relationship problems how to fix it?
19-05-2010, 05:38 PM
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relationship problems how to fix it?
basically been with my girlfriend for year and half now, when i first got with her i was laidback, didnt get stressy could trust her, never got paranoid, could have a joke,
lsat night she said she aint happy, said she misses the old me she meer year and half ago, as now i get paranoid if she goes out, i get abit clingy, il text her if she aint text me back for a while ill text her again and so on, how can i get back to my normal self again?
just some advice please guys thanks
lsat night she said she aint happy, said she misses the old me she meer year and half ago, as now i get paranoid if she goes out, i get abit clingy, il text her if she aint text me back for a while ill text her again and so on, how can i get back to my normal self again?
just some advice please guys thanks
19-05-2010, 05:46 PM
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Get a life independant of hers. Ie go out with your own mates, get a hobby or project, something thats yours and only yours. You need your own space otherwise it wont last
19-05-2010, 05:47 PM
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just let go, just give her enough rope to hang herself, but also go and have a life of your own so..
1. you will be pre-occupied so won't think about her
2. you will be apart so it will give both of you space
3. make the most of being apart, as if you get married all you will do is see each other and even an angle can get irritating.
hope this helps
1. you will be pre-occupied so won't think about her
2. you will be apart so it will give both of you space
3. make the most of being apart, as if you get married all you will do is see each other and even an angle can get irritating.
hope this helps
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19-05-2010, 06:12 PM
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your a bit young for all that serious shit mate, you need to get out there and enjoy yourself a bit, if you keep being clingy and smothering your bird she'll prob just tell you fuck off. it looks like your being the perfect boyfriend and she's not appreciatting it, so you might need to ask her what she actually wants out your relationship as said most birds love loads of attention, she might not want a serious relationship and thats probably what you dont want to hear so you really need to ask her
when she go's out with her mates then you go out with yours or find something to do. If you keep going on the way you's are then it wont last long
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19-05-2010, 06:17 PM
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If a bird is going to cheat on you she will, you wont stop it. Being para and annoying her will only make he more likely to do it as other blokes will seem far more fun to be with than you.
If she is asking you to chill out, then do it, if she flee's then she flee's she would have gone anyhow.
Your only young, she is unlikely to be your life partner so enjoy some nights out and nuts in.
If she is asking you to chill out, then do it, if she flee's then she flee's she would have gone anyhow.
Your only young, she is unlikely to be your life partner so enjoy some nights out and nuts in.
19-05-2010, 06:51 PM
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As someone has already said, if she's going to leave you, she will. Nothing you can do about it.
So why stress?? If she does go away with another bloke, then that means you're single and can get down the pubs and have some random shags from loads of dirty burds!
Women's behaviour is stuck in an evolutionary hole. They can't help it, it's all about providing for babies. So, if they get the attention of a fella who has more money than you, you're single again basically.... So, worrying about it will get you nowhere.
Anyways, my advice?
Just crack on with your life, tell her if she's not happy then she may go. I bet that will make her realise that you will be just fine without her thus, in the logical female way, make her want to keep you even more. Odd but true!
So why stress?? If she does go away with another bloke, then that means you're single and can get down the pubs and have some random shags from loads of dirty burds!
Women's behaviour is stuck in an evolutionary hole. They can't help it, it's all about providing for babies. So, if they get the attention of a fella who has more money than you, you're single again basically.... So, worrying about it will get you nowhere.
Anyways, my advice?
Just crack on with your life, tell her if she's not happy then she may go. I bet that will make her realise that you will be just fine without her thus, in the logical female way, make her want to keep you even more. Odd but true!
19-05-2010, 07:03 PM
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19-05-2010, 07:03 PM
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I wouldn't say a 'clingy' partner is a perfect partner.
By acting the way you are she's more likely to do something to make you paranoid. So you've either got to chill out and give her space, or realise that you're not compatable.
If you stop being so full on she may well miss the attention, and end up being more attentive, which in turn will make you more trusting, and hey presto - relationship fixed
But seriously, sometimes people can be together for the wrong reasons, and the relationship slowly declines until you reach a point when you wonder why the fuck you've wasted so much of your life with her.
By acting the way you are she's more likely to do something to make you paranoid. So you've either got to chill out and give her space, or realise that you're not compatable.
If you stop being so full on she may well miss the attention, and end up being more attentive, which in turn will make you more trusting, and hey presto - relationship fixed
But seriously, sometimes people can be together for the wrong reasons, and the relationship slowly declines until you reach a point when you wonder why the fuck you've wasted so much of your life with her.
19-05-2010, 07:05 PM
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i got like this with my other half a while ago , but relised it just made me look a fool , how would you feel if say u when to your mates and she texed you asking were r u what u doing, who you with ect .... then lets say your having a few beers playin ps3 and you dont relised shes tex ect ect just think of it like that i did and everything sorted its self out , 
19-05-2010, 07:06 PM
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If a bird is going to cheat on you she will, you wont stop it. Being para and annoying her will only make he more likely to do it as other blokes will seem far more fun to be with than you.
If she is asking you to chill out, then do it, if she flee's then she flee's she would have gone anyhow.
Your only young, she is unlikely to be your life partner so enjoy some nights out and nuts in.
If she is asking you to chill out, then do it, if she flee's then she flee's she would have gone anyhow.
Your only young, she is unlikely to be your life partner so enjoy some nights out and nuts in.
Don't worry about all the people telling your you're too young to be settled down. They are probably just saying this because they feel they wasted their time in relationships at that age. But anything you want is a worthwhile experience in life.
This is about the age you can start having decent relationships.
19-05-2010, 07:25 PM
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Man i hate stuff like this i was with this las for 3 years nearly then i started getting exactly how you describe now we aint together 
its been nearly a year and i still feel like crap no girl is good enough now and i miss her like mad somtimes things just doint seem doing without her so please dear lord dont do what i done if you hold on to tight shes just gunna slip aways from you.
good luck mate hope it turnes out better for you than it has for me.
its been nearly a year and i still feel like crap no girl is good enough now and i miss her like mad somtimes things just doint seem doing without her so please dear lord dont do what i done if you hold on to tight shes just gunna slip aways from you.good luck mate hope it turnes out better for you than it has for me.
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19-05-2010, 07:31 PM
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Man i hate stuff like this i was with this las for 3 years nearly then i started getting exactly how you describe now we aint together its been nearly a year and i still feel like crap no girl is good enough now and i miss her like mad somtimes things just doint seem doing without her so please dear lord dont do what i done if you hold on to tight shes just gunna slip aways from you.
good luck mate hope it turnes out better for you than it has for me.
its been nearly a year and i still feel like crap no girl is good enough now and i miss her like mad somtimes things just doint seem doing without her so please dear lord dont do what i done if you hold on to tight shes just gunna slip aways from you.good luck mate hope it turnes out better for you than it has for me.
meh , you too should take my advice
19-05-2010, 07:33 PM
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just do what she is doing going out having a laugh, let her see you talking to other girls and if she's into you it'll all be on the other foot
Grow a set of Balls man and turn the situation round let her come running to you then take her home and smash her Pasty right in
Grow a set of Balls man and turn the situation round let her come running to you then take her home and smash her Pasty right in
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just do what she is doing going out having a laugh, let her see you talking to other girls and if she's into you it'll all be on the other foot
Grow a set of Balls man and turn the situation round let her come running to you then take her home and smash her Pasty right in
Grow a set of Balls man and turn the situation round let her come running to you then take her home and smash her Pasty right in
LMFAO nearly fell of my chair.
19-05-2010, 07:54 PM
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like i said it started off fucking great we could both do what we wanted no questions asked basically, then we saw each other she was happy to see me, then i turned got paranoid etc, then started to go shit, i keep telling her ill change etc, ill goback to my old self it takes time, but not sure what she thinks really, i think it will be ok, fucking hope so anyway,
19-05-2010, 07:59 PM
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like i said it started off fucking great we could both do what we wanted no questions asked basically, then we saw each other she was happy to see me, then i turned got paranoid etc, then started to go shit, i keep telling her ill change etc, ill goback to my old self it takes time, but not sure what she thinks really, i think it will be ok, fucking hope so anyway,
why should you be the 1 to change?
19-05-2010, 08:12 PM
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19-05-2010, 08:19 PM
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19-05-2010, 08:21 PM
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When i was younger the love of my life ditch me, I was heart broken and it took over a year, maybe more to really get over it.
Funny thing is that years on we got to know each other a little and I couldn't stand her, nothing in common, same annoying traits etc.
Just after a break up you can only remember the good things, as time moves on your remember the annoying things about them, and in time it feels like it never happened and you struggle to remember much of the relationship at all.
Funny thing is that years on we got to know each other a little and I couldn't stand her, nothing in common, same annoying traits etc.
Just after a break up you can only remember the good things, as time moves on your remember the annoying things about them, and in time it feels like it never happened and you struggle to remember much of the relationship at all.
19-05-2010, 08:21 PM
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19-05-2010, 08:22 PM
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ps, not to say you are breaking up, you just need to make a point of not pestering her when she is out and not looking over her all the time.
like I say, if she is looking to leave she will leave, but she may not so why drive her to it.
like I say, if she is looking to leave she will leave, but she may not so why drive her to it.
19-05-2010, 08:23 PM
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19-05-2010, 08:26 PM
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he said they do it different compared to south yorks so anything over 95mph had to be done via court and not done roadside, got me at 97
he said more then likely you will get a letter saying 3 points and £60 if not will be 5 points and a day out 
and dont you wanna take her anyway?