..:**UPDATED**:.. Okay, I need to get this off my chest...
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..:**UPDATED**:.. Okay, I need to get this off my chest...
Going out on a limb here and expecting the piss to be taken, but fuck it, I need to get it off my chest....
Right, so I am currently "seeing" this young lady (three times or so now, usually nice little "intimate" pub setting) that I have known for my entire life (and I mean, we were born in the same year, lived i nthe same town our whole lives, went to same pre-school, infnat, junior and senior schools, etc) and I have always been fairly good mates with here - not seen her in the last few years mind, untill recently when I bumped into her, exchanged numbers and went out for a drink (she called me) to catch up....
Anyway, seen her a few times since then, and I think I have a problem - for possibly the first time (hey, I'm only 24 lol) I think I am in love
Seriously, I have loved this girl for most of my life, but not in a sexual way, more of a "soul mate" lind of way - as in I adore her and she's so much fun to be around....
But I now feel differently, almost "funny". I feel neverous when she's with me or about (recently went to a fancy boat party up London, and whilst we went together, we didn't spend the entire evening together, but when she came near, I began to almost get nervous) and I almost feel scared of her in a way
It's very strange, as whilst I enjoy female company (as in not just hanging out with male mates, I enjoy talking with girls in a normal setting as you get a different perspective on things) I generally don't talk with them a whole lot (bet that sounds really weird lol) Anyway, there;s something about this girl that socially, we have little in common (she;s not into the same type of music as I am, or into cars etc) but yet I feel completley and utterly free when I am with her, and can talk to her about ANYTHING with no worries about what I am saying or anything (I find I can tell her very private stuff, like about my parents divorce and stuff) with her that I don't go into detail with when I am with my mates, if you follow me)
Rah, rambling, lol.... I think I am actually in love and that scares me. It scares me because I don't know what to do about it. I am not sure I want to tell her, as, whilst we have all been rejected before at one time or another, I have this fear that if she doesn't feel the same way, it could literally crush me.
But I don't want to NOT tell her, as if she DOES feel the same way, then this could be the best thing ever to happen to me....
Fuck I sound like such a school boy loser lol But fuck, I don't think I have evern actually been in love before - like properly.....
Chatting with guys at work and they are like "have you slept with her yet?" and that sort of thing, and the answer is no. They ask why, and the only reason I can think off is because I actually like her. A lot! So it's not like she is some typical essex slag I go out with, fuck and then never call again - I actually want to date her and build a relationship with her - but I can't do that unless I tell her, but I'm scared.....
So there you go. I just needed to get that off my chest - feel free to rip my tormented sould out and trample it on the ground
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UPDATE;
So I finally did it, and last night told her how I felt I was carefull of the way I used the word "love" (as in, I explained that for the past 20years I had loved her in a friend/soul mate kinda way), and I basically told her that I had begun, over the past little while, to have deeper, stronger feelings for her than I had previouisly had.
Thik I crashed and burned tho
To put it simply, the feeling isn't mutual, and my confession of un-dying love ( ) wasn't reciprocated
Which, to be fair, I was expecting. I had little hope of her turing round and sayin that she too felt this way and wasn't sure how I felt blah blah, and the realisation had kinda set in that this is a one-way thing, and I am just a good friend to her... Hurts all the same tho I do feel slightly crushed, but hopefully I haven't lost anything as such.
I also explained to her how difficult it was for me to tell her all this, as a) we have been friends for SUCH a long time it was kinda weird, plus that I was petrified it would freak her out and she would not want to see me anymore. She assures me this is NOT the case, and she is cool with it - she thinks I will "get over it" soon enough (I, on the other hand, am not so sure, but hey-ho), so hopefully, if she doesn't get all weird-out thinking about it, then we should still be cool.
I basically told her I didn't anticipate a reciprocation of my feelings, but I thought I owed it to her, and myself, to tell her how I felt as it only seemed fair, which I think she appreciated. She was a little stuck for words tho - glad I waited till the end of the night to do it and not at the beginning It was a little awkward
But there we go - as someone else said in this thread, I would rather regret doing something and knowing how it turned out, than regret NOT doing something, and always wonder how it might've turned out
Now I am off to commit suicide
Right, so I am currently "seeing" this young lady (three times or so now, usually nice little "intimate" pub setting) that I have known for my entire life (and I mean, we were born in the same year, lived i nthe same town our whole lives, went to same pre-school, infnat, junior and senior schools, etc) and I have always been fairly good mates with here - not seen her in the last few years mind, untill recently when I bumped into her, exchanged numbers and went out for a drink (she called me) to catch up....
Anyway, seen her a few times since then, and I think I have a problem - for possibly the first time (hey, I'm only 24 lol) I think I am in love
Seriously, I have loved this girl for most of my life, but not in a sexual way, more of a "soul mate" lind of way - as in I adore her and she's so much fun to be around....
But I now feel differently, almost "funny". I feel neverous when she's with me or about (recently went to a fancy boat party up London, and whilst we went together, we didn't spend the entire evening together, but when she came near, I began to almost get nervous) and I almost feel scared of her in a way
It's very strange, as whilst I enjoy female company (as in not just hanging out with male mates, I enjoy talking with girls in a normal setting as you get a different perspective on things) I generally don't talk with them a whole lot (bet that sounds really weird lol) Anyway, there;s something about this girl that socially, we have little in common (she;s not into the same type of music as I am, or into cars etc) but yet I feel completley and utterly free when I am with her, and can talk to her about ANYTHING with no worries about what I am saying or anything (I find I can tell her very private stuff, like about my parents divorce and stuff) with her that I don't go into detail with when I am with my mates, if you follow me)
Rah, rambling, lol.... I think I am actually in love and that scares me. It scares me because I don't know what to do about it. I am not sure I want to tell her, as, whilst we have all been rejected before at one time or another, I have this fear that if she doesn't feel the same way, it could literally crush me.
But I don't want to NOT tell her, as if she DOES feel the same way, then this could be the best thing ever to happen to me....
Fuck I sound like such a school boy loser lol But fuck, I don't think I have evern actually been in love before - like properly.....
Chatting with guys at work and they are like "have you slept with her yet?" and that sort of thing, and the answer is no. They ask why, and the only reason I can think off is because I actually like her. A lot! So it's not like she is some typical essex slag I go out with, fuck and then never call again - I actually want to date her and build a relationship with her - but I can't do that unless I tell her, but I'm scared.....
So there you go. I just needed to get that off my chest - feel free to rip my tormented sould out and trample it on the ground
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UPDATE;
So I finally did it, and last night told her how I felt I was carefull of the way I used the word "love" (as in, I explained that for the past 20years I had loved her in a friend/soul mate kinda way), and I basically told her that I had begun, over the past little while, to have deeper, stronger feelings for her than I had previouisly had.
Thik I crashed and burned tho
To put it simply, the feeling isn't mutual, and my confession of un-dying love ( ) wasn't reciprocated
Which, to be fair, I was expecting. I had little hope of her turing round and sayin that she too felt this way and wasn't sure how I felt blah blah, and the realisation had kinda set in that this is a one-way thing, and I am just a good friend to her... Hurts all the same tho I do feel slightly crushed, but hopefully I haven't lost anything as such.
I also explained to her how difficult it was for me to tell her all this, as a) we have been friends for SUCH a long time it was kinda weird, plus that I was petrified it would freak her out and she would not want to see me anymore. She assures me this is NOT the case, and she is cool with it - she thinks I will "get over it" soon enough (I, on the other hand, am not so sure, but hey-ho), so hopefully, if she doesn't get all weird-out thinking about it, then we should still be cool.
I basically told her I didn't anticipate a reciprocation of my feelings, but I thought I owed it to her, and myself, to tell her how I felt as it only seemed fair, which I think she appreciated. She was a little stuck for words tho - glad I waited till the end of the night to do it and not at the beginning It was a little awkward
But there we go - as someone else said in this thread, I would rather regret doing something and knowing how it turned out, than regret NOT doing something, and always wonder how it might've turned out
Now I am off to commit suicide
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tell her or you'll always think what might have been..if she doesn't feel the same im sure, if she thinks a lot of you it wont hurt your friendship
its a really deep thread for this time though
its a really deep thread for this time though
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as dave has said really mate to be honest. I think the thing is (no disrespect meant here at all) but i fyou can tell 15000 plu smembers on here on the baord and then get ribbed by say a third beacuse they dont understand how you feel, then what on earth do you have to loose by telling her on her own how you feel?
Has she not mentioned anything about past or present boyfriends? (i dont mean to be nosey etc) but i guess that on these nice party nights one or the other has been asked by errr one or the other.
Who took who home? How was it left. Coffee and home, or coffe and the offer???
It is tricky but yeh i guessi know what ya mean. Bit sweaty as you talk, normally confodent then striggle for words, could be the real deal mate
go chase it. You have nothing to lose but evrything to gain.
Has she not mentioned anything about past or present boyfriends? (i dont mean to be nosey etc) but i guess that on these nice party nights one or the other has been asked by errr one or the other.
Who took who home? How was it left. Coffee and home, or coffe and the offer???
It is tricky but yeh i guessi know what ya mean. Bit sweaty as you talk, normally confodent then striggle for words, could be the real deal mate
go chase it. You have nothing to lose but evrything to gain.
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I've known her mum since (my) birth (she was my junior school teacher) so don't think thats a wise thing to do lol.....
I just think it's funny, cos when I am with her, I can tell her ANYTHING - anything except this!
When we have a "date" planned, I spend all week looking forward to that evening, and spend all of that day wishing the day away so I can see her - and I mean like a kid with a new toy
She makes me feel different too - kinda like she makes me feel better about being me. I'm kind of a private person in reality - I have a few select groups of mates who I see a lot but otherwise I am not that much of a talkative bloke, unless it's too someone I know well, or feel comfortable with - and I don't usually feel comfortable with women in general (even ones I went to school with and have known for some time). Well, thats not strictly true - it's not that I don't feel comfortable with them, but I feel self-concious, and "on edge"
But this girl - I have never felt more comfortable with anyone in my life. It's like the whole world dissapears when I'm with her, and she is the only important thing left.....
Plus I think I love her
I just think it's funny, cos when I am with her, I can tell her ANYTHING - anything except this!
When we have a "date" planned, I spend all week looking forward to that evening, and spend all of that day wishing the day away so I can see her - and I mean like a kid with a new toy
She makes me feel different too - kinda like she makes me feel better about being me. I'm kind of a private person in reality - I have a few select groups of mates who I see a lot but otherwise I am not that much of a talkative bloke, unless it's too someone I know well, or feel comfortable with - and I don't usually feel comfortable with women in general (even ones I went to school with and have known for some time). Well, thats not strictly true - it's not that I don't feel comfortable with them, but I feel self-concious, and "on edge"
But this girl - I have never felt more comfortable with anyone in my life. It's like the whole world dissapears when I'm with her, and she is the only important thing left.....
Plus I think I love her
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Originally Posted by the sludge
as dave has said really mate to be honest. I think the thing is (no disrespect meant here at all) but i fyou can tell 15000 plu smembers on here on the baord and then get ribbed by say a third beacuse they dont understand how you feel, then what on earth do you have to loose by telling her on her own how you feel?
Originally Posted by the sludge
Has she not mentioned anything about past or present boyfriends? (i dont mean to be nosey etc) but i guess that on these nice party nights one or the other has been asked by errr one or the other.
Originally Posted by the sludge
Who took who home? How was it left. Coffee and home, or coffe and the offer???
Originally Posted by the sludge
It is tricky but yeh i guessi know what ya mean. Bit sweaty as you talk, normally confodent then striggle for words, could be the real deal mate
Originally Posted by the sludge
go chase it. You have nothing to lose but evrything to gain.
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If you dont risk it you could totally lose her, and ive been there.
If you do risk it she could vomit in your face, who knows
Are there no signs she feels same way?
If you got a way with words its not too hard to say things in certain ways that can help working out what to do, but thats all about rights things at the right moment, so can never explain that obviously.
Do it, take the risk.
If it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
If it goes well you with her, and then WHEN it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
Job done
If you do risk it she could vomit in your face, who knows
Are there no signs she feels same way?
If you got a way with words its not too hard to say things in certain ways that can help working out what to do, but thats all about rights things at the right moment, so can never explain that obviously.
Do it, take the risk.
If it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
If it goes well you with her, and then WHEN it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
Job done
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Originally Posted by SapphyMike
sorry mate LOL..
its a catch 22 situation.. i'd leave it a bit first, as 3 dates is a bit soon, might scare her off.. just play things by ear..
its a catch 22 situation.. i'd leave it a bit first, as 3 dates is a bit soon, might scare her off.. just play things by ear..
You say you can talk to her about anything - does she do the same? If so that would mean you already know about any situations she may already be in - if she's after anyone else etc.
It's tricky because the worse that could happen would be for you to lose the friendship because you want something she didn't - BUT - it could well be that she feels the same or at the least - she would think about a relationship with you because you 'gel' so well.
Better to regret what you did than what you didn't do
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I know - scary isn't it?
It dawned on me whilst talking to a girl at work about it a little while ago - for no reason what so ever (as it never previously entered the converstation about this situation) I blurted out that if she was to ask me to marry her I would say yes straight away!
I mean W-T-F?!?!?!?
Marriage?
Holy shit
It dawned on me whilst talking to a girl at work about it a little while ago - for no reason what so ever (as it never previously entered the converstation about this situation) I blurted out that if she was to ask me to marry her I would say yes straight away!
I mean W-T-F?!?!?!?
Marriage?
Holy shit
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Originally Posted by Stavros
If you dont risk it you could totally lose her, and ive been there.
Originally Posted by Stavros
If you do risk it she could vomit in your face, who knows
Originally Posted by Stavros
Are there no signs she feels same way?
Originally Posted by Stavros
If you got a way with words its not too hard to say things in certain ways that can help working out what to do, but thats all about rights things at the right moment, so can never explain that obviously.
Originally Posted by Stavros
Do it, take the risk.
If it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
If it goes well you with her, and then WHEN it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
Job done
If it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
If it goes well you with her, and then WHEN it goes wrong just remember never to treat girls as anything but sexual objects again.
Job done
This is where it's different tho - I actually do really really like this one and am FAR more respectfull of her......
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Apparantly what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.............so dont be worried about getting your heart crushed,stop being a big girl and tell her.
You might want to practice what your gonna say though and i'm sure some folk on here can give you pointers
You might want to practice what your gonna say though and i'm sure some folk on here can give you pointers
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Hi Matt. I was in a situation like this abut 3 years ago. We were so so best mates and got on so well it was awesome. Then i started to have feelings for her above friendship. I hmmmm'd n harrrrr'ed about do i tell her or not.. Eventually i did and she kinda felt the same but she didn't want to loose me as friend. Eventually I lost my best friend and didn't even get to kiss/snog her. I was gutted!
I can honestly say if i didn't say anything that certain week 3 years ago we would be proper good friend still.
Now bump into her every couple of months for a quite 'Alright' in town.Nothing to shout about..
Her best mate still seems to think we are going to get married. But i dunno She looking more gorgeous than 3 years ago
I can honestly say if i didn't say anything that certain week 3 years ago we would be proper good friend still.
Now bump into her every couple of months for a quite 'Alright' in town.Nothing to shout about..
Her best mate still seems to think we are going to get married. But i dunno She looking more gorgeous than 3 years ago
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I know what I want to say I just wanna tell her that I think I love her, and it's not a new thing, and that I think I have had a subconcious, underlying love for her for many years, even tho I didn't know it as such.... I have already told her how she makes me feel, about her making me feel like a different person and how I feel incredibly comfortable with her and how I can talk to her freely without feeling self concious or anything....
I HAVEN'T told her that she makes me nervous, scared or feel sick (in a nice way, if that makes sense) tho
I HAVEN'T told her that she makes me nervous, scared or feel sick (in a nice way, if that makes sense) tho
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Hi Matt. I was in a situation like this abut 3 years ago. We were so so best mates and got on so well it was awesome. Then i started to have feelings for her above friendship. I hmmmm'd n harrrrr'ed about do i tell her or not.. Eventually i did and she kinda felt the same but she didn't want to loose me as friend. Eventually I lost my best friend and didn't even get to kiss/snog her. I was gutted!
I can honestly say if i didn't say anything that certain week 3 years ago we would be proper good friend still.
Now bump into her every couple of months for a quite 'Alright' in town.Nothing to shout about..
Her best mate still seems to think we are going to get married. But i dunno She looking more gorgeous than 3 years ago
I can honestly say if i didn't say anything that certain week 3 years ago we would be proper good friend still.
Now bump into her every couple of months for a quite 'Alright' in town.Nothing to shout about..
Her best mate still seems to think we are going to get married. But i dunno She looking more gorgeous than 3 years ago
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Maybe she thinks you are ginger beer and easy to talk to because you don't make any advances and are not a threat. The more you post on this subject the more everyone will think that as well!!
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Maybe she thinks you are ginger beer and easy to talk to because you don't make any advances and are not a threat. The more you post on this subject the more everyone will think that as well!!
yeah, if he is in love with a girl he MUST be gay
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Originally Posted by chip-3door
Originally Posted by Cam
Maybe she thinks you are ginger beer and easy to talk to because you don't make any advances and are not a threat. The more you post on this subject the more everyone will think that as well!!
yeah, if he is in love with a girl he MUST be gay
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hi,
Just read your post.....
i cant really say much to help either to be honest, but the best advice i can give you, i wait a little longer... she may feel safe thinking she has a strong friendship which gives her stability.
I would try and read any signs she may be giving you, if any and i know you said your no good at reading them and i admit there is a very fine line between flirting and just being friendly.
you do have alot to loose unlike what other people have already said to you,
you have an amazing bond with what sounds like an amazing woman...
maybe she mite surprise you and confide in you with the fact she may have feelings for you!
who knows, but for now, just keep "dating" and sparks may fly yet....
Time will tell, coming out with feelings mite make her feel the friendship wasnt what shed hoped/ thought it was.
I wish you all the luck in the world on what ever choice you may make and i hope those sparks do fly for you eventually.
Just read your post.....
i cant really say much to help either to be honest, but the best advice i can give you, i wait a little longer... she may feel safe thinking she has a strong friendship which gives her stability.
I would try and read any signs she may be giving you, if any and i know you said your no good at reading them and i admit there is a very fine line between flirting and just being friendly.
you do have alot to loose unlike what other people have already said to you,
you have an amazing bond with what sounds like an amazing woman...
maybe she mite surprise you and confide in you with the fact she may have feelings for you!
who knows, but for now, just keep "dating" and sparks may fly yet....
Time will tell, coming out with feelings mite make her feel the friendship wasnt what shed hoped/ thought it was.
I wish you all the luck in the world on what ever choice you may make and i hope those sparks do fly for you eventually.
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the best advice i can give it to just hold it out mate. has she had any boyfriends lately?does she go out drinking with other men as friends?vital clues.she may feel the same way about you and be thinking the same way as you worried to tell you.best way about it i think is joke about it abit see what her reactions are.im sure u know exactly what to say without giving it away just poking round the edges.and theres nothing wrong with being in love mate you seem really excited and im happy for you.
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i agree with fezzanut... stick it out a little longer,
like i said, TIME WILL TELL (even though the waiting sucks, its usually worth it as it provides the answers in one way or another)
Just enjoy your time with her and you'll see things you didnt see before, good or bad, i cant say... but good luck again anyway mate.
like i said, TIME WILL TELL (even though the waiting sucks, its usually worth it as it provides the answers in one way or another)
Just enjoy your time with her and you'll see things you didnt see before, good or bad, i cant say... but good luck again anyway mate.
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Re: Okay, I need to get this off my chest... Bear with me...
for possibly the first time (hey, I'm only 24 lol) I think I am in love
Seriously, I have loved this girl for most of my life,
But fuck, I don't think I have evern actually been in love before - like properly.....
because I actually like her.
When we have a "date" planned, I spend all week looking forward to that evening, and spend all of that day wishing the day away so I can see her - and I mean like a kid with a new toy
and I don't usually feel comfortable with women in general (even ones I went to school with and have known for some time). Well, thats not strictly true - it's not that I don't feel comfortable with them, but I feel self-concious, and "on edge"
But this girl - I have never felt more comfortable with anyone in my life. It's like the whole world dissapears when I'm with her, and she is the only important thing left.....
Plus I think I love her
That is quiet possibly one of the most nauseating things I have read for quite some time. Do yourself a real big favor and loose the emotional attachment to her and look at things a little more objectively. I really don't understand why people put themselves in this situation?
FFS whatever you do don't tell her you love her, seriously dont! The way I see it there are two possible outcomes: She'll respond favorably, which at first you'll like but considering the fact your behaving like a pathetic puppy dog around her and the fact most women are selfish and self-centered don't think for a second she'll hesitate to take advantage of you. At the end of the day relationships are all about control - who needs who the most. In this case you obviously need her more than she needs you hence she is in control, very rarely are relationships equally balanced.
The second outcome is she'll reject you, personally I can see a "lets just be friends" coming up as I think your probably firmly in the friendship zone, which judging by your current state of mind will probably emotionally crush you.
Basically what Im saying is protect your feelings because, although I really hope Im wrong, I can see this ending in tears. Just remain indifferent to everyone, its by far the easiest way.
I am SHIT at reading women - they confuse me
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matt no offence when i say this but if you work too hard at the nice reliable guy who pays for eerything ect then she aint gonna want you in a sexual way as smit pointed out
at the heart of it woemn like sex just as much as blokes, you would be better off being cheeckyat times ( note i never said desperate as women hate that )just to show her theres some sexual tension mate,,,,,,, you ned to keep that alive mate
women are funny people and we all know they are confused, but seeing her for 3 time AINT LOVE mate, you may think it but its just lust,,,,,,, you xant say you love a brd till you see all the crap stuff about her and accpet it, thats the facts im afraid
NEVER tell a bird you love her straight away, they need to work to something,,,,,,,,,, not to mention that it would deffo freek me out if that was said to me
my advice mate it take her out again, maybe taker her somehwere that your mates will be so she can meet your mates ect ( the type you trust, not ones that will pull her ) and indirectly get her to know your mates, feel part of a new group and then you know what mates are like if there GOOD mates,,,,,,,, they stick in that ground work and generally your sorted
women unlike blokes WILL date people who they never though about given the right situation,,,,,,, they seem to ignore comonsence when this happens too and unlike blokes they dont sem to wake up in the morning and sneek out of bed if they know ya
you gotta do this mate as bleeting your heart out will mate you seem clingy......... no fooker likes that
being a good mate will leave you just as that,,,,,,, her mate and then wont wanna screw ya
be a real bloke and make her laugh ect, chill her out and mate her excited ect then you will get to screw her
belive it or not the most sucessfull relationships are them based on sex and start out as being as stee says, women you treat as sex objects ( obv dont tell em that though, its one of them things they know but is never mentioned)
women calim to love a nice guy but i reality they get bored easy,,,,, you gotta be fun and make them think about you rather than yoiu think about them
you dont ahve to listen to all of this but please note ive been with my missus for 7 years,,,,, i actually et her through her mate and ive know her since she was 15 when i used to be firty like abyone at the age of 19 is to girls and that made her remember me and have a proper crush on me nad 3 years later we met up and we have been together ever since
dont forget that she also bought me lots of things too as suprises and done more chasing than me,,,,,,, well thats how she seen it and i can honestly say that my missus is my best mate,,,,, we argue like people do BUT we always are there for each other and tbh always will be
and its not like im a great catch for her is it as you have met her,,,,, infact she gets LOADS of people teling her she can do better ect,,,,,,,,,,, afew from this fucking site too the tossers but shes always gonna be with me
take what ive said add it to others and for the ove of god dont act soppey and mess things up, be cool and getn ya mates to help along if ya not confifent
at the heart of it woemn like sex just as much as blokes, you would be better off being cheeckyat times ( note i never said desperate as women hate that )just to show her theres some sexual tension mate,,,,,,, you ned to keep that alive mate
women are funny people and we all know they are confused, but seeing her for 3 time AINT LOVE mate, you may think it but its just lust,,,,,,, you xant say you love a brd till you see all the crap stuff about her and accpet it, thats the facts im afraid
NEVER tell a bird you love her straight away, they need to work to something,,,,,,,,,, not to mention that it would deffo freek me out if that was said to me
my advice mate it take her out again, maybe taker her somehwere that your mates will be so she can meet your mates ect ( the type you trust, not ones that will pull her ) and indirectly get her to know your mates, feel part of a new group and then you know what mates are like if there GOOD mates,,,,,,,, they stick in that ground work and generally your sorted
women unlike blokes WILL date people who they never though about given the right situation,,,,,,, they seem to ignore comonsence when this happens too and unlike blokes they dont sem to wake up in the morning and sneek out of bed if they know ya
you gotta do this mate as bleeting your heart out will mate you seem clingy......... no fooker likes that
being a good mate will leave you just as that,,,,,,, her mate and then wont wanna screw ya
be a real bloke and make her laugh ect, chill her out and mate her excited ect then you will get to screw her
belive it or not the most sucessfull relationships are them based on sex and start out as being as stee says, women you treat as sex objects ( obv dont tell em that though, its one of them things they know but is never mentioned)
women calim to love a nice guy but i reality they get bored easy,,,,, you gotta be fun and make them think about you rather than yoiu think about them
you dont ahve to listen to all of this but please note ive been with my missus for 7 years,,,,, i actually et her through her mate and ive know her since she was 15 when i used to be firty like abyone at the age of 19 is to girls and that made her remember me and have a proper crush on me nad 3 years later we met up and we have been together ever since
dont forget that she also bought me lots of things too as suprises and done more chasing than me,,,,,,, well thats how she seen it and i can honestly say that my missus is my best mate,,,,, we argue like people do BUT we always are there for each other and tbh always will be
and its not like im a great catch for her is it as you have met her,,,,, infact she gets LOADS of people teling her she can do better ect,,,,,,,,,,, afew from this fucking site too the tossers but shes always gonna be with me
take what ive said add it to others and for the ove of god dont act soppey and mess things up, be cool and getn ya mates to help along if ya not confifent
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Originally Posted by Genesis Engineering
for possibly the first time (hey, I'm only 24 lol) I think I am in love
Seriously, I have loved this girl for most of my life,
But fuck, I don't think I have evern actually been in love before - like properly.....
because I actually like her.
When we have a "date" planned, I spend all week looking forward to that evening, and spend all of that day wishing the day away so I can see her - and I mean like a kid with a new toy
and I don't usually feel comfortable with women in general (even ones I went to school with and have known for some time). Well, thats not strictly true - it's not that I don't feel comfortable with them, but I feel self-concious, and "on edge"
But this girl - I have never felt more comfortable with anyone in my life. It's like the whole world dissapears when I'm with her, and she is the only important thing left.....
Plus I think I love her
That is quiet possibly one of the most nauseating things I have read for quite some time. Do yourself a real big favor and loose the emotional attachment to her and look at things a little more objectively. I really don't understand why people put themselves in this situation?
FFS whatever you do don't tell her you love her, seriously dont! The way I see it there are two possible outcomes: She'll respond favorably, which at first you'll like but considering the fact your behaving like a pathetic puppy dog around her and the fact most women are selfish and self-centered don't think for a second she'll hesitate to take advantage of you. At the end of the day relationships are all about control - who needs who the most. In this case you obviously need her more than she needs you hence she is in control, very rarely are relationships equally balanced.
The second outcome is she'll reject you, personally I can see a "lets just be friends" coming up as I think your probably firmly in the friendship zone, which judging by your current state of mind will probably emotionally crush you.
Basically what Im saying is protect your feelings because, although I really hope Im wrong, I can see this ending in tears. Just remain indifferent to everyone, its by far the easiest way.
I am SHIT at reading women - they confuse me
but in a relationship YOU need to be incontrol,,,,,,,,,cause when things go wrong in her life in the future you need to be the one who she turns to for stability !!!!!
also remember that women DO enjoy rough sex too, so rose petals on the bed ect is when you have ALREADY screwed her senceless an on a ocasion yo want to make HER softer side show,,,,,, but you have to fuck her senceless first though so she knows when shes horney she aint gotta look else where for that type of screwing
just think of friends when bruce willis got intouch with his femanine side,,, inrality thats how she may look upon you mate
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Easy mate ,
Next time you go out with her act a little pissed off etc , if she shows real concern and keeps asking whats wrong and wont leave you alone etc you know she likes you A LOT , if she gets a little moody with you , she likes you as a mate only and will fuck off,
This may seem strange , but as said girls are quite strange amd are very self centered and if she likes you she will want to know whats wrong etc ( if she askes is it me ) your on a winner if she starts to get a little moody then she is useing you for free nights out and she will seem strange with you .
I hope she feels the same as you mate and everything turns out as you wish
Paul
Next time you go out with her act a little pissed off etc , if she shows real concern and keeps asking whats wrong and wont leave you alone etc you know she likes you A LOT , if she gets a little moody with you , she likes you as a mate only and will fuck off,
This may seem strange , but as said girls are quite strange amd are very self centered and if she likes you she will want to know whats wrong etc ( if she askes is it me ) your on a winner if she starts to get a little moody then she is useing you for free nights out and she will seem strange with you .
I hope she feels the same as you mate and everything turns out as you wish
Paul
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Tell her!!
I was like this with a girl I knew at school. I never said anything and we never went beyond being mates, then eventually lost contact etc. A few years later someone told me she'd really liked me but I never did anything about it.
Gutted is not the word pal.
I was like this with a girl I knew at school. I never said anything and we never went beyond being mates, then eventually lost contact etc. A few years later someone told me she'd really liked me but I never did anything about it.
Gutted is not the word pal.
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Easy Fella,
I don't know ya but hope ya all the best in this situ !
I been there 2, back in me school days there was this bird i absolutly fancied the pants off & we got to be best friends for the last 3 years of school, spent like the whole time together but cos i was shy & all the rest of it never said nothin to her !
Then just before we finished our last year she got with another fella & used to talk me bout it all time ! Jesus that killed me, but i got over it & 3-4 years later, like you i bumped back into her & clicked straight away.
We spoke litterly the whole night (the missus was holiday wit family )about school & all the rest, i said to her i was bang on her back in school & she admitted the same but was shy LOL So on that note i hung outta it that night That was few year ago now, we still chat quite a bit but no feelings there, i put it don't to an itch i always wanted to scratch !
If you wanna say something to her, DO NOT tell her you love her or any of that nonsence ! She'll run a mile bruv ! Just say it too her in a jokey way & ask her what she think of you etc, and create a hypofisis (spelling?) of when you used to hang out together would she of gone out wit ya ? or in a certain place/situation if you'd of gone to kiss her would she reciptrcate? But say it all with big grin on ya face like it just for jokes !
Good luck bruv & i mean that, but do remember whats already been said, it's better to regret things you done, than things you haven't !
Most birds want a bad boy, so just try keep whity, jokes flowin & cheeky with a few sexual inuendos (spellin?) but taste ful ones as you actualy like the girl ! LOL
Respect
Jb
P.s. I think we might be able to better advised you if we saw a pic of said ladie ? ? ?
I don't know ya but hope ya all the best in this situ !
I been there 2, back in me school days there was this bird i absolutly fancied the pants off & we got to be best friends for the last 3 years of school, spent like the whole time together but cos i was shy & all the rest of it never said nothin to her !
Then just before we finished our last year she got with another fella & used to talk me bout it all time ! Jesus that killed me, but i got over it & 3-4 years later, like you i bumped back into her & clicked straight away.
We spoke litterly the whole night (the missus was holiday wit family )about school & all the rest, i said to her i was bang on her back in school & she admitted the same but was shy LOL So on that note i hung outta it that night That was few year ago now, we still chat quite a bit but no feelings there, i put it don't to an itch i always wanted to scratch !
If you wanna say something to her, DO NOT tell her you love her or any of that nonsence ! She'll run a mile bruv ! Just say it too her in a jokey way & ask her what she think of you etc, and create a hypofisis (spelling?) of when you used to hang out together would she of gone out wit ya ? or in a certain place/situation if you'd of gone to kiss her would she reciptrcate? But say it all with big grin on ya face like it just for jokes !
Good luck bruv & i mean that, but do remember whats already been said, it's better to regret things you done, than things you haven't !
Most birds want a bad boy, so just try keep whity, jokes flowin & cheeky with a few sexual inuendos (spellin?) but taste ful ones as you actualy like the girl ! LOL
Respect
Jb
P.s. I think we might be able to better advised you if we saw a pic of said ladie ? ? ?
#39
Originally Posted by b19bal
women are funny people and we all know they are confused, but seeing her for 3 time AINT LOVE mate, you may think it but its just lust,,,,,,,
Originally Posted by b19bal
my advice mate it take her out again, maybe taker her somehwere that your mates will be so she can meet your mates ect ( the type you trust, not ones that will pull her ) and indirectly get her to know your mates, feel part of a new group and then you know what mates are like if there GOOD mates,,,,,,,, they stick in that ground work and generally your sorted
Originally Posted by b19bal
you gotta do this mate as bleeting your heart out will mate you seem clingy......... no fooker likes that
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Would the easiest solution not to be to just get her pissed?
If she kind of likes you anyway, and is pissed, she'll probably end up in bed with you, then if you hit the target properly she will come back for more, problem solved.
If she kind of likes you anyway, and is pissed, she'll probably end up in bed with you, then if you hit the target properly she will come back for more, problem solved.