disowning a mate because of something they "do" which i find totally wrong?

This is in YOUR opinions, not going by a rule book which you think we should all adhere to

 

Mate or not, if they are doing something you dont want to be associated with, then fuck them off!

 

it depends how bad it is... if its like biting nails then its over kil... however if its like peadphillia i would fuck them off, then report the cunt!

 

As the guy above says, how bad is/was it.
If he's plumming your mum or sister then so be it, if its farting on public transport then your being abit harsh.

 

good replys and fair points

 

Again depends.....

1) How long have they been your mate?
2) Are they a family friend also?
3) Is what they are ding directly affecting you or just insulting you?
4) Is what they are doing illegal?
and lastly
5) Is what they are doing 'that' bad enough to lose a good friendship over?

 

hmm some things to think about there

 

did this a long time ago now i have no mates

 

Thats the deal breaker aint it

why cant more people be perfect like me?

 

done this myself recently, doing something illegal in my company, when he'd known me from school and knew my feelings on the subject, his loss is the way i look at it!

 

depends what it is. live and let live imo unless its something really serious.

 

Depends. If its drugs or summat it may be worth trying to help before walking away. If its theft or I.D. fraud or some other crime report them and walk away.

What is the 'thing' anyway?

 

if there doing something dodgy and you dnt want to be apart of it the
fuck them off mate

you dnt want to get caught up in something taht might get you in the shit

 

totally pointless question as you havent stated what it is that they "do"....

which is a bit stupid really..

 

Maybe i dont want to say??

 

We can't really give you an opinion on what to do if we don't know the full details to give a judgement on the severity of said 'thing'.

 

then why put up the post...?

How can someone possibly comment whether you should lose a good friend over something that they "do"..? Do they abuse kids..? in that case, yes fuck them off and report then prompto.. or do they pick there nose in front of you... in which case, bit sad to loose a mate over that..

you know what I'm getting at... this post is pointless without stating the "do" bit

 

is it something which is legally wrong. or is it something that goes against your morals?

 

It really does depend on what they've done!!!

Cant really comment though unless we know what the thing is!!

 

maybe he doesnt want to say


I have just recieved a court summons through for speeding.. They clocked me at "XX" mph.. Can anyone tell me what fine and points I'm likel;y to recieve?

 

my morals, thats why im not saying because people like westy will just take the piss.

If i was looking for more accurate opinions then i would tell you all but im not.

 

I wont take the piss...

my money is on... they smoke the 'erb or take a few pills... bit of sniff..??

Drug related

 

Which in moderation, and if you dont let it take over your life, and you save it for special occasions, theres nothing wrong with IMO

 

im just hazarding at a "guess" as GIt tIG wont say

 

its hard to say without knowing what it is, but your morals are what make you, if the thing he does is going to affect you, and make you do things you don't want to do, its not worth being associated with him.
does he know you don't like what he is doing?

 

what a bollox post i agree with westy pointless to give an answer unless we know what they did .

 

I suggest writing to Dear Deidre in the Sun.. at least that way you can keep it anonymous

 

i once disowned a 'mate' not because he done anything i didnt agree about, more because he was a cunt

worked with him for a number of years etc and got on very well, went out on the piss etc etc..

he ended up a fucking liability and would constantly borrow money etc with no thought to pay back.

gladly he got the sack from the company and we gradually lost contact.

not seen him for a few years and i can say that i am better off imo

 

I wonder how your mate would feel if he knew his friendship with you was being debated on an internet forum. If I was him, regardless of what I had done, I would be walking away.

As said above, without knowing this guys crime (morally or legally), then none of us can really give an opinion that you could justify using, when deciding whether to ditch said person or not.

That said, I think maybe you should just give them a slap but stay friends.

 

Simple truth

Its not a matter of legality, its a matter of do you want to get away from something you dont want to be associated with

 

I'd go with this view. I've just fucked someone off, a guy who I thought was a real friend......who I then found out has been pulling a flanker financially off of me and not telling. Ripped me and 2 others and thought he could get away with it and not get caught. Thought he was cleverer than me and I'd never find out.

But I did.

 

I had a little think about this, and reckon you should fuck your mate off, for the simple reason.. why not!

 

I don't need to know what it is they have done, you have said it's totally wrong so I know as much as I need to. Fuck him off mate. Remember though, lots of people might not think it's wrong, but you do.

Benni.

 

Speeding is totally wrong, but I wouldnt dis-own a mate because of it..!!

A freind who claims dole but could easily work.. IMO thats wrong, but I wouldnt dis-own them..!

As already stated, you cannot comment unless the reason is explained in this thread by the author... Jeez, talking about educating the thick

 

yeah exactly, thats why i never actually said what the issue was


Thanks to the people who replied in a constructive manner

 

if he is being total dickhead and he's going out robbing people

and just being a thieving scumbag then kick him in to touch
then disown him

but if he has got problems that you can help with then be a mate and do it

but we really cant comment b'cos we dnt kno what your mates getting
upto

 

You wan't to educate the thick? Lets start with a simple bit of roman numerals shall we?





Any questions, feel free to PM. Most people once seen the chart understand, but I have a strong feeling you won't.

Benni.

 

It was more a general opinion on what would you do if a mate did something YOU think is totally wrong, rather than "what should I do" type of post.

If i was asking that then of course id be stupid for not saying what they did

 

So what you are asking is, what would WE do if someone WE knew did something WE thought was wrong, so what has happend to you is more or less irrelevant? Am I right?

Benni.

 

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