MAD EVO 4

with my councellor,

Basically in Feb 2003 I had a major bike accident which resulted in my right leg being completely smashed. I was wearing full bike leathers and a knox back protector.

Spent 9 months in hospital

8 operations
metal pins in side leg
metal work outside leg
pin through my shin with weights over the bed
metal work taken out
5 blood transfusions
new hip

Had my 9th op in November last year

Over the last yr my mood swings and nightmares are becoming more and more, they wake my partner up but I stay asleep, and apprently im holding my bad leg and im screaming for help and the work fuck.

Before my accident I was happy working in a busy Renault workshop as a tech, and as soon as I went back to work I handed inmy notice because I didnt like being close to so many people.
I left and went to a smaller workshop at Toyota/Lexus but after a yr I did the same and handed my notice in.

Last week my olds and my partner had, had enough of my attiude and are worried about my nightmares, they believe im suffering from post traumatic stress, I thought then were being mad.

But today I sat and though about the last 3 yrs and what they all said and decided to book my first session .

I'M SHITTING MYSELF.

Sorry just had to tell you

Mr S1

iTrader: (2)

Mate, bit of advice from someone who's had counselling before.......

be absolutely, totally and completely 100% honest with them. Tell them EVERYTHING. You'll be amazed what a release it will be.........straight up

MAD EVO 4

cheers bro


I hope he / she can help me over time

MikeR

Fair play mate, takes a man to admit something like this, i wish you all the very best in your efforts to clear your mind, i hope you see it all through and you and your family can return to some form of normality


Mike

Jasesapphy

iTrader: (1)

All the best mate, be truthfull they will sort you out, fairplay bringing it to the forum.

You WILL get there

MAD EVO 4

I have rode a motorbike but sold it as I was getting confident and that scared me,

Thrush

iTrader: (1)

Fair play for you to say all that on an open forum, and thats a forward step for you in terms of counselling I think

As Mr S1 said - you MUST be completely truthfull. There's no point lying about anything, as you would only be lying to yourself. Remember that the counseller doesn't know you, and isn't there to make assumptions or pass judgement - they are there to help you, and to listen to you.

But no one can help you more than yourself. The counsellor can only DIRECT you to this self help. If you lie about anything or mislead, or leave bits out, or make stuff up, the directions are lost and you will never find the correct help......

Best of luck to you bro, hope it all goes well for you

dave cos4x4

iTrader: (5)

hope all goes ok mate.

MAD EVO 4

cheers peeps

Turbo Zetec

iTrader: (1)

good luck lawrie, hope you get things sorted

MAD EVO 4

BlueSmoke

Don't know you mate but as said above, you're going in the right direction. Tales a big man to admit he needs a helping hand with emotional/mental stuff like that. I know what I'm like and I would probably be like "fook that I can sort myself out etc etc." even if I knew I couldn't!

So big pat on the back for you mate and good luck

TrevCos

iTrader: (1)

Good luck with it mate. There's no shame in admitting you need help, this is a big thing you've been through and it's not surprising you're having after effects. You'll find they're really helpful if, as others have said, you just say exactly what you're feeling. Once you start talking you'll be fine.

AndyP

All the best mate, takes a big man to post something like that

Rab

Hope it all goes well mate. And I hope you get a gorgeous female counsellor

MAD EVO 4

That would be nice having a sexy counseller,

but it was bad enough having a good looking physio in the pool with me, I had a perment rudder

TrevCos

iTrader: (1)

Hmmm, I think you might be losing sight of why you're going though. If you get some old boot at least you'll be able to concentrate.

Shings

People said after I rolled my car I turned into a different person... wasn't my fault and another car was involved.

People never say if you've changed back though- 5 years later I'd like to think I have put the worst behind me- but if I am honest I still have a bit of an attitude problem and can be a little bit agressive..

I had some councelling- definatly a good idea.. and be as straight and honest as you can be.

Jake

MAD EVO 4

I deffo want this to work, and I will be honest

Rick

Best of Luck - although u don't need it - just be straight with them

How is ur leg now mate?

MAD EVO 4

It bloody aches on damp days, I walk with a limp, I look like a white rude boy lol,

I have some impressive scars all down my right leg and around my hip area.

May need another op soon as ive got some pains coming back in the hip area

But overall the leg is ok

MAD EVO 4

well rol on 9:10am tomorrow morning

nice and early to get the first consultation over and done with

essex_jamie

good luck ur a man for admitting it but u shouldnt be ashamed its not like its not like ur goin councelling for bein mental,or a physcho
it was a freak accident so be honest and ull be fine us men need to face up to things
(i wasnt in the same position as u but in a mans mind being in touch with emotions is bad i found a lump on my privates, but for 3 months i wouldnt go to th docs as i was "a man" and didnt care (yeah rite) also didnt wanna get my privates out for some old bloke doc but in the end dads advise made me do it and lil op latter all was fine an clear)

Good luck mate

MAD EVO 4

St3V3_C

Fair play mate

Hope it goes well.

MAD EVO 4

Ill be leaving in 5 mins,

Did not sleep very well last night, so feel pretty shit

dojj

iTrader: (3)

i was offered something similar when i smashed myself up in a big way
never took it and i regret it to this day

hopefully everything will work out for you mate

on a more serious note, we could always ask someone to set up an "injured on the road" room and relive things on there
when my nan died i couldn't actually talk to anyone about it, but wrote a big long email to no one in particular and it felt like a big wieght had been lifted from me

MAD EVO 4

That room idea seems like a very good idea bro.

Well first meet went really well, took me a while to get comfortable, kind of looking forward to the next meeting now.

MARCOSWORTH

iTrader: (24)

Brave man you are,good luck

dojj

iTrader: (3)

was it a one to one thing or did you have to attend an AA style meet and say "hi, my name is zetec and i had an accident"?

i only ask because some parts of my physio were one to one and others were as part of a whole group of people

digita1dragon

Good luck with the rest of the process

Jemma

Couldnt of put it better myself!

At first it upset me bringin it all up and re living it, but then when i got into it and had someone there listening and could understand how i felt, it was amazing

Good Luck

Benni

Good luck mate, I hope all goes well for you... I had injured my leg too and also have a faulse hip, But my injury was no were near as bad as yours but i know how you feel... You ever need to talk mate

Danielle

good luck!! hope it all goes well!!!

wish i had gone to counselling a couple of years ago but instead i was awkward and got through it myself.

obviously you tried that and its not working for you, so i hope this can help you!!

MAD EVO 4

My seesion went really well

Im in a room and its one on one, taken at my own time,

each session lasts for an 1hr but I can leave earlier if I feel I need too.

Thank you all for your support

Danielle

glad it went well

MAD EVO 4

I dont think ill be worrying about the next meeting now

L33 BYT

Good luck Mate. It'll do you good.

wirralphil

i know exatley how ya feel bout the mnood swings, had a crash 3 1/2 years ago an had half me ear cut off fifty stitchs 18months councelling, loads off hosp appointments. the worse thing off all tho was havin a go at every body i lost 4 jobs just through being angry (well smacking the forman on 1 wasn't a good idea )

now it's all sorted out

MAD EVO 4

Sounds good bro