rite i met this girl throu a friend about to months ago, and i fell for her big style,shes everythin i ever wanted from a gf, she not fake dosent wear make up, she funni we share the same dreams, one big problem she has a bf, he treats her like shit, just uses her for money and as a taxi,any way i backed of just stayed friends, but my feelings just grew for her. I ended up kissing her, i shudnt of i no but its one of those things,she returned the kiss. the way she spoke to me i new there was a connection between us, last week she found out that her bf had bin cheating on her for a while, bear in mind they had onli bin together 3 months, she kicked him out but took himback 2 days later after we kissed again, now after all what she has said to me about me being beta for her nd stuff she now just wants to be friends.

so what do u guys thing i shud do, i got it bad for this girl

 

do nt give up on her mate, i let some one stay with a man she did nt love once ,though they did have kids, but i ve regretted not putting up a fight for her ever since. if theres a connection then she ll feel it as much as you so she may come round

 

cheers mate i dont want to give on her, but im at a loose end now as what to do, i felt the connection when we kissed as im sure she did as well

 

so she's kissing u behind her boyfriends back.not what id call gf material

 

Personally mate i would just jog on, will probably just end up hurting you and messing you about.

 

it was one kiss shudnt of happened but it did the orther kiss was when they split

 

that was my first thought.
whats the old saying? a leopard never changes its spots?

 

Plenty more slags in the sea.....dont go for one you already know cheats on her bf

 

true comments guys but its not as thou we did any thin else bar just this one kiss, and hes the one sleepin around

 

I see it like this, and always have.


If shes taken him back after cheating, then clearly she aint intrested in you,

(no offence)
Just leave it mate, best way. i wouldnt bother, and just wait till she comes running, other than that, get on with your life.

 

walk away if she like u she wouldnt be messing u around like this
u notice her ex treats her like crap and she cant get enough of him
learn from it

 

bin it and go get a Japanese massage

 

She sounds like a worthless cheating slag, you're better off without her.

Anyway birds who are attracted to blokes who treat them like shit ALWAYS get bored with nice guys who dont.

 

walk away she doesnt want you not to go back to her bf twice

 

definetely agree

 

as above, this girl will be trouble.

She likes the chase and the thrill, her fella treats her like crap and she loves it and loves to bitch on about it - giving you the impression she hates it.

Cause she hates it, she takes it, then finds out he has had is man meat in another bird after only 3 months and then takes him back lol!!

Then, she has you, your the other thrill, cheating on her 'w*nker' boyfriend to teach him a little lesson giving her a buzz, but no intention of ending it with the bad boy.

Say she does, and i have seen it time and time again, she see's you for a while but gets board and so while you think all is well she is getting a pounding of her ex 'wa8ker' boyfriend.

When I met my misses she was seeing a bloke who treated her like crap and did cheat on her, thing was she wouldn't respond to any sort of pulling antics. When she found out he had cheated on her, she left him and after a few weeks we knocked around clubbing etc.

The after a month or two finally got it on, touch would that was 8 years back and still going strong. The difference was she didn't cheat, and the moment she found out he was cheating ditched him and never spoke to him again.

Now, my misses mate LOVES the bad boys, she was seeing a guy who used to cheat and beat her and she slagged him off all the time but always went running back. Then a nice guy comes along and for a few months all is well.

But then she gets board and the next thing she has started shagging the ex behind her new fella's back, tore him up and he chipped of to Australia in the end.

Years on and she is no different, still hanging on after the player boyfriend.

 

ok guys thanks for ur comments some are tru mayb she does get a thrill from it, but she never moans about her, and she onli took him back cuz she suffers from depression, and was seein it as her fault cuz he cheated. he is very controling over her as well

 

she sounds like a phyco in the making

walk away whilst you can or you'll end up in the boot of her car rapped in a bin bag with cheese wire round ya neck

and a shuvvel as a best freind.

 

god this makin her sound bad, rite she has depression from when she had her daughter, she not a bad person reali, just her head is all over the plcae

 

in my very recent experience mate i'd walk away it'll only get messy further on down the line and you'll be the one to suffer, i can't say too much cos i have prying eyes on this forum , but honestly been there done that that.

 

alot of people get that doesnt mean she is a bad person now i had it,
has she been to the docs about it

 

ok would u walk away even if u feel for her reali bad

 

yer she has and she has tablets for them, i honestly dont believe she is stringing me on, she dosent take the tablets when she is wiv me as she says i make her happy

 

She's a fucking slut. Stop wasting your time associating with such a low quality woman! Women are ten a penny with most having little to no intrinsic value. Personally, if I were you i'd look elsewhere.

She has depression and also a daughter? Her value has decreased even further on both accounts. "not a bad person, she is just all over the place" .. Jesus Christ, what are you? Captain Save-A-Hoe?

There are plenty of women around who will be able to provide you will all she can without any of the problems that this one would appear to come with.

When it comes to relationships never allow your heart or cock to lead you. Always listen to your head and hopefully the common sense and logical opinion it should be able to provide you with.

 

she cant stop n start the tablets when she feels like it she got them for a reason you either take them or not just cause she is happy one day doesnt mean stop them its not how they work,

to be honest i think your better off letting her sort herself out then if its what you both want them carry on with it

 

Orionadam, if there is one very painful bit of truth about mental health, its that people who have depression dont generally make the people who they interact with's life as enjoyable as a partner who doesnt have depression would.

You have to follow your heart at the end of the day, but I would personally say she sounds like she would be "bad for you" in general

Personally, I would try and avoid getting involved in the first place at this stage if I were you, but thats purely a comment on self preservation I dont know the strength of your feelings for her so cant really give an accurate comment.

 

ok she is far to a slag as her she hasnt had many bf, personal i think she is just scared to leave him

 

i thought this but she is stil wiv her bf

 

She probably is, but all you will end up being is the safe place she runs to, gets herself back on her feet, and then she'll fuck off with someone she actually truely fancies, cause clearly that isnt you.

 

cause she chose to get back with him

 

I agree.

ultimately though, you will do what you want to do, no matter what any of the replies in this thread say !!

One thing i will say is this.. If she phones / texts you or whatever telling you that he's being an arsehole again - don't go running or you'll end up her bitch. She chose to take him back so it's something she'll have to deal with. You either didn't make it clear to her in the first place that you were seriously interested in her, or she was just up for a bit of fun and you filled in the gap.

 

This man KNOWS what it is to be someone's bitch, listen to him for fucks sake

 

true say guys some of ur comments have made me think, ive bin thinking alot latly about just walking away, but tbh i think she just needs a friend more than a bf, as her last bf and this one turned all her friends against her, so the ppl from work im the onli person she sees out side of work

 

fooking hell

 

Problem is, when you fancy someone as much as you do, just being their friend is likely to frustrate you.
Also without meaning to sound like a cunt, friendships tend to be based around 2 people helping each other, it sounds like a very one sided friendship it would be between you and her though.

 

to fair she has helped me throu a few personal problems, we are good friends, mayb im just letting my feeling get in the way by lettin my heart rule

 

Here is a relevant story for you. When I was with my Girlfriend, she met a lad in college. I knew they was friends and I didn't care as he was nothing more than a friend at the time. However, I got to know he fancied her from the messages he sent her and eventually we split up over various other different things and they became an item.

We used to text still and once he phoned me and told me to leave his Girl alone, as she was with him now and they were very happy. Not 2 days before that conversation she was sat in my car telling me how much he annoyed her, and how we should get back together. Over various reasons we never, and they stuck together. Now and then he'd phone me because he'd either seen us together or I'd phoned her while he was there and again he would reassure me how they was in love, and how I was jealous and needed to accept that they are happy. The next night I slept with her in down the local promenade.

They never lasted much longer, and I knew all along the poor bastard was being used, and used badly. Once we was even shopping together when he phoned to ask her had she seen me, and was I still harrasing her. How much of a mug was he? When I asked her why she was with him then? She said it was something to do.

All I am saying is, make sure this doesn't happen to you as this lad was sure he had found the real thing, when all along she was just another slag. Her feelings for her current partner won't just go away over night, so it's not as though it's like a fresh start as it won't be. I'm not saying she isn't the one as she could be, but be careful. Don't go in blind and listen to your friends. A good friend will be looking in from the outside, and tell you what you need to hear. Not some sugar coated load of shit to make you feel happy. I wish you all the best.

Benni.

 

Maybe mate.
Just make sure that whatever happens you dont let yourself get sucked into that depression of yours, for an illness that isnt catching, it sure does spread like one that is!

 

ok do they have a kid 2gether? i have a daughter wiv my ex, we split up last year he started seeing sum1 else more or less straight away, they were 2gether for 5 months then they split and me being stupid gave us another go, we lasted 6 months then he left me 2 go back 2 her. when u have a kid wiv sum1 u do want 2 give them a 2nd chance.

i suffered from post natal depression, most woman do get sum sort of it, but u can not stop and start taking the tablets, they wont work.

if u feel a strong connection wiv her then just be there 4 her, cus she will notice that ur sticking around. if you dont try then u will always look back and think "what if"

my boyfriend now, he is amazing and there have been a few stumbling blocks for us 2 be together and it would of been so easy for 1 of us to walk away but we did'nt and i can honestly say he is the best. so just stick wiv it, the saying of "good things come 2 those who wait" is very true

 

i no her feelings wont go away for him just like that, hopefully im moving away soon so shud make things easier