Adam_BlackRS

Being Valentines and all......

Do you think SEX is a big part of a relationship ?? Is it healthy to have a regluar sex life in a relationship ?? Not just sex, but everything that goes with sex...

Cause i've got a problem in my current relationship and its driving me mad and really making me think twice about my relationship.

ryan_belfast

FREAK!!!

RichardPON

Having been in the situation I think you're hinting at, the answer is yes.

No matter what anyone says, if you are young, then sex is a HUGE part of a relationship. If you can't be happy in the bedroom, it will ALWAYS be a problem. It'll be how long it takes to come to the fore that will be the problem then....

dreamin

wots up m8 , i think everyone goes thru a dry patch in a relationship but depends on how serious ur relationship is and if sex is just an easy issue to blame ,

Stoo

But the ones that are purely based around sex, never last...

Adam_BlackRS

I'm only 25.... I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years now... Haven't done it this year so far....

LeviA

Sex is a MAJOR part of a relationship. If it drys up, then you become like brother and sister and that's just no good. I've had that before and it just fizzled out.

So to be cruel but kind, she's got to put out or get out. It's a huge part of finding your partner attractive enough to stay with them.

G2 FSR

Sex is a big part in a relationship and happens to most???? Happened to me also, its just women full stop, well most. Just dont have kids as thats the end

Stoo

Everyone has dry spells mate. And the people who claim they have sex every night, are lying

I wouldn't worry too much. It's a difficult one to bring up with her as well..

LeviA

Dry spells are just part of life, most of the time one of you just can't be bothered. But when it stretches to 6 months spells or she wants it over with quick etc the writing is on the wall in my experience.

Graham S1

have you approached her on the subject yet? usually the best way, for better or worse (for want of a better saying )

dreamin

G2 FSR
lol, i got 3 kids m8 and im doin alright lol,

seriously tho in my opinion women dont put out when something is wrong , have u tried to sit down n chat with her to see wot is on her mind , instead of arguin about the lack of action ur gettin (we've all been there) , hope u can work it out m8

G2 FSR

you are doing ok, ive the 2nd on the way
Dry spells are part and parcel of the relationship pal

dreamin

whens it due m8, u know wot ur havin or is it too early

G2 FSR

Due september the 3rd mate, not sure what it is, bit soon but cant wait

Big G

She said you were shit and hung like a tic tac so she's gone rug munching,
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news

G2 FSR

COSSIE 1

i was with my ex for nearly 7 yrs and we were at it shitloads when we first started going out(like u do ), then she got diagnosed with crohns disease(digestive system) then all went to pot, id get it pretty much only when she was in the mood and then i had to battle against the im tired etc bollocks, but i loved her and thats the difference its a massive part of the relationship but NOT the be all and end all ........ the 6 years i had of long spells of no sex was excellent training now im single , the next girl i meet is gona get ragged rotten tho

saphlover

Yep been there done that

EssexMikeSi

iTrader: (3)

been there to wen they just dont seem to be interested for a long while. Have a chat with her, but dont across as being real paranoid, that'll make her even more off

RS_JAY

Think you hit the nail on the head. Been in a similar situation.

BM08

Awww, i reckon it will be a baby, just a hunch ive got

Rs Baz

try being in my shoe's my head is fucked up

if thay do this it could mean there seeing someone else does she get
a chance to get free time to herself

Christian and Beccy

iTrader: (14)

Adam, as I'm not entirely sure of the circumstances, I can only speculate.

I am a strong believer in not being complacent about keeping the 'spark' alive in a relationship. So many people just become 'comfortable' and let things take their course. I am slightly paranoid and believe that if I do that, someone may come along and show my other half some fun, which if timed wrong may just prove tempting. What I am really saying is that you can't just rely on it 'happening'.

If she isn't interested and you're sure she isn't going elsewhere (I had to say it, sorry), make an active decision to do something that will really relight the fire. For example, cook a meal and make it really romantic. Dim lights, candles etc and carry it on to the bedroom.

I don't want to bore you with the graphic details, but Beccy and I are still at it just as much, if not more, than when we met almost 8 years ago and we have great sex too. That takes serious work though, I admit. I doesn't just happen.

Nip it in the bud now, or it will spiral, as PON said.

dvid

Think of it as a cost cutting exercise

Adam_BlackRS

It came along for me.....

Done, many times and......... NOTHING

Things haven't been good the last few months.... We don't do anything anymore, argue a bit (normally sort it but it seems i'm always the one apologising), jumps at me on the smallest things, and no sex life. I also can't seem to do anything on my own i.e going out with other people without her wanting or expecting a invite

Driving me mad

I hate upsetting her which is why i'm putting off talking to her (i'm a whimp )

diesel2000

U have a pm mate

Miss Fiesta Turbo

Do you watch the sex inspectors on channel 5?? That shows a lot of couples who are going through a similar situation... Its very interesting.

But i think sex is a BIG part of a relationship but not everything... I think that when your partner goes off sex it makes you feel unwanted and as if they're not attracted to you anymore, which then usually causes arguments and causes the relationship to fizzle out...

I think you should talk to her, obviously you have to catch the right moment and the right mood! Or do you have any joint girlie friends that maybe you could ask to talk to her about it??

gingeRS

i just split up with my girlfriend of nearly 5 years just before christmas. the sex life was drying up, we were arguing and generally, as someone stated before, living with each other more like brother and sister than boyfriend and girlfriend. we sat down and discussed it and ended breaking up. was awkward at first and sad, but i have grown to be used to be single over the last few months

we are still friends

Christian and Beccy

iTrader: (14)

Adam, I spent 5 or 6 years in a relationship that just wasn't to be. We were great friends, but the other parts of a healthy relationship just weren't there. It just went on and on with me being afraid of upsetting her. She was a lovely girl and although our relationship had no future, I thought the world of her.

However, skating around it meant that I have a 5-year chunk of my life that I feel that I wasted.

Then Beccy came along and gave me a reason to move on. It was about the hardest thing I have ever done, but she met someone else and 6 months later Beccy and I were invited to her wedding.

It sounds to me like you both need to consider if you should be together and if not, get it sorted for both your good.

RichardPON

Have you not just answered your own question mate?

DanRSturbo

ASBO her pal, live's too short to not be getting any good loving, and, being male, you will get the oppertunity to whore about and take it

Men love sex, FACT, women do too, but they act like they don't

If she's not giving you done, there is a possibility she's getting it from somewhere else, so, grow some ball's, sit her down and talk about it.

If she nosh's you off 2 mins into the chat it's alright