Mate "came out" yesterday... People being **** to him.. rant/
28-09-2009 | 01:50 PM
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and its not a case of being sexually repressed, but doing what you want behind closed doors and not feel the need to tell the outside world all about it.all your doing is making your kids a target for future bullying. things have a habit of turning up when you least want or expect it.
i might not care for my kids mum but i used to and i wouldnt wish her any harm, its not bitter just fizzled out but i put my personal happiness behind that of my kids, as long as they are happy then its all good as thats all that matters.
it makes no difference what you do with whom or how many , whatever turns you and your wife on but id be wary of letting everyone else know so much about it.
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28-09-2009 | 01:51 PM
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28-09-2009 | 01:57 PM
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I have a few gay/lesbian friends, one of which is my sister, i have no issue with gay/lesbians what so ever, i have also been out to gay bars and everytime had an excellent night out, the atmosphere is much more relaxed and ya dont get the fighting attitude ya get when ya to a straight place!
One your mates friends have taken it all in, they will realise that he is the same person that they know and love, and will accept him for who he is!
well done to your mate for being brave enough to come out in the first place!
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One your mates friends have taken it all in, they will realise that he is the same person that they know and love, and will accept him for who he is!
well done to your mate for being brave enough to come out in the first place!
x
28-09-2009 | 02:06 PM
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its not a case of your kids being broadminded enough but the other kids and parents being broadminded enough not to make your kids daily school lives hell with the tormenting that kids will do with this sort of ammo when they come across(not litrally) pictures of your wife/their mum getting shagged by who ever.
Considering the number of mums who ARE genuine CHAV sluts out there then im sure any child of Johnys would have plenty of dirt to sling right back at them. I know if I was 12/3 in a few years there would be plenty of dirt to sling at all those bullys as mostly they will have a fucked up background. Not to forget these days a lot of kids are sexually active as young as 13 and theres plenty of 13/14 year old mums so that leaves the average 13/14 year old boy probably going to fancy the young mum of some of his school mates
a new meaning to MILF and probably far more of a kick in the teeth than knowing your mum does swinging! I imagine most kids would be mortified to know school mates want to fuck your mum all the "your mums fit", your mum sucked my cock last night" type jaunts. With swinging its a bit of a "so what" these days. Where as being a teen mum is the new taboo!!!
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28-09-2009 | 02:29 PM
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The age at which kids should have access to such pornographic material is the age at which they will understand whats going on anyway!!! They might cringe at knowing mummy takes loads of mens cock in all holes but secretly theyd be wishing theyd meet a girl who takes it all ways as much as they can get so it wouldnt be that bad reallllyyyyyy.
that leaves the average 13/14 year old boy probably going to fancy the young mum of some of his school mates a new meaning to MILF
a new meaning to MILF
Thats the original meaning, as per american pie, its one of your mates mums that you want to fuck?
28-09-2009 | 02:42 PM
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I don't think slut(may be male or female) is the correct word in swinging circles. A slut is a person who fuckes anything and has no rules or makes sure she/he is protected.
Warren understands I can see that, but for some reason chip cannot see it.
We are enjoying life to the full and not hurting anybody doing it. You can make the coment that what about my kids, yes there is a odd pick on a FORD forum and it very unlikly it will hit the play ground.
Lets just say if you joined the biggest swinging sites and do a location search you will be surpised what you will find. its getting more and more common.
Warren understands I can see that, but for some reason chip cannot see it.
We are enjoying life to the full and not hurting anybody doing it. You can make the coment that what about my kids, yes there is a odd pick on a FORD forum and it very unlikly it will hit the play ground.
Lets just say if you joined the biggest swinging sites and do a location search you will be surpised what you will find. its getting more and more common.
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28-09-2009 | 02:44 PM
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To me a slut (i dont really like the term TBH as its more derogatory than I intend it to sound) or promiscuous person is someone who has a lot of sex with different partners, I dont see that it makes any difference at all that in a swap you also happen to be fucking someone else at the same time as your partner is doing so, either way you are both being promiscuous IMHO
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28-09-2009 | 02:46 PM
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Im not in swinging circles, and neither are most of the kids in your child's playground probably.
To me a slut (i dont really like the term TBH as its more derogatory than I intend it to sound) or promiscuous person is someone who has a lot of sex with different partners, I dont see that it makes any difference at all that in a swap you also happen to be fucking someone else at the same time as your partner is doing so, either way you are both being promiscuous IMHO
To me a slut (i dont really like the term TBH as its more derogatory than I intend it to sound) or promiscuous person is someone who has a lot of sex with different partners, I dont see that it makes any difference at all that in a swap you also happen to be fucking someone else at the same time as your partner is doing so, either way you are both being promiscuous IMHO
28-09-2009 | 02:50 PM
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according to chambers dictionary a slut is defined as a woman who has many casual sexual relationships.simple as that.
the particular choice of which words are used isnt really anything to bother about.
the particular choice of which words are used isnt really anything to bother about.
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28-09-2009 | 02:56 PM
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Im not in swinging circles, and neither are most of the kids in your child's playground probably, so you are correct that I dont see someone who gets fucked / gagged / buggered by a continual stream of different men as not being a slut just because they happen to be a swinger to
Chip I would say your more of a slut than we are as I bet you more differant partners than we do.
But then again your fat and a crome dome, so even though you are single 10 differant shags a year may be a little tricky for you. lol
28-09-2009 | 03:09 PM
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Chip I would say your more of a slut than we are as I bet you more differant partners than we do.
But then again your fat
and a crome dome
so even though you are single
10 differant shags a year may be a little tricky for you. lol
28-09-2009 | 03:14 PM
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Jonnys partner is not cheating on him, She would be a slut if she was picking anything up for a shag, but its all done with both their concent. And double teaming a girl aint gay, Unless you enjoy someones balls touching yours
anyway fair play to jonny, As him and his Mrs are obviously open about their sexual needs/desires/fantasys etc and mnost couples never even aproach this topic.
anyway fair play to jonny, As him and his Mrs are obviously open about their sexual needs/desires/fantasys etc and mnost couples never even aproach this topic.
28-09-2009 | 03:18 PM
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Of course not, its only cheating if you do something the other doesnt approve of.
The fact someone else says its ok for you to fuck 10 different other blokes a year doesnt stop it being slutty to do so. IMHO
Dont take that as me having a go, im not, I quite like sluts, they arae one of this countries best natural resources just wouldnt want to marry one personally.
People arent critising him for what him and his mrs does, they are consenting adults and she can have as many different cocks up her arse as she wants without it bothering anyone else im sure, Fuzzy's concern was merely centred round the pictures of his mrs doing it and the fact that his kid will get bullied for it if their playground pals find out.
She would be a slut if she was picking anything up for a shag, but its all done with both their concent.
Dont take that as me having a go, im not, I quite like sluts, they arae one of this countries best natural resources
just wouldnt want to marry one personally.
anyway fair play to jonny, As him and his Mrs are obviously open about their sexual needs/desires/fantasys etc and mnost couples never even aproach this topic.
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28-09-2009 | 03:19 PM
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From my oxford dictionary:
Slut a slovenly promiscuous woman.
looking deeper, slovenly means untidy/dirty careless/excessively casual.
promiscuous means characterised by many transient sexual relationships or indescriminate/unselective.
Naomi certainly isnt slovenly!
And from what i understand about swinging circles, the sex is hardly indescriminate/unselective. in fact people are very selective as i understand, because just like any other sex act you still need to be attracted to the person your fucking.
I dont think many of the swinging partners are that transient either. sure some are but from what Johnnys posted on here there are regulars and favourites etc.
So i doubt they fit the definition of promiscuous either (although that is subjective but IMO in modern britain they arent promiscuos).
So that kind of blows the slut thing out the water
cutting!! 
for chip methinks!! Any sex is better than no sex and im damned sure johnny makes sure he has great sex most the time!!!!
Although ive never tried swinging, i can see your perspective and im quite open minded. Chip has quite strong opinions on the matter and is clearly loosing objectivity and therefore unable to see anyones perspective other than his own. I would have expected better off a psychology graduate!
ive got to go give a training session shortly on "Signposting Young People to Contraception and Sexual Health" imagine how much of a burk i will feel if i get tongue twisted and say something from this thread
Slut a slovenly promiscuous woman.
looking deeper, slovenly means untidy/dirty careless/excessively casual.
promiscuous means characterised by many transient sexual relationships or indescriminate/unselective.
Naomi certainly isnt slovenly!
And from what i understand about swinging circles, the sex is hardly indescriminate/unselective. in fact people are very selective as i understand, because just like any other sex act you still need to be attracted to the person your fucking.
I dont think many of the swinging partners are that transient either. sure some are but from what Johnnys posted on here there are regulars and favourites etc.
So i doubt they fit the definition of promiscuous either (although that is subjective but IMO in modern britain they arent promiscuos).
So that kind of blows the slut thing out the water
for chip methinks!! Any sex is better than no sex and im damned sure johnny makes sure he has great sex most the time!!!! ive got to go give a training session shortly on "Signposting Young People to Contraception and Sexual Health" imagine how much of a burk i will feel if i get tongue twisted and say something from this thread
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28-09-2009 | 03:22 PM
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I think you will find swinging actually makes them a stronger couple and probably contributes to why they are still together Where as many a marriage breaks up due to men who cant satisfy thier partner, sexual boredom, monotony etc.
ooohh the irony
Where as many a marriage breaks up due to men who cant satisfy thier partner, sexual boredom, monotony etc.ooohh the irony
28-09-2009 | 03:25 PM
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Although ive never tried swinging, i can see your perspective and im quite open minded. Chip has quite strong opinions on the matter and is clearly loosing obectivity and therefore unable to see anyones perspective other than his own. I would have expected better off a psychology graduate!
That doesnt mean I dont understand the psychology of it, I do, I just dont personally relate to it, thats something different and you misunderstood my comments if you are viewing not relating to something and not understanding it as the same thing, possibly because I worded if badly (ICBA to go check TBH), so if that was the case I can only apologise.
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28-09-2009 | 03:25 PM
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28-09-2009 | 03:27 PM
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Of course mate, I am WELL aware of that.
If you are married to or dating a bird who has a yearning for a lot of different cock in her life and you try and repress that slutty side of her sexuality then its only ever going to end in resentment from her and ultimately a break up, if you can accept or embrace it like Johnny has then odds are you are both going to live a long and happy life together.
I would be surprisid if the average length of marriage in swingers isnt higher than that in non swingers in fact.
28-09-2009 | 03:51 PM
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I just dont like the camp ones that act and talk like girls , especially the ones that claim " I can turn any straight man gay" attitude. end of the day ,I dont care about them or their lives. so I ignore them
28-09-2009 | 04:12 PM
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A friend i have had since i was 6 or 7 got a group of us for a drink for something he wanted to tell us. He said he is gay and hopes it wont effect friendships etc.
Infact i was a little offended he thought his sexuality would be a problem for our friendship, but end of the day, it takes some balls doing that so fair play..
Anyway, A few people aint talking to him now.... wtf. and his Dad is not talking to him etc. I mean wtf is wrong with people, I really dont understand.
Today had a few arguments with these people including his dad. I am really shocked and disgusted by some of the comments i heared today. thought this was 2009 not 1809.
Would it bother you if your best mate was gay?
****** Was going to put it in the muppet room, but thought better not as the comments it will get
Infact i was a little offended he thought his sexuality would be a problem for our friendship, but end of the day, it takes some balls doing that so fair play..
Anyway, A few people aint talking to him now.... wtf. and his Dad is not talking to him etc. I mean wtf is wrong with people, I really dont understand.
Today had a few arguments with these people including his dad. I am really shocked and disgusted by some of the comments i heared today. thought this was 2009 not 1809.
Would it bother you if your best mate was gay?
****** Was going to put it in the muppet room, but thought better not as the comments it will get
28-09-2009 | 04:37 PM
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Fair play I reckon Dan, I dont see why anyone would abuse you for that, ive had a 4 some with 3 birds and it was good fun, so im sure a 4 some with 3 blokes is too if you happen to be into blokes!
28-09-2009 | 04:40 PM
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We can't help who we are at the end of the day. Being a bottom feeder isn't a disease or way of life, it's just one of those things. Look at me for example - those who know me said they would never of guessed unless I had told them.
What pisses me off the most is the fact they we are steriotyped into mincing faggy whorebags who prance around fucking about with peoples hair styles for a living - when in fact that just isn't true at all. The people who do that are the overly camp ones and I would guess that 99% of them had a repressed upbringing where in their family circle being gay was an extreme no-no and now that they are out of that circle they can pretend to be someone they arn't.
Another thing that really really infuriates me is the so called "Gay pride" shit that goes on. You don't get "straight pride" or "thalidomide pride" parades so why the fuck do a gay one? Don't get me wrong, I'm all for equal treatment in life and the workplace, but come-on, if we want that when we are gay then why the buggeryfuck do some minorities of the gay community think it's approriate to have a big fagfest with loads of mincing queenie twats prancing about saying how proud they are of taking it up the shitter - It is these people who are the first in the queue to scream discrimination in the workplace or homophobic abuse should someone crack a joke - They are the joke in reality and need to man up a lot. I have a good laugh with people at work about the whole gay thing and no-one gives a shit about what I get upto in my private life - which is the way it should be. If someone calls me someone along the lines of a bum raper at work then I reply with something equally as offensive and we all have a laugh - simples
Anyway, I've gone off topic a bit really.
Elvis - It takes a big pair of man coconuts to "come out" as it were. The people your mate is having issues with will see sence pretty soon and things will settle down
What pisses me off the most is the fact they we are steriotyped into mincing faggy whorebags who prance around fucking about with peoples hair styles for a living - when in fact that just isn't true at all. The people who do that are the overly camp ones and I would guess that 99% of them had a repressed upbringing where in their family circle being gay was an extreme no-no and now that they are out of that circle they can pretend to be someone they arn't.
Another thing that really really infuriates me is the so called "Gay pride" shit that goes on. You don't get "straight pride" or "thalidomide pride" parades so why the fuck do a gay one? Don't get me wrong, I'm all for equal treatment in life and the workplace, but come-on, if we want that when we are gay then why the buggeryfuck do some minorities of the gay community think it's approriate to have a big fagfest with loads of mincing queenie twats prancing about saying how proud they are of taking it up the shitter - It is these people who are the first in the queue to scream discrimination in the workplace or homophobic abuse should someone crack a joke - They are the joke in reality and need to man up a lot. I have a good laugh with people at work about the whole gay thing and no-one gives a shit about what I get upto in my private life - which is the way it should be. If someone calls me someone along the lines of a bum raper at work then I reply with something equally as offensive and we all have a laugh - simples
Anyway, I've gone off topic a bit really.
Elvis - It takes a big pair of man coconuts to "come out" as it were. The people your mate is having issues with will see sence pretty soon and things will settle down
28-09-2009 | 07:01 PM
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one of my best mates who i have known my whole life came out last year, hasnt changed a thing between us.. still realy good mates & still talk & laugh about the same stuff 