Originally Posted by
Ginge !
no i just thought that you wasnt getting some sort of bond for the kids,, alot of people do this as " its not there kid" but needs to be thought of as your getting a relationship with 3 people and not one
maybe its cause im a parent i think different but moving in with someone with kids is TOTALLY differnt to moving a bird in
Im getting a good bond except when they come back from the biological father as he teaches them rude phrases to say about the mother and me and its quite hard explaining to them why those words are bad and why they should say it. Luckiliy they are young enough and niaive enough to say when questioned "daddy says to say this to mummy's boyfriend" etc
She was quite clear when things started getting serious that its a package with the kids.
Originally Posted by
Ginge !
IMO you should keep things as they are till you wanna get married IMO as you could be held responsable after 2 years to house them DUE to her having kids,,,, becomes comon law and it WILL be the kids ACTUAL HOME,,,,, no mater if you aint the dad or not
Im not a fan of marriage in a religous sense, or all the ceremony stuff. Niether is she.