made a major mistake
#1
made a major mistake
my ex is in a major financial mess, i've made the mistake of offering the cossie up for sale to help her out (not for her but her 12 year old son) she's due to be kicked out of her house.. problem is the car is with a car dealer/property guy and i know i'm gonna me pants pulled down car is worth £7k easy big spec 4x4 and she owe's £2500 in rent what do i do? get car back an walk away or do the right thing?
this is doing my head in want to help but i'm skint
advice would be great thanks
this is doing my head in want to help but i'm skint
advice would be great thanks
#3
Is it your fault she is in a financial mess? If not then no, you shouldn't help her. Fair enough you want to do it for the kid, but if its her fault that she is in the mess she is in, then its up to her to get herself out of it
#4
its all her fault she messed up on her mortgage sold her house and wasted £40k or so equity, the reason i feel guilty is she paided for my cossie but i paided her mortgage for 6years at £400 amonth just dont know what to do for the best its easy for people to say walk away but there not in my position
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#8
Walk away, dont be so stupid !!!
She made her bed...wether she done it deliberatly or not she needs to get herself out of it or she'll jus do it again and again if people are gonna bail her out!
She made her bed...wether she done it deliberatly or not she needs to get herself out of it or she'll jus do it again and again if people are gonna bail her out!
#12
get your car back m8 why should you loose what you worked hard for
she a ex m8 her problem not yours if she only owes £2500 she should have spoke to them sooner thats such a small debt something could of been done to stop it going this far
she a ex m8 her problem not yours if she only owes £2500 she should have spoke to them sooner thats such a small debt something could of been done to stop it going this far
#14
Sorry mate harsh as it sounds I would take your car and run. She's an ex therfore not of any concern to you. It's sad a child is involved but nobody put her in the position she's in other than herself.
#17
hard one to call fella can understand where u coming from as u sound a decent bloke and dont want to leave someone like this but is selling your cossie really going to help her out that much!!i doubt it very much!keep the car all u can really offer is a shoulder to cry on
#22
Originally Posted by Flux Capacitor
Tell her you will pay... Get a blow job from her... Then fuck her off ...
#23
Originally Posted by matts1
sell up, give her the cash, 3 months later, she will be back in the shite and you will have no cossie.
Wake up and walk away
Wake up and walk away
thats what i was thinking.
#24
Originally Posted by smitsturbo
if you do help her out now, she'll expect you do it all the time & she'll keep fucking up guarenteed
#25
Walk away mate, been there and done it! the t-shirt cost me 6k! please take your car and walk, it will be hard but in a few months when you are blasting down the road with a big grin on your face it will be worth it
#29
there is nothing harsh about it
she's fucked up and you feel guilty for some reason and want to help her out
if it was to provide a foor over her head for a while until she sorts herself out for a few days then fair enough, but spuning £7 grand on her scagheadness is just bollocks mate
if it was your kid then i could see the point, but it's not, and sooner or later he's going to find out his mums a cunt
she's fucked up and you feel guilty for some reason and want to help her out
if it was to provide a foor over her head for a while until she sorts herself out for a few days then fair enough, but spuning £7 grand on her scagheadness is just bollocks mate
if it was your kid then i could see the point, but it's not, and sooner or later he's going to find out his mums a cunt
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Originally Posted by saphcossie427
its all her fault she messed up on her mortgage sold her house and wasted £40k or so equity, the reason i feel guilty is she paided for my cossie but i paided her mortgage for 6years at £400 amonth just dont know what to do for the best its easy for people to say walk away but there not in my position
So she actually owes you £28800? (6x12x400=28800), and your'e gonna sell your car to lend/give her £2500?
Fucking tell her to jog on! Has she not got any family? What about the boys father?
#35
Originally Posted by Thrush
Originally Posted by saphcossie427
its all her fault she messed up on her mortgage sold her house and wasted £40k or so equity, the reason i feel guilty is she paided for my cossie but i paided her mortgage for 6years at £400 amonth just dont know what to do for the best its easy for people to say walk away but there not in my position
So she actually owes you £28800? (6x12x400=28800), and your'e gonna sell your car to lend/give her £2500?
Fucking tell her to jog on! Has she not got any family? What about the boys father?
that would only make it £14400 as he lived there as well i presume, however did she pay the bills at this time, if so that debt is even less.........i know its hard with ex's mate.....been there done that....you try to be nice etc......
personally i would pay the £2.5k to bail her out and keep my car, then tell her that you would not be paying again.....! then iwould walk away, with a clean conscience
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#36
I work in debt management the now there are things she should look into. Tell her to phone someone and get advice.
Otherwise sell anything of value, id rather a roof than a tv. Life can be harsh but sounds like she should take responsibilty for it not make you feel bad!
Otherwise sell anything of value, id rather a roof than a tv. Life can be harsh but sounds like she should take responsibilty for it not make you feel bad!
#37
leave her suffer
remember women fook our heads up thay dont give a shit mate trust me ive been there done everything for them and thay dont thank you for it and walk over you after..
SORRY FEMALE MEMBERS NOT ALL GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT, I DONT TRUST ANY GIRL ANYMORE THAT INCLUDES THE HONEST ONE'S
remember women fook our heads up thay dont give a shit mate trust me ive been there done everything for them and thay dont thank you for it and walk over you after..
SORRY FEMALE MEMBERS NOT ALL GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT, I DONT TRUST ANY GIRL ANYMORE THAT INCLUDES THE HONEST ONE'S
#38
sell your car privately for what its worth mate ,lend her the 2.5g and go buy yourself a cheaper cossy to start again with that way you have the best of both worlds ... a clear concsience and also still have a cossy job done