Chaps, let's have an opinion on this....
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Chaps, let's have an opinion on this....
Not normally one for airy personal laundry in public, but I'd be intrigued to get some sensible opinions on this situation:
I tried to get in touch with the missus about midday yesterday. Didn't get an answer so popped to her place and rang the bell a couple of times. Still no answer, so I guessed she was in the shower or was already out.
As I walk back to the car and jump in, I mess about with the radio for a couple of minutes then make my way off to get some lunch, only to see her and a colleague from work exit her house! Both spot me as I drive past (open mouthed I might add) and end up getting some panicky phone call asking me to "come back for a chat"!
So I went back for a chat. It turns out that this other person is a good friend and had just popped round on the off chance. She decided not to tell me because she was worried about my reaction, hence the reasons for not answering the door or the phone. She obviously never gave any thought to how I would react having seen them skulk out of the house, as she didn't expect that to happen.
Maybe I'm over-reacting but I can't help but feel a bit put out by it all. Not so long ago, she arranged to go out on a motorbike ride with a couple of other guys from work and one of the local paramedics (who had been really active in texting her). She doesn't ride so she would have been a pillion passenger - The work guys dropped out, so she just went off with the paramedic guy. Again, it was something which she kept unusually quiet.
Now, I'm not a clingy type and I have looked at this rationally. She maintains that nothing is going on with any other person.....I'm inclined to trust her but I can't help but think I'm being taken for a ride. I do think a lot of her but my trust in her is taking a real hammering!
Ideas / viewpoints/ opinions / experiences?
I tried to get in touch with the missus about midday yesterday. Didn't get an answer so popped to her place and rang the bell a couple of times. Still no answer, so I guessed she was in the shower or was already out.
As I walk back to the car and jump in, I mess about with the radio for a couple of minutes then make my way off to get some lunch, only to see her and a colleague from work exit her house! Both spot me as I drive past (open mouthed I might add) and end up getting some panicky phone call asking me to "come back for a chat"!
So I went back for a chat. It turns out that this other person is a good friend and had just popped round on the off chance. She decided not to tell me because she was worried about my reaction, hence the reasons for not answering the door or the phone. She obviously never gave any thought to how I would react having seen them skulk out of the house, as she didn't expect that to happen.
Maybe I'm over-reacting but I can't help but feel a bit put out by it all. Not so long ago, she arranged to go out on a motorbike ride with a couple of other guys from work and one of the local paramedics (who had been really active in texting her). She doesn't ride so she would have been a pillion passenger - The work guys dropped out, so she just went off with the paramedic guy. Again, it was something which she kept unusually quiet.
Now, I'm not a clingy type and I have looked at this rationally. She maintains that nothing is going on with any other person.....I'm inclined to trust her but I can't help but think I'm being taken for a ride. I do think a lot of her but my trust in her is taking a real hammering!
Ideas / viewpoints/ opinions / experiences?
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Send her packing mate, she's getting pumped...... That story about 'your reaction' is a crock of shite. If they were having a cup of tea she'd have answered the door, pretty simple. If you were having a cuppa with a bird you worked with and your doorbell rang would you hide in silence? No? Pile of shit.
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By not answering the phone or door is obviously gonna make you more suss imo,it could of been anyone at the door why not answer it? especially when she sees you straight after she left.phoning you was probably just to ease her consciense.Somethings up somewhere,no lass of mine wud be out biking wiv some other bloke like, just dont seem right, wud she like you out wiv a lass you work wiv,i think not!
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something is not right with you and your partner, sit her down and have it out with her mate.
DONT be taken in by what every one tells you
ITS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER
Good luck
DONT be taken in by what every one tells you
ITS BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR PARTNER
Good luck
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Sounds to me like she's getting cum thrown at her from every bloke in town apart from you.
Get her chucked, move on and forget about her!
If you can't trust her 100% then its always gonna be in the back of your mind that she's up to something, so find someone you can trust!
Get her chucked, move on and forget about her!
If you can't trust her 100% then its always gonna be in the back of your mind that she's up to something, so find someone you can trust!
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I used to say. If you have reason to believe someone is upto something, then they are!
If someone has the need to hide things from you, then there is a reason for it. If she knew you would react or be bothered, so didn't tell you why did she put herself into that situation in the first place? She obviously has no respect for you or she would be honest and include you in it if you wanted (Going out or whatever). She didn't tell you for a reason and that is she dont like 3 somes
If someone has the need to hide things from you, then there is a reason for it. If she knew you would react or be bothered, so didn't tell you why did she put herself into that situation in the first place? She obviously has no respect for you or she would be honest and include you in it if you wanted (Going out or whatever). She didn't tell you for a reason and that is she dont like 3 somes
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Elwood it STINKS mate! Trust me, I've fallen foul of misplaced loyalty too and I agonise over the wasted months and years.
Really mate, every warning bell is ringing on this one.
Walk away.
Really mate, every warning bell is ringing on this one.
Walk away.
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Think of it like this...If you had a lady round for a coffee it would be for the simple fact you'd be trying to bone her(unless she is shit hot wi the spanners).... Tell her you have got an sti and she needs to make an appointment to see the nob doctor.....Thats not somewhere for subaru owners to visit by the way......Although
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Any ladies want to chip in on this for a rounded argument?
Honest male opinions on the double.
Any ladies want to chip in on this for a rounded argument?
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get her followed about, its handy in a credit crunch as your bound to have some out of work mates who have spare time
shes deffo up to no good but maybe aint gone far, could have been a tester for the banging of a lifetime (wanted to add to the above hyping lol)
1st things 1st, hide the cash and valubles, get a lockset ready incase (should you live together)
shes deffo up to no good but maybe aint gone far, could have been a tester for the banging of a lifetime (wanted to add to the above hyping lol)
1st things 1st, hide the cash and valubles, get a lockset ready incase (should you live together)
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[QUOTE=TerryTibbs;4033682] she needs to make an appointment to see the nob doctor.....Thats not somewhere for subaru owners to visit by the way [QUOTE]
deffo is, well 99% of the scoob owners i know neways
lol
could go in with that 1 but say shes give ya summet and you wanna know where its come from, she cant back out of that 1 if shes has been banging like shit house door in the wind but if she deffo aint then you'll get her denying it to the gutters
deffo is, well 99% of the scoob owners i know neways
lol
could go in with that 1 but say shes give ya summet and you wanna know where its come from, she cant back out of that 1 if shes has been banging like shit house door in the wind but if she deffo aint then you'll get her denying it to the gutters
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I think that there is something fishy going on. Dump her, see if she begs you to go back to her, then tell her to tell all.... then if she admits anything, then fuck her off anyway and find a honest girl (do they exist?)
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If you were going out bike rides with other women and having other women round your place for "coffee", what conclusion do you think she would come to?
The fact you've posted this gives away what you honestly think, deep down?
I would get her to fuck, she doesn't seem the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your days with imo?
The fact you've posted this gives away what you honestly think, deep down?
I would get her to fuck, she doesn't seem the kind of woman you want to spend the rest of your days with imo?