Terry Tibbs

I'm getting so stressed out recently.

I cannot put my finger on it, but everytime I go out, do something I get stressed.

Standing in a club, walk around and its busy, everyones pushing me and i'm just about to go mike tyson on them.

My mates wind me up and I'll flip.

Loud dance music in the car makes me go mad.

Its fucking rediculous and I need to end it

I never used to do this stuff but I find myself wanting to hit someone or something to take out the aggression.

Anyone know what the fuck is wrong with me?

I remember when Stu said he was caffiene intollerant.. Symptoms like this?

Charlie Chalk

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Wait till you start training for the Navy, and your in the showers with other guys checking you out

Stavros

fending off all them attempted rapes will keep your mind off things

Rab

I get the same thing in Clubs mate. I think it's just old age in may case....


To deal with stress you need to speak to your GP. It might be medical, or more likely you just have alot on your plate and it's getting to you?


Anyways, hope it all picks up

Terry Tibbs

Funny as it may sound, this is actually serious.

Literally within 10 seconds of someone saying something, doing something, anything I'll go fucking mental.

I'm scared I'm going to hit one of my mates! Thats the biggest worry.

I can deal with a lot, had divorces, set backs, lack of work, lack of money etc. but this has really got to me.

I don't want to go to my GP for the single reason that I think I can sort this out on my own and I don't want ANYTHING regarding mental disorders or whatever down on my medical notes. There's no way in hell I'm being denied the chance to do something I've wanted to do for so long because I'm getting stressed out.

Cheers.

/Rad - how was ur weekend? read you were having a biggun'

Billy_RS

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Get a punch bag and let rip on it when ever you can.

Daily.

Should soon sort you out

Terry Tibbs

Have wanted one for ages, haven't got anywhere to put it.

Well I've narrowed it down to actually being stressed. Looking at the symptoms they all pretty much add up to what I'm feeling even the little ones like biting nails, decision making etc.

Going to try some of those kalms things, see if they do anything. If not I'll have to see my GP.

Anyone got any other natural ways of dealing with stress?


Stress at 19 years old.. Jesus.

mrjenrst

Mate i feel for you.

I'm exactly the same.

Been like it bout a couple of years now. The smallest thing sends me scatty.

Dont know what it's about but it
Scare's me sometimes.

I get hazy/tunnel vision and boot off.

Not all the time not with friends or family just random's.

I used to be able to control my temper but i just cant anymore.

Before people start i dont lose it with the average joe it's just cunt's that keep on about shit.

Probably lack of chemicles in my system nowadays

Rab

Stress is not a mental disorder. It's a common reaction to life's downs.

Do a google search, there are websites that teach you techniques to stay calm when you don't want to be.

xr-stu

i get the same sometimes, if ive had a crap day or somethings gone wrong, someones been a fucking knob or whatever, im properly volatile for a few hours. it worries me because my dad was a very short tempered and violent cunt and i REALLY dont want to end up like that.

seems its normally small things that get under my skin, people being ignorant or inconsiderate, inanimate objets not working, phones etc, the car playing up and not running right, anything like that just triggers me off and im like the incredible hulk for a few hours until ive calmed down

Mark_w

One of four things can make you like this...

1- middle age crisis
2- labour government
3- alcohol
4-women

that is why we dont stand a chance

mark

Terry Tibbs

None of them apply to me unfortunately.

I can't put my finger on what is stressing me out, thats the problem.

I'm the most arrogant cunt ever, i always argue with people, i wind myself up over petty things like clothes and then go fucking ape shit when my mates banter.

I think its been building up over years and years. As I said i've kept my cool for years over things, never getting stressed with anything and now its reached critical level. I'm just worried I'm going to go fucking mental on someone and do some serious damage.

mrjenrst

Mate i could of won the lottery and been voted the sexyest bastard in the world until someone comes out with a silly/stupid comment and it's kick off time.

Really hard to explain mate

Terry Tibbs

Here are a few examples.

- Leaving a club and going for a walk, due to me being pissed off with my mate as he was chatting some ugly bird up (WTF!?)

- Leaving a club for a fag and running 4 miles down the road then sitting in a pub garden and waiting for my lift.

- My mate putting on dance music in the car after getting back from ibiza, i had a massive go at him saying its shit and he needs to listen to new music even though I like dance music!

- Mates winding me up about my Naval Career - Tbh if they do it much more one of them is going to get what they deserve because i've worked fucking hard to get the opportunity i've got right now.

- Mates winding me up because I want a bottle of Diet Coke and am supposed to be getting fit for the Navy - None of them cunts can run as far and as quick as I can!

- Walking off because I couldn't sit in the front of my mates car on the way home. Mate tries to get me in the car, I fucking sprint off, when he catches up I turn to smack him but control it. Then sit in the back of the car half asleep wondering what the heck is going on with me.

- Throwing a fit at my mum because something wasn't washed due to me not asking her to do it (feel really bad about that one)

This is over a month maximum. Just can't seem to get a grip on it.

Mark_w

if its none of the above then seek professional help

mark

mrjenrst

Yup got the t-shirt for them mate

christianh3

Deffo sounds like you're very anxious.

Maybe your new naval career is worring you? It's a bloody big step signed away x years of your life at sea, i'd be bricking it! If it is that, talk about your fears.

The navy is a good career, but a big step, so don't worry about worrying about it if you get my drift.

Could be your hormones too being only 19

Also, any women problems? No.1 stress causer!

Nick.

Nothing to worry about I say.. although I do get pissed off far to easy.. seeing fat women in jeans pisses me off the most

I got pissed off and put a hole through a works door when a guy went on my MSN and said hi to someone I chat too...

Getting pissed off is completly natural

Karl 3dr

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I'm the same, the slightest thing can set me off, in fact i quite enjoy being stressed sometimes.

I never used to be like this until i became depressed around 1997, and started on anti-depressants.

I can find myself being really pissed off with my closest friends and family for no particular reason, i just tend to put my walkman on and listen to music in my own little world until i calm down.

It's probably gonna sound funny but owning the cossie has helped me a lot because there's always something that needs doing to it and it distracts me from the shit that's going on around me.

StuarTurbo

ive felt like that tonight , seems like its been knob heads weekend out

didnt have a goo night at all so came home early and sat watchin TV and relaxing

as for the temper, do what i do and wank more

Snapped at a group of 16yo girls in the Kebab shop tonight i think my words were "if you have nothing of any wordly importance to say keep your yap shut , im tired i want my bed and mummy and daddy havent paid to get me out the house so they dont have to listen to your ugly gob"

Turbocabbie

Do you have kids a mortgage and a missus ?

Ryan_3

i think its about your new career mate
________
BONG

tabetha

Stress is what you want it to be!!
Take a step back and look to see what is ACTUALLY happening, that you need to be worried about, when you convince yourself it is nothing then the stress will go too.
Tell yourself getting stressed achieves NOTHING but a bad body.
Kalms are ace but not for this and will not help.
My advice if you want it, enroll in a YOGA class, fit mind, and fit birds to watch too, seriosuly best stress buster there is YOGA or PILATES as this encompasses it as well.
Stop worrying about having loads of new buddies in the RN, just don't look for the GOLDEN RIVETT!!
tabetha

Dicko&Vacant

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it sounds to me like its your new career mate and your mates taking the piss wont help

Try taking st johns wort or bachs rescue remedy you never know it mite help

Terry Tibbs

You see I don't feel stressed out about the Navy.

I passed everything I need to get in and am now waiting until November 11th when I join, simple? I have all the work I need until I go which is ample to be honest.

I know its a big step but I've always been the one to take those leaps before anyone else.

I have no fears about joining, only the fear that I won't pass but I've got more determination than a pissed off bull in a red china shop, so am not worried at all.

I dunno what to do.


Cheers for everyones help though.

Terry Tibbs

No.

Charlie Chalk

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shit hot mate,Thanks for asking!

Done 5 fucking bottles of champers friday night

Sore head saturday...




You going, Or been to the docs, Not read the replies yet...

aduz

some good weed should help

riddler

unfortunatly i nooo how you feel i was always the laid back one outa me n ma mates the one that wasnt ever really bothered but recently ive bin gettin really stressd over litle fings swearin to myself havin a go an general feeling like hitin someone

maybe its the girlfrend, wasnt like this before i met her

Tony Rs

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Hello mate ive got a similar problem to this but its got to the stage where i get panick attacks and stuff its the most horrible thing ever honestly went to the gp and waiting for blood tests could be a chemical inbalance i was told just for now ive tryed some kalms and they really do chill you out but its not enough i hope you get this sorted fella ............................... oh yeah and im only 25

FletchCossie

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"but its got to the stage where i get panick attacks"

Big Tony, Im at that very stage mate. Been having panic attacks (Dizzy, hot, sick feeling, weak, low sugar level, etc) everytime I leave home for 2 years almost! Can only travel locally now Ive got IBS too which is brought on by the panic attacks, so a very hard life to lead and no one knows what your going through (Which doesn't help as people do not believe I am ill). Doctors have not been able to help and Ive had 1 hypnotherapy session, which did not help (The woman was not very good at it)!

Mine has started due to stress when I was younger and its all built up. Now I have a relaxful life (No real cash worries, a good woman, etc) its all hit me and hit me hard!

I also have a very short temper as mentioned above by Terry. Ive never been a violent man, but blimey do I snap atm. I can normally calm down very quickly tho.

Wish I could offer a solution, but Im looking for one myself...

Thrush

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Thats me to a T aswell pal..... And funnily enough, my old man was a short tempered cunt aswell.... Many times in my young life (before he finally fucked off) me and him came SO SO SO close to blows!

Thrush

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To the thread starter tho....

Usually stress on this kinda level with these kinda reactions are due to one or two particualr things in your life, even tho you might not instantly realise/associate your behaviour/state of mind/attitude directly with these things...

Something underlying that is worrying you may well be the cause of your current attitude/behaviour and stress....

Now this is gonna sound funny, and honestly I ain't taking the piss - but have you considered yoga? You know, that gay looking sitting-around-in-funny-positions-bending-all-the-wrong-ways-while-some-hippy-bint-burns-joss-sticks-and-meditates?

Honestly not taking the piss. A friend of mine was very much the same way as you, and he eventually tried yoga and it sorted him RIGHT out. He became so chilled with life, and just levelled him right out so much so that someone calling him a cunt to his face he just shrugged off - whereas 6mths previous he would have bottled the guy before he even got the "UNT" bit out Totally different person honest to god!

Thrush

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Either that or take up smoking spliffs.... That'll chill you out

Turbosystems

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winning the lottery would cure my stress levels and of course i would send the x wife half

Thrush

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Winning the lottery might well INCREASE my stess! But only if I gave up work! One of the things that triggers my short fuse and makes me snap at people/act like a cunt is when I have been bored! So giving up work cos of a lotto win, I would be SO FUCKING BORED it'd be unbearable!

I'm no workaholic, but I need to be busy most of the time to a) keep myself sane, and b) to be able to appreciate my "down time" - when I like to do nothing and chill out/relax.... Down Time for me is just to flop in front of the TV and ignore everyone, or be on the PC (as 99.9999% of the time TV just isn't intellecually stimulating enough, the internet keeps me amused/stimulated as Ilike to learn about things and read stuff), or chill in the garden with a cold beer and some tunes (on a nice hot day obviously)

If I won lotto I'd have to continue working as I'd go fooking stir crazy otherwise!!!!!!!!

Tony Rs

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fletch know what you mean about going localy went to bournemouth yesterday and the journey was a nightmare i was panicking all the time , when we hit traffic etc then when we where on the beach same thing i hate it and it drives me mad i had them about 5 years ago and i seemed to have had it under control but the last month or so has been awfull and i just cant control it all it takes is to be in a packed area etc and thats it its like i cant get out quick enough . pm me if you like mate to talk about it i know this helps when im feeling shit and down it feels like your the only one that has this and no one understands i must also mention if you have a good lady it certainly helps my mrs has been great and helps me through it always

Tony Rs

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ohh and sometimes i even feel like selling the cossie and not want it anymore also loose my temper very easily and want to lash out as mentioned above even at the slightest upset