she hasnt got a home to loose as shes living in a homeless hostel, so im not taking them from any house.
The biological father is an arsehole whos not paying maintenance and who even now only bothers to turn up for access 50% of the weekends he agreed to, then palms them off on his mum so he can go on the piss with his mates. They wernt married and CSA havent chased him yet, and whenever hes threatened with court for access he behaves for a few weeks then becomes shitty again!!
And on the comment about how the father would feel, surely its better the kids are in a decent house for 6 months than staying in the hostel. plus i wouldnt throw them on the street anyway. Im not an arsehole and would have no problem helping her get a private rent which she can claim Housing benefit on if we split up.
I think worst case in almost all situations!! Its not a problem with our reationship which is very strong!!,but a mental issue with me. I have 4 smoke alarms, 2 fire extinguishers, escape breathing apparaus, not forgetting the extendable ladder is kept upstairs so escape from first floor is possible if needs be!! ....... etc etc etc just in case the house catches fire
imagine how you would feel moving in with her,,,, and YOU have 2 kids,,,, then 6 months down the line your kids aint got a home ???
That i do accept but when the relationship ends surely for maintenance purposes its only the biological father that has life long responsibility??? otherwise thousands of dodgy dads would legally be able to stop paying maintenance, forever, when the mum goes into a new relationship.