and doesn't know how to end it.
Aside from talking to her there's not a lot you can do, and you've already said she's not having any of it! If I were you I would try and think as though you've broken up already, that way you can start getting over her sooner. If she doesn't break up with you and she carries on behaving how she is and won't talk about it - break up with her!
Aside from talking to her there's not a lot you can do, and you've already said she's not having any of it! If I were you I would try and think as though you've broken up already, that way you can start getting over her sooner. If she doesn't break up with you and she carries on behaving how she is and won't talk about it - break up with her!
25-04-2008, 04:30 PM
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Your doing the right thing mate, sometimes a bit of space for you both can work wonders,
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
25-04-2008, 04:30 PM
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Blag bag her...... If she's left for 3 days and not contacted you then put ALL of her stuff in black bags and throw it on the doorstep. A single text to say your stuff is outside come and collect it or it's going to the charity shop.
If you don't want to text her drop the bags outside her parents house when you know theyre out & put note through the door.
Be a man and stand up for yourself mate...women who are capable of messing with your head enough to make you feel like you do arent worth the hassle.... It hurts real bad when you split but take confidence in the fact that you can and probably will one day find the right woman for you and not get the kind of greif your getting now.
Dan
If you don't want to text her drop the bags outside her parents house when you know theyre out & put note through the door.
Be a man and stand up for yourself mate...women who are capable of messing with your head enough to make you feel like you do arent worth the hassle.... It hurts real bad when you split but take confidence in the fact that you can and probably will one day find the right woman for you and not get the kind of greif your getting now.
Dan
25-04-2008, 04:32 PM
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Don't assume she's playing around, if you've had no suspicions then don't take some strangers word for it on an internet forum! There's obviously something wrong, but it's more likely that she's just had enough of the relationship and doesn't know how to end it.
Aside from talking to her there's not a lot you can do, and you've already said she's not having any of it! If I were you I would try and think as though you've broken up already, that way you can start getting over her sooner. If she doesn't break up with you and she carries on behaving how she is and won't talk about it - break up with her!
Aside from talking to her there's not a lot you can do, and you've already said she's not having any of it! If I were you I would try and think as though you've broken up already, that way you can start getting over her sooner. If she doesn't break up with you and she carries on behaving how she is and won't talk about it - break up with her!
25-04-2008, 04:33 PM
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Your doing the right thing mate, sometimes a bit of space for you both can work wonders,
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
Just how I should have put it
25-04-2008, 04:34 PM
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Your doing the right thing mate, sometimes a bit of space for you both can work wonders,
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
then a sit down and a heart to heart about whats bothering you.. It does work, it has for me in the past..
Sometimes when someone means that much to you you have both got to give it your all before you may go your separate ways..From experience, if you dont you will always wonder what if???? Good luck pal...
25-04-2008, 04:36 PM
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But putting her stuff in plastic bags shows her you dont plan on messing about mate.....if you do finish it she will be coming for bits and bobs and it'll just drag on for longer...
Good luck either way mate.
Dan
25-04-2008, 04:36 PM
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yep! except she buys the food! i didnt wanna to pay half for everything and put her name on stuff and then it goes tits up! even more glad of that at the mo!
25-04-2008, 04:37 PM
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25-04-2008, 04:38 PM
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it does look like she's fucking about behind your back mate, you might find it hard
to hear that and you might not want to hear it, but shit happens.
even if you did try and work things out you will never be able to trust her, your both better off moving on, it will be hard for you to start with but i'm sure if you've got a good bunch of mates they will see you through it.
to hear that and you might not want to hear it, but shit happens.
even if you did try and work things out you will never be able to trust her, your both better off moving on, it will be hard for you to start with but i'm sure if you've got a good bunch of mates they will see you through it.
25-04-2008, 04:39 PM
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just wanted to say that after speaking to all you guys and girls a feel much better about myself and the situation! thankyou all so so so much it means alot!
25-04-2008, 04:40 PM
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it does look like she's fucking about behind your back mate, you might find it hard
to hear that and you might not want to hear it, but shit happens.
even if you did try and work things out you will never be able to trust her, your both better off moving on, it will be hard for you to start with but i'm sure if you've got a good bunch of mates they will see you through it.
to hear that and you might not want to hear it, but shit happens.
even if you did try and work things out you will never be able to trust her, your both better off moving on, it will be hard for you to start with but i'm sure if you've got a good bunch of mates they will see you through it.
25-04-2008, 04:46 PM
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you dont want to be with someone who makes you feel like shite mate,
why live your life being miserable all the time, when she obviously doesnt give a shit,
my ex was fucking about when i was working away, she was doing the same trying to be distant, when i confronted her she tried to deny it and cause bigs rows then she finally owned up, i got her to fuck ASAP,
i went out & had some proper good laughs with the boys, and now i'm with someone who's a hundred times better,
25-04-2008, 04:48 PM
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you wont be on your own though mate if you've got mates that will be there, have a few lads nights that will take your mind off it, and through time it will defo get easier, always remember the saying ( theres plenty more fish in the sea) theres someone out there for everyone.
you dont want to be with someone who makes you feel like shite mate,
why live your life being miserable all the time, when she obviously doesnt give a shit,
my ex was fucking about when i was working away, she was doing the same trying to be distant, when i confronted her she tried to deny it and cause bigs rows then she finally owned up, i got her to fuck ASAP,
i went out & had some proper good laughs with the boys, and now i'm with someone who's a hundred times better,
you dont want to be with someone who makes you feel like shite mate,
why live your life being miserable all the time, when she obviously doesnt give a shit,
my ex was fucking about when i was working away, she was doing the same trying to be distant, when i confronted her she tried to deny it and cause bigs rows then she finally owned up, i got her to fuck ASAP,
i went out & had some proper good laughs with the boys, and now i'm with someone who's a hundred times better,
25-04-2008, 04:50 PM
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the ass in a one way valve other wise you'd let water in when you sat in the bath! but seriously thanks just need people to talk to!
25-04-2008, 04:51 PM
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25-04-2008, 04:53 PM
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the texts have already been sent out mate! ale and some crude jokes are need i think! cant be miserable for ever!
25-04-2008, 04:54 PM
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25-04-2008, 05:04 PM
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Stopp thinking about her, phone some mates and have a good laugh.
It is hard at first but once you get over it you'll know it was for the best. You say you've only been with her 2years which is'nt that long. Least you were'nt married or have kids. (taking it you have none to her)
It is hard at first but once you get over it you'll know it was for the best. You say you've only been with her 2years which is'nt that long. Least you were'nt married or have kids. (taking it you have none to her)
25-04-2008, 05:07 PM
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Stopp thinking about her, phone some mates and have a good laugh.
It is hard at first but once you get over it you'll know it was for the best. You say you've only been with her 2years which is'nt that long. Least you were'nt married or have kids. (taking it you have none to her)
It is hard at first but once you get over it you'll know it was for the best. You say you've only been with her 2years which is'nt that long. Least you were'nt married or have kids. (taking it you have none to her)