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Old 16-02-2006, 07:50 PM
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I lost a dear friend yesterday in a horrific accident .

I dont know quite why i am doing this post as nobody from here will know my mate as he is not into cars in any way , why i dont know but doing this is in a way helping me deal with this , I think that even tho its a keyboard i feel as though i am talking about it for the first time , and as i dont want to talk about it to anyone face to face i suppose its helping me .
He was a special friend in many ways and although i didnt see him every day i knew that no matter what, if i needed him he would drop anything for me ( and anyone else who needed him ) and it was never for any other reason than because he wanted to .
I will miss him more than i would ever have imagined and dont know how i will get through the next few days , but know i will always remember him for the great bloke he was .
Sadly his wife Vannesa was there when he was killed and i just dont know how she will deal with the horrific way in which he died , but all i can hope is she will get over it and her and the 2 boys will carry on and remember him the way i will .

So all i can say is Vanessa , I am so sorry and whatever you need you only need to ask ,

And to my mate ,Graham johnson , ( budgie ) I will miss you but never forget you
My thoughts are with your wife / 2 boys and the rest of the family , R,I,P

Paul
Old 16-02-2006, 07:51 PM
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Shit Paul-very sorry for your loss
Old 16-02-2006, 07:55 PM
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very sorry to hear about your loss mate
Old 16-02-2006, 07:58 PM
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At least you feel a bit better for having 'said' something Paul - and if this helps then you carry on doing it mate

Thoughts are with you and your friends wife and children.

R.I.P 'Budgie'.
Old 16-02-2006, 07:58 PM
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Sounds like he was a top bloke

Very sad, RIP.
Old 16-02-2006, 08:00 PM
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Gutted for you and his family mate...

Sincerest condolonces to all involved.......
Old 16-02-2006, 08:02 PM
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i hate it when things like this happen,my thoughts are with his family,and with you paul,R.I.P budgie
Old 16-02-2006, 08:05 PM
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you will still have all the good memorys keep your chin up
Old 16-02-2006, 08:09 PM
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so sorry mate

you no where we are if u need to talk or out else.

any time day or night.
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Thankyou peeps

I will have many good memories of him but sadly they dont replace the good times i would have had if he was still here with us ,

I have just sat about today thinking about him and honestly feel a lot better since i wrote this post and although i will have another sleepless night and shed another bucket of tears i will try to think of the great times i have had with him

Thanks again for the replies
Old 16-02-2006, 08:11 PM
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Hi Wospy

Thanks mate ,, I am trying hard to deal with it mate , and other friends always make it a little easier
Old 16-02-2006, 08:13 PM
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Sorry to hear that Paul, youv`e done him proud , and yourself by speaking up on here, just remeber all the good times you shared, no one can take those away mate........RIP Budgie.........
Old 16-02-2006, 08:15 PM
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Puts things in perspective, we moan about shit that doesn`t really matter, and then good people get taken away like this.........
Old 16-02-2006, 08:16 PM
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sorry to hear this Paul
Old 16-02-2006, 08:17 PM
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Hi Paul,

Very sorry to hear of your loss, and I hope you, his family, and other friends cope well

Try to think of what he'd be saying to himself if he could see you now (if that helps)

He sounds like a great man, RIP
Old 16-02-2006, 08:17 PM
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ye will allways be here for you cheif.

chin up mate will c you soon.
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Pete
Exactly how i feel ,,We moan about nothing that realy matters and yet we do it day after day when all that matters is we are here and are ok

Its sad that it takes things like this to happen for us to think about it tho
Old 16-02-2006, 08:21 PM
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Me thoughts go out to you his family mate, ive lost a good mate in the past even carried his coffin wich was real hard, nothing ever prepairs you for times like these, R.I.P.
Old 16-02-2006, 08:22 PM
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Paul, i was a little stuck for words today on the phone, never know what to say!

If theres anything i can do to help you, i'm only a phone call away.......
Old 16-02-2006, 08:26 PM
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sorry mate, i hope speaking on here eases the pain mate
Old 16-02-2006, 08:27 PM
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Max

Thanks Mate

I went home and just sat in my garage and looked at my toys and had a little giggle thinking of what he would always say to me when he saw my cars ,,He thought they were great deep down but always took the piss about how i looked after them like children ,

I just wish i could here him take the piss again

Its the little moments like that , that make you smile and help you through it .

Thanks again Max
Old 16-02-2006, 08:27 PM
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R.I.P. budgie, my thoughts are with you and his family paul

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Old 16-02-2006, 08:38 PM
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Sorry to hear this
Old 16-02-2006, 08:46 PM
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Thats awful, so sad to hear things like this.

Thoughts are with you and his family.
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bad time Paul, i've lost a couple of really close friends, its sad at first, then confusing trying to figure out why they were taken from you, then it starts to sink in, if you feel like crying, cry, if you don't you get the worse headache.
after a while you accept what has happened but even 9 years after one of my friends died sometimes i think about him & get upset, in a way i'm glad that happens because at least i didn't forget him after he departed from this life

r.i.p. to the passed souls.
Old 16-02-2006, 09:12 PM
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Sorry to hear this Paul.

Old 16-02-2006, 09:18 PM
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sorry to read about your sad loss I presume the kids are quite young tragic loss for them.
My wife lost her 34 year old cousin just before xmas he was married with 2 kids aged 6 and 9, brain hemoerage took his life away far far to early..

Why is it always the good guys???
it's never the scum of this world is it?

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Old 16-02-2006, 09:20 PM
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Sorry to hear this mate loss a mate a week and bit ago he was the 101st british soilder to die in iraq he only been there 8 days so R.I.P CARL AND R.I.P BUDGIE

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Old 16-02-2006, 09:31 PM
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Sorry to hear this Paul

My thoughts go out to you, his family and freinds.
Old 16-02-2006, 09:35 PM
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Sorry to read this Paul, life seems so unkind and unfair at times, especially times like these. Ive lost most of my close Friends and family through death one way or another and remember your pain.

Time, whilst it does'nt feel it now, is the only healer we have been given for wounds like this... and whilst it does a very good job, you just cannot rush it sadly, so hang in there pal.

As with all your friends and aquaintances, im only a phonecall away if you wanna scream at someone...
Old 16-02-2006, 09:38 PM
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Paul hunni, so so SO sorry to read this, make sure you keep your friends and family close hun, you need them at a time like this.

CHin up hunni, things will get easier with time
Old 16-02-2006, 10:39 PM
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sad to hear of your loss ive lost a few good mates over the years

bike crashes & cancer related

sometimes i look at stupid things that we would laff at

and straight away it reminds me of them ..what they would say

they say time heals the wounds but you never FORGET

guess thats a good thing in some respects

regards steve
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RIP to your good friend, cherish the memories but never forget
Old 16-02-2006, 11:36 PM
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Sorry to hear mate. Most of us can probably appreciate where you are coming from and can be an ear if you want to talk on here. Time does help but losing someone suddenly is the worst way. Lost someone fairly close to me nearly a year ago and it takes a while but as Stu says, time is the healer.
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I never know what to say...words dont seem enough.....your post sent shivers down my spine and i feel sad for you and his family.....i hope your pain eases

RIP budgie
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such a tragic loss, to suddenly lose someone so close is heart breaking. As said stick in there it Will get better.....

RIP
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sorry to hear that mate
R.I.P
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Thanks again peeps ,
Some nice words ,
I am glad i posted this as your replies in a strange way help

I think its because i realise others have lost friends and family and know exactly how i feel When this happens you feel like its only ever happened to you and that nobody will understand , but they do

So thanks again people


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