Who would let there other half..........
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There is no 100% answer to a question like this, because most people are different as you can see by the opinions above and its all ok until it happens to you.
I personally cant see the point in going to night clubs if you have a partner, ie just the two of you. A night club is where people try and pull, honestly how many go for the music?
I personally cant see the point in going to night clubs if you have a partner, ie just the two of you. A night club is where people try and pull, honestly how many go for the music?
07-05-2006, 10:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
I don't agree with most of the above, I'm afraid.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
But then she also craved attention, we used to argue whenever she wanted to go out, me not wanting her to because i knew what she would be out doing. Now we've split up, like, 18 months down the line, i still hear from her, still tells me she misses me, tells me she loves me, and admits that she liked the arguing about when she wanted to go out because it showed her i cared about her, which i don't anymore, and she can't handle that fact.
Theres needs to be a balance, if you act like you completely don't care what they do, they will more likely either get complacent, or cheat just because they know they can get away with it or BOTH!!!!
07-05-2006, 11:00 AM
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Originally Posted by The Usual Suspect
well that depends mate dont it if youve had a good history of relationships then fairs youve not experienced how it can fuck you up for years when it ends have a few of those and you,ll never trust anyone again or will take along time to trust what do you say to those people? dont ever have another misus cause your stupid?
But ive never had one fail where being overly jealous would have saved it!
07-05-2006, 11:04 AM
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Originally Posted by tonyk
There is no 100% answer to a question like this, because most people are different as you can see by the opinions above and its all ok until it happens to you.
I personally cant see the point in going to night clubs if you have a partner, ie just the two of you. A night club is where people try and pull, honestly how many go for the music?
I personally cant see the point in going to night clubs if you have a partner, ie just the two of you. A night club is where people try and pull, honestly how many go for the music?
07-05-2006, 11:11 AM
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Showed the mrs this post (to get her view first) and her responce was
"I'd talk to someone, but if someone offered to buy me a drink I'd tell em that I have a boyfriend. Because men only want to buy you a drink to get in your knickers. And I'd certainly not dance with anyone unless they were friends."
Which is just how I feel aboutbit really.
"I'd talk to someone, but if someone offered to buy me a drink I'd tell em that I have a boyfriend. Because men only want to buy you a drink to get in your knickers. And I'd certainly not dance with anyone unless they were friends."
Which is just how I feel aboutbit really.
07-05-2006, 11:18 AM
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Of course I'd let her get drinks bought for her. If she's out with all her mates and can have a night out without spending all my money, that's great. I know she won't run off with some spiky haried gimp cos I'm the best shag on this planet. 
07-05-2006, 11:18 AM
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Showed the mrs this post (to get her view first) and her responce was
"I'd talk to someone, but if someone offered to buy me a drink I'd tell em that I have a boyfriend. Because men only want to buy you a drink to get in your knickers. And I'd certainly not dance with anyone unless they were friends."
Which is just how I feel aboutbit really.
"I'd talk to someone, but if someone offered to buy me a drink I'd tell em that I have a boyfriend. Because men only want to buy you a drink to get in your knickers. And I'd certainly not dance with anyone unless they were friends."
Which is just how I feel aboutbit really.
07-05-2006, 11:38 AM
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Paranoia has ruined a fair proportion of my life and been a cause of over 80% of teh fights ive ever had. Its not something thats easily controlled and is definately caused by life experiences. 
Sadly, some people on here have experienced my jealousy first hand, but
i am getting far far better nowadays thanks to Nicole's patience and I am finally starting to realise ive nothing to worry about. Its really nice.
Nicole is quite the opposite, she is happy for me to go out every night i fancy, to lap dancing or clubs and she genuinely isnt worried at all. Its i wierd feeling, but id pay good money to feel so relaxed about it. I realy would.
Me. 100%.
No interest in pulling, quite happy as i am, just love the music, the atmosphere and the dancing.
Mind you, we do have some serious clubs here, and the venue has to be right for it to work.
Sadly, some people on here have experienced my jealousy first hand, but
i am getting far far better nowadays thanks to Nicole's patience and I am finally starting to realise ive nothing to worry about. Its really nice.
Nicole is quite the opposite, she is happy for me to go out every night i fancy, to lap dancing or clubs and she genuinely isnt worried at all. Its i wierd feeling, but id pay good money to feel so relaxed about it. I realy would.
Originally Posted by tonyk
how many go for the music?
No interest in pulling, quite happy as i am, just love the music, the atmosphere and the dancing.
Mind you, we do have some serious clubs here, and the venue has to be right for it to work.
07-05-2006, 11:49 AM
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Originally Posted by Rab
Of course I'd let her get drinks bought for her. If she's out with all her mates and can have a night out without spending all my money, that's great. I know she won't run off with some spiky haried gimp cos I'm the best shag on this planet.
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My wife is quite controlling.I caught her in bed with the milkman and she begged me not to tell the postman
07-05-2006, 12:00 PM
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The green eyed monster hides in all of us, and I don't mean the incredible hulk
Some have it a lot, some have it a little. All in needs is a bit of control
Some have it a lot, some have it a little. All in needs is a bit of control
07-05-2006, 12:11 PM
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i can get jealous but until i know i have reason to i don't show it, which is what has happened with me in the past, and because i haven't shown, my partner pushed their luck a little too far and that just caused so many problems and so much heartache.
maybe things happen for a reason though guys eh?
maybe things happen for a reason though guys eh?
07-05-2006, 12:13 PM
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Originally Posted by mercury grey minter
My wife is quite controlling.I caught her in bed with the milkman and she begged me not to tell the postman
07-05-2006, 12:27 PM
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tbh i know flirting is pretty bad, and i can understand why guys get mad and jealous when girls do, because i know i have spoken to guys and my ex bf was upset saying i was flirting, but i never meant it to be like that, i was just trying to be the guys friend. and its not til now that i have realised the actual reality of how it all works between guys and girls.
07-05-2006, 12:27 PM
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I used to get upset when girls talked to my bloke etc etc, but now i've come to the conclusion that evryones human and why should i stop anyone talking to anyone, as long as i dont get hurt i don't care. But at the end of the day why should i worry over my man cheating and putting myself through the trauma! coz if its gonna happen its gonna happen and there aint anythng i can do. But i know damn well i wouldn't cheat and i know damn well my man wouldn't, so it's all good really LOL
But if a woman were to buy him a drink that cool, if she were to dance with him that's not cool
But if a woman were to buy him a drink that cool, if she were to dance with him that's not cool
07-05-2006, 12:43 PM
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It is all about trust i think. I would let the missus go out with whoever she wants. Going to down the clubs with her mates etc etc doesn't really bother me. She lets me do the same.........
i would say 75% of the time i just go out for the atmosphere. 25% of the time on specific drum+bass nights! Clubbing is not all about pulling someone, i went out last night with a few friends and has a blast. The night is what you make it IMO!
i would say 75% of the time i just go out for the atmosphere. 25% of the time on specific drum+bass nights! Clubbing is not all about pulling someone, i went out last night with a few friends and has a blast. The night is what you make it IMO!
07-05-2006, 12:48 PM
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whats the point going out to places with your partner where you can dance when you cannot dance with anyone else except boyfriend and girlfriend.
everyone dances with everyone when they are out,be a totally different scene if all the couples were only dancing with each other.
when you are out alone surely you dance with othere women/men,so why change when your partner s with you.
Go out,have a good laugh,dance with anyone you want and then go home knowing you had a really good night out and then wandering when you are going out next.
everyone dances with everyone when they are out,be a totally different scene if all the couples were only dancing with each other.
when you are out alone surely you dance with othere women/men,so why change when your partner s with you.
Go out,have a good laugh,dance with anyone you want and then go home knowing you had a really good night out and then wandering when you are going out next.
07-05-2006, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
I don't agree with most of the above, I'm afraid.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
so true
07-05-2006, 08:07 PM
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Originally Posted by COSSIENUTS
Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
I don't agree with most of the above, I'm afraid.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
so true
Surely if they are tempted they aint the right one...........The clue is in the program name....
I seriously cant see how controlling someone can save a relationship....
Surly if you find yourelf having to control someone and hold them back as they may do something then is it not already too late.....
07-05-2006, 09:02 PM
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Originally Posted by JoeRST
Originally Posted by COSSIENUTS
Originally Posted by Christian and Beccy
I don't agree with most of the above, I'm afraid.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
"You snooze, you lose"
If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'
Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.
Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.
Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.
so true
Surely if they are tempted they aint the right one...........The clue is in the program name....
I seriously cant see how controlling someone can save a relationship....
Surly if you find yourelf having to control someone and hold them back as they may do something then is it not already too late.....
I imagine that if George Clooney clocked onto my missus, she might just make the descision to leave me behind and I can't say I would blame her. That doesn't mean that I don't want to be with her because one day she might clear off with some rich celebrity. That's just a slightly more extreme example, to back up my point.
No-one can predict the future and we all have different feelings at different times and all it takes is the right (wrong?) recipe and you can make what you later realise is a mistake, but by that time it could be too late to save your relationship.
07-05-2006, 09:09 PM
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Re: Who would let there other half..........
Originally Posted by JoeRST
Right just a quick one,
Who on here would be ok with there other half getting drinks bought for them when they out by the opposite sex...
For example my good lady goes out with her mates and will except drinks from other blokes and birds
She will also have a dance and chat with them...
I dont mind, infact when its with another lady i encorage it....
But who lets there other half have a little flirt and a chat with the lads...?
Who on here would be ok with there other half getting drinks bought for them when they out by the opposite sex...
For example my good lady goes out with her mates and will except drinks from other blokes and birds
She will also have a dance and chat with them...
I dont mind, infact when its with another lady i encorage it....
But who lets there other half have a little flirt and a chat with the lads...?
07-05-2006, 09:11 PM
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Despite me being an ugly bstad with a merely avg size willy i've been lucky enough to have relationships with some seriously fit women who used to get asked for photographs when we were out.
Mad thing is, because i didn't expect to see them again and viewed them out of my league, i never really got attached to them, so when we went out i was the most un-jealous person in the world...i really could not give a fk if blokes came onto them and they flirted etc...but this had the opposite effect of making them more keen on me...don't think they were used to a bloke not being all of over them.
I can be jealous and have been with less attractive gf's and this has caused problems and alot of heartache. Anyway good thread interesting reading.
Mad thing is, because i didn't expect to see them again and viewed them out of my league, i never really got attached to them, so when we went out i was the most un-jealous person in the world...i really could not give a fk if blokes came onto them and they flirted etc...but this had the opposite effect of making them more keen on me...don't think they were used to a bloke not being all of over them.
I can be jealous and have been with less attractive gf's and this has caused problems and alot of heartache. Anyway good thread interesting reading.
07-05-2006, 09:18 PM
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Eil im usually there mate. but also know that she wouldnt refuse a drink/dance for worry of me getting upset....
Oh i also have fun when im out...........What is good for the goose and all that.....
Like someone has already said in this post i would rather a bird other blokes want then some swamp donkey that scares little kids away...
Oh i also have fun when im out...........What is good for the goose and all that.....
Like someone has already said in this post i would rather a bird other blokes want then some swamp donkey that scares little kids away...
