It usually starts by naming the roles honestly, even if they feel uncomfortable. One person may handle daily decisions, while others help intermittently, and that imbalance can strain relationships if it goes unspoken. Learning about the primary vs secondary caregiver dynamic can help frame the discussion, and resources like
Primary vs Secondary Caregiver give language to what many families feel but can’t articulate. Clear boundaries, regular check-ins, and shared respect go a long way.