JoeE30

Right just a quick one,

Who on here would be ok with there other half getting drinks bought for them when they out by the opposite sex...

For example my good lady goes out with her mates and will except drinks from other blokes and birds

She will also have a dance and chat with them...

I dont mind, infact when its with another lady i encorage it....

But who lets there other half have a little flirt and a chat with the lads...?

mattbibs

leave her to it i say - nothing worse than over protective partners. if she strays then she obviously isnt the right girl for you.

JoeE30

My exact point.........

I dont do jelousy....At all....Period.....Nada

So let her crack on, which also helps me to have a good time as i dont have to be "on guard" all the time.

And i can also have some clean fun............

Greg Shepherd

i would not have a problem with a g/f doing the above cos i would trust her not to cross the line

JoeE30

mattbibs

very mature attitude imo. the only fights i ever see out in town is usually over a girl. if more blokes had the same attitude and didnt kick off everytime someone looked at their mrs then im sure A&E would be half empty on saturday nights!!

Muzz

Dont see the problem, i always wonder why other blokes have such a problem with their birds having a good time and chatting/dancing with other blokes etc, as at the end of the day if she is worth anything you will trust her not to do the dirty on you.

Everyone needs a laugh at the end of the day

Danielle

no i wouldnt have it, trust me it led to not so good things for me

Muzz

Are you that sort of bitch that rings your BF every 5 minutes and has a voodoo doll of him by your bed?

mattbibs

care to explain danielle? always good for some female input on relationship posts!

DazC

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If you don't trust them, what is the point in being in a relationship with them?

Cossie Helen

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Dave would not let a bloke buy me a drink or chat and dance etc


He's not overprotective with me in that respect, he just dont like it.


And must say i'm the same way with him

Not that we dont trust each other.

Danielle

im not explaining cos it mite cause trouble but erm i think sometimes a partner can go too far and not realise what they are doing and sometimes if you cannot trust ya partner (which if you cant , whats the point in the relationship) then its not a good idea to let them go off with other girls/guys

AJC

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very fair comment

Danielle

i think we all get flirty with other though, without realising but there is a limit!!!!


if your partner takes advantage of what your letting them do it can get very much out of hand and someone ends up getting hurt.

plus i think the guys/girls buying them drinks etc are disrespecting you tbh. i wouldn't dream of going and flirting with someones bf!!!

DazC

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I still stand by what I say. If the bitch can keep her own legs shut then she deserves a kick in the flaps and sacking off......

Trust is what makes a relationship. Both partys should be able to say no at the moment it oversteps the mark...

st3v3

i think sometimes the signals given out can be mis-interpreted by both sex's, male and female.
But if the line is not crossed wheres the harm

Danielle

but when the line is crossed

COSSIE 1

my feelings have always been go out with ur mates if i ever find out uve cheated on me its over dito the trust has gone i trust her loads and she trusts me if she did anything in front of me id flip jealousy has got me in trouble in past relationships and its not worth it imo .......if u have TRUE TRUST for someone u shouldnt need to be jealous

BM08

If im with a girl and i really do love her then if i go out i dont give a flying monkeys about other girls, ill just have a good time with my mates and then at the end of the day go back home to my gf or whatever, i dont believe in messing around flirting etc with other girls, ok some might say its harmless but to me its just not right so i dont do it, and id hope my partner (at the time) wouldnt either, thats just me anyway

Treen

The only thing I would worry about (because I trust her 100%) would be if a guy buying her drinks had an ulterior motive - and when she made it clear she wasn't interested in anything like that - it could turn nasty for her.

You read about it all the time - a guy getting the wrong idea - following the woman home etc etc.

JoeE30

Thats the thing,

If it ever got to that then it proves to you and yur partner that your not right for each other.....

To keep a hold over someone is only postponing the inevitable if they are inclined to roam...

Shit i have been in the club talking and having a drink with my mates and the other half has been chatting away with some random bloke and i will just go my way with my mates and carry on with the night. If she did anything then so be it, i would be gone.

I think its strange if people cant allow someone to be open and relaxed when out without having to be worried who is chatting to their other half......

DazC

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Agreed!

RichardPON

Mate, every guy who buys a girl a drink (that he doesn't know or isn't in his party/group of friends) has an alterior motive - or did you think that people were just THAT generous

Big Will_

I work long and hard to get a girlfriend - wouldn't feel overly comfortable with someone else buying her drinks and dancing with her as to me that translates as trying to get in her knickers.

And from my days of doing doorwork, i remember how many drinks used to get spiked, so its not that i don't trust my girlfriend, it's more that i don't trust some of the twats out there that think that spiking drinks is cool.

SafeChav

I didnt even used to like my ex going out let alone chatting to other blokes, and that was the reason i would never go out with her.

Still, needless to say, my ex is a cheap slag and slept with a LOT of my "alleged mates" behind my back, was with her for 3 years and she spent 100% of the time cheating.

That was just her though, ive met people since that i would trust but after that BITCH im happy being single

Barry_GTi

Just another little point of view, I had a long term relationship(marriage in the end) and I was the LEAST jealous person in the entire World. I really trusted her and didn't mind where she went etc etc.

Then an old flame popped up and me being sooooo trusting put it in her mind that I didn't care for her. She never actually had physical contact with this guy but spent a lot of time with him as she says she enjoyed his interest, when he tried finally to make a move on her she realised what she had done. Now that sounds strange but this is the conclusion we came up with when we finally split, we dearly loved each other and she never actually thought she was trying to cheat or anything of the sort. But after what had happened my trust was broken and I couldn't relax like I used to..........

So to sum up, it's all well and good being trusting, but you need some balance of jealousy in my opinion. Cossie Helen: sounds like you have it just about right......

Wazzzer

I nearly lost my missus cos of jealousy, now we occasionally go out together but most of the time go out to different places cos if someone does talk to her I don't want to be in the background with her worrying I'm gonna storm up to them

I trust her 100% not to do anything and her the same (well I hope so anyways ) its me she comes home to

Anonymous

I dont bother with jealousy, whats the point?

If you are with someone who wants to shag other people, they arent worth being committed to in the first place.

RaVeR

ditto

as for the question no I wouldn't mind as women/men can be m8s just like lads can be m8s so nothing wrong with buying each other drinks and having a good time.

Danielle

well i think from some of the experiences above you can see that stepping over the line doesn't have to be kissing/sleeping with another person, just spending too much time with another person especially who is trying to cause trouble can lead to crossing the line.

DanRSturbo

I'm a very trusting person, which probably leaves me open to hearache, but that's life, but at the end of the day, i'm quite happy for another fella to nail my girlfriend providing he takes his share of the grief

Anonymous

i know of birds like that, their blokes are REALLY fucking stupid though if they cant see whats going on!

Less.

If u not trust either the relantionship is wrong or u have problems with your own self control

imo

Christian and Beccy

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I don't agree with most of the above, I'm afraid.

"You snooze, you lose™"

If you are complacent, then someone could come along and if the timing is right (or wrong), they might just strike the right note and that's it. It's too late then to look back and say "at least I wasn't the jealous type'

Take the TV program 'Temptation Island'. Couples go on there and are split up on opposite sides of a paradise island with a large group of single people (mainly models etc) to try and tempt them. That program has split alot of otherwise happy couples up and in most cases would have probably never seen a problem. We are not invincible and I'm afraid to say that most red-blooded blokes would shag almost any girl, regardless of her circumstances, even your mates can do it to you.

Unfortunately most girls can't see that. They think that a bloke giving her attention has honest morals and will very often flirt back, even though they may not have any intentions. If you take this situation with one or two other variables (like perhaps she is going through an insecure patch herself or maybe you haven't been quite so caring for the last couple of days) and this 'new' guy might just catch her vulnerable side.

Call me paranoid, but I have seen it, done it and been victim to it.

fuzzy

what would you prefer? to have a fat munter of a bird that no one looked twice (or even once) at? or a pretty young thing that drew lots of attention? you either trust her or you dont.

Anonymous

He's fucking stupid if he thinks hitting the bloke in question will solve anything when blatantly the one at fualt is his bird and hitting other blokes isnt going to make any difference.