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Dave

BlueSmoke

Aye I could tell lol.

It's not all black and white. Things never seemed completely right but I did love her. I went to uni in Hudds, at the time we went out I wasn't even driving and she was travelling from tadcaster (near York) to Leeds after work to see me every night then having to drive back home, and when I went to Hudds it added another 40 miles to the round trip so it just wasn't fair on her.

Don't get me wrong though, there were cracks by that point. She never really took me out when her mates were gonna be there and I often wondered if she was ashamed of me or something

But we always had a lot of fun together and for the most part it was good.

I moved back to Leeds some time later, after getting my license, leaving Hudds etc. and one night when I was pissed (as is always the way) I thought it would be a good idea to text her.

Got talking again and started meeting up now and then, purely as mates as she'd said she wasn't ready for a relationship yet as when I got back in touch, she'd just come out of one.

I thought fair enough and we texted/flirted etc. but that was as far as it went. a few months down the line I texted her and she was out in Leeds, same night I was. So I went to see her for a bit and she seemed a bit distant and told me she'd started seeing someone. I felt a bit like I'd been knifed in the chest to be honest.

And I haven't heard from her after that (about 6 weeks ago) until last night.

So who knows, maybe you guys are all right, maybe you're not. I dunno

I feel like I need to keep a bit of distance from her but I also wanna be there for her, because that's just the kind of guy I am.

I know I'm probably more vulnerable due to being pretty lonely overall tho.

BlueSmoke

Can't get on MSN at work, and my home internet's cut off cause the gas board chopped thru it

No need to delete the thread. I asked for advice, and if I wasn't prepared to hear what people honestly think, I wouldn't have asked in here

SS1

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DogSmoke

each to there own

just stay clever


song Linkin Park - Breaking The Habit

Redkop

And if she's not ok... what will you do then? You'll just screw yourself up if you see her again.


Take everybody's advice...... walk away and don't be taken for a sucker!

TM

The way I see you are repling, In the next couple of days it will be were back together why because I love her this is what you should do listen to Tony T he knows best

Lo@der

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Yep u will just stir up shit inside u need to get over, if u see/talk to her to much if at all it will just hurt u more. Also think do u really care that much or is it just a way to speak to her and spend time with her coz thats what u want???? Its hard.

Mike Rainbird

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Actually, it took me 32 years AND she is into cars, is the most intelligent person I know (just stupid ) and is also the most down to earth girl I have ever met (Yorkshire lass) - too right I was going to hold on to her .

BlueSmoke

Yorkshire is best, you see

Zetec Andy

I have to agree with that, my fiance of 5 years is form York, best lass ever

afcgordon

Jay,i dont know you from adam,or herbut in the end mate the only person who can sort it is you.You can listen to as many other peoples expereince and advice as you want,but its your life mate.IF you think it,ll make you happy or otherwise do what you want.As to her ,who hasnt fucked up at some point. Good luck ,whatever you decide,

Lo@der

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Anonymous

Jay, contrary to what everyone else says, i would say get on it straight away


What have you got to lose? give it a go with her, if it doesnt work out then you walk away and arent stuck with maintainance or anything cause it aint your kid.

If it does work out, you are the knight in shining armour who takes on her kid as your own, has all the fun of having kids with none of the responsibility finanicially if goes pete tong and she will probably consider herself lucky to have you and stay with you.


If nothing else, its an easy top quality lay for you till something better comes along

BlueSmoke

@ that last line!

I thought you may say something along those lines. We'll see what happens with what eh?

I would never be anyone's mug and as soon as I felt that was the case, there would be something being said/done by me.

neilm

and if you do see her...... DONT let her suck you off !!!




If you split up over 40 miles then you werent really in love mate..

I am sure there are many men on here, me included, if their girlfriend moved 100 miles away it wouldnt split them up.


Huddersfield, Tadcaster and Leeds... fook me mate.. I know lads used to walk further than that to school !!!

When you said you'd moved away I thought you meant Devon or Scotland or something.


Ignore Chip, he just has a fetish for pregnant girls and milky tits......

Listen to the rest of the sad fookas on this post who've loved and lost.....

Anonymous

Unless she gives good head, in which case you are as powerless as the rest of us and will be walked all over for life

BlueSmoke

neilm
Like I said, there were cracks and driving 90 miles round trip whenever you want to see someone, adding int hat she was doing a different job then and could hardly afford the petrol ont op of that, is hardly ideal.

Yeah there wasn't probs starting to appear by then we would probably have got through it but at the time it just seemed like the final nail.

TM

i would never be anyone's mug and as soon as I felt that was the case, there would be something being said/done by me.[/quote]

and thats not what is happening now

Dan

No more needs to be said! lol Definately steer well clear mate, it's better for you in the long run and you know it!

RichardPON

I did it with a round trip of 130 miles for 2 and a half years.

No-one's doubting that you really loved her. Whether she loved you or not is really irrelevant, as it's negated by the fact that she met someone else, and didn't have the common sense to not get pregnant by some guy she'd just met.

Anyone that irresponsible sounds like far too needy for my liking. You play the role as Mr Soft Touch, and you'll be in so deep, you wont ever escape.

Stop trying to be there for her. You're not going out any more, and she's no particular friend.

It's not comlicated at all IMO -you're just using that as the excuse for trying to relive the past.

Chrsit man - you are a glutton for punishment!

BlueSmoke

Aye, I'm a magnet for shite!

TM

Well said that man

BlueSmoke

Getting my next car comes first, anyway

Anonymous

Ja,y if you are the sort to let yourself get drawn into it too much then its probably best if you do walk away.

If you can manage to keep your distance a bit emotionally, then i dont see you have anything to lose by giving it a go.

TM

Ł500 you end up Balls deep in her the next time you see her, Then its all over for you new car and all

Anonymous

would be a fool who decided to cover that bet.


he'll meet her "as friends"

she'll tell him she still fancies him and all the other things he wants to hear

she'll suck him off

he'll be completely obsessed with her within 10 mins, and then she'll walk all over him for life.


we all KNOW thats what is going to happen, i was just trying to dress it up as a bit more appealing as he is going to end up stuck with it anyway so he may as well like it

BlueSmoke

Mr S1

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I'm in EXACTLY the same position mate - exactly. My ex is due to drop in May..............and asked me if I'd be present at the birth on Monday..............

Lo@der

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Ł500 you end up Balls deep in her the next time you see her, Then its all over for you new car and all[/quote]

would be a fool who decided to cover that bet.


he'll meet her "as friends"

she'll tell him she still fancies him and all the other things he wants to hear

she'll suck him off

he'll be completely obsessed with her within 10 mins, and then she'll walk all over him for life.


we all KNOW thats what is going to happen, i was just trying to dress it up as a bit more appealing as he is going to end up stuck with it anyway so he may as well like it [/quote]

Yep hes fucked!

timrud

Don't go and see her! She will act like nothings changed, you will think that, old feelings start off inside, then your fucked

Anonymous

My brutally honest opinion is this, Jay you have the following options i reckon:


Act like you are going along with it, make her think you are a pushover, shag her up the wrong'un when it suits you but dont get involved properly, just come and go as it suits you not her, DONT GET INVOVLED EMOTIONALLY

Go for it 101% try and make a go of it and be a happy family, i see utterly zero chance of success here personally, as apart from anything else, you cant afford it

Dont see her at all




I cant see option 2 working, option 1 i reckon is wrong for you cause you are too easily upfor getting emotionally involved

So sensibley for you i would say option 3 is the one to go for, but personally i would go for option 1

Stu @ M Developments

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Yep, be far better odds buying 500 lotytery tickets!!

CliffRS4

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PMSL @Chip

EssexMikeSi

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come on peeps, keep at him, it looks like hes thinkin of goin back to her and falling into her trap.

come on mate, lets be honest here. shes fucked u off, met another guy, shes now up the duff, hes fucked off and straight away shes callin u again.

sorry but hellllllllllloooooooooooooo ding dong.

women walk over us blokes all too many times these days and thats half the reason that most of em are up their own arseholes.

mate, i dont know u at all, but i think we can all see whats goin on here. theres plenty more girls out there who r a million times better.

let me know wen u find some please

BlueSmoke

Actually she's 11 weeks gone so I'm probably getting the amount of time she was with him a bit wrong with my shitty memory

89xr2

You're a wrong'un mate

Dogsmoke, from what I can make out by your posts IF you start seeing this girl again you almost certainly will fall for her again. And probably big time, even if its just because she's there and you're lonely.

My advice would be the same as nearly everyone else (bar chip, but he's a wrong'un) run a mile and dont think about her anymore.

Lil Ems

she might just be talking to you cause she thought you were good to talk to before, doesn't mean she wants ya back, not all women are bitch's lol

RichardC

BlueSmoke

True, but 90% are

Anonymous

you're only saying that cause you havent met the other 10% yet.

When you do you will realise you were wrongly giving them the benefit of the doubt

The only woman on this planet who will ever care about you more than she does herself is the one you are living with now mate!