Originally Posted by
Ginge !
VERY VERY VERY true
cause your taking her in,,,, you are doing just that,,, THEN the KIDS come first,, dont make a difference if your or not as YOU agreed for them to not have a house TO have yours
kids are what they go on,,, how would you feel if your kids went to live with some other bloke then one day she and him split and the kids are BACK in a hostel
let them get a place OR get over the fact that you are sharing your house with her,,,, fuck me shes gonna be giving up HER chance t live somewhere with her kids
oh and the fact your even comming up with this worry tells me you AINT ready for a relatiionship with her
imagine how you would feel moving in with her,,,, and YOU have 2 kids,,,, then 6 months down the line your kids aint got a home ???
kids come first and ANYONE whos shagging the mum HAS to accept the kids as there own,,,, otherwise find a bird without kids
All very true
From a different perspective, people saying about taking on another blokes kids, well there is NO WAY id want anyone taking on my son, if it meant my ex moved into my house even with another bloke, and I lived in a shit hole, then so be it, no way would my son be living in some shitty hostel, and dont understand how any bloke could see his kids (no matter how much he now hates the mother) living like that
House would still stay in my name and when my son wanted to move out then thats when she could fuck right off.
But maybe there would be another way like I get to keep my son, he lives with me, and she can make her own way in life, she can come visit him etc. Am lucky I guess cos my split aint nothing like that, very ammicable, get to see my son whenever i want, still do lots of stuff as a family (hell get on better with the ex now than for a long while lol), and financialy it just better for the ex to have him, he does get a better life that way, cos the other way I would have to give up my current reasonably paid job to be there for him, as it is now he gets the love and the money
Steve