Am i wierd? me and my girlfriend bought our first house a while ago and since then she seems to have gotten more possesive of me(which i didnt think was possible) and moans at anytime i spend away from her work,gym friends anything...this little lot i can just about handle!

But she has also developed quite a hostility towards my mum she complains if my Mum rings or if i go to see her. I maybe see my mum once a week at the most,she sees her Mum and Dad everyday. We've just had a huge argument cus she says im wierd for tellin my mum "love you" like at the end of a phone conversation etc...i think its more habbit than anything! Or am i wierd? Also like a peck on the cheek when i leave my mums house etc, more than anything i was the last at home,and the yougest only boy so i knew my mum would be sad to see me leave! But really is it that big a deal?

Lets have your views...

 

dump her !

 

Yep she needs councelling!!!!

Mums rock

Odd ball!

 

Watch out for big pots on the stove full of boiling water......

 

marry her sister after you dump her,,,,,,,,,,, no wait





















move in with her mum

 

I swear lads she has issues,been together nearly 4 years and as i said she was always a bit possesive etc but this thing with my mum is getting out of hand. We can spend all day at her parents and thats fine, is swing by ma mums to check on my RS (s2 still tucked up in the safe garage) then im wierd and spending too much time with her and i cant let go,mummys boy etc!

The worst thing is if my mum knew my missus felt this way she'd be really upset cus my mum likes her so much and they always got on well in the past, its just since we moved in together she's started acting like this!

 

wait for the day you get in from work and she has the ball and chain waiting for you

 

Ive also just thought she hates my RS too,Im now 21 and had my RS sice i was 18 and i started restoring it bout 18 months ago but she moans if i work on it,cus of course its at my mums also because i had it before i met her and other girls have been in it! I only work on it maybe 1 sunday a month max,due to work and other commitments,so its not as if i spend all my time there!

Why the fuck did i move in with her?

 

you would be suprised how birds can hate not being the number one in your life

shes jealous of your relationship and feels she aint got you by the balls yet (n all girls like to be boss)

seriously mate the ONLY way you will shut her the fuck up is to treat her how shes treating you,,,, no actually worse


go out MORE,,,, go pub after work 3 nights a week and generally not bother with her,,, let her chase you about got a while when she aint got a clue where you are,,,, then after than spend time at your parents,,,,, she will soon chill when she knows where you are,,,,, well for a while then like ALL girls it will be back to the old routine,,, and so you start again


but HONESTLY dump her as you WILL get fed up of it and by that time its gonna be too late,,,,, dump her and get her to move out mate


get a new bird mate,,,, ironically girls like this who DONT respect your feelings are the ones who usually cheat/find a next man and fuck you off


get rid mate,,, in 5 years time you are gonna wake up thinking " why am i here" and by then you may have even given into her requests of not seeing mummy too and loose that relationship


btw im not close to my family,,,, but fuck giving my mum a kiss everytime i leave the house,,,,, and " i love you" every time

mate you should slow that down a bit,,, as that is a BIT mummys apron strings

 

mate, reading the post about your car,, shes got REAL issues,,,, bet she still owns underwear she was wearing the night she got shagged outside a nightclub by a bouncer

bet theres LOTS of teddys shes got from other partners,,,, not even mentioning the ones that shes had 3somes with too


shes a mental case mate,,,,, and your being a fool for accepting it,,,,

either put the trousers back on or back them in her suit case and fuck her off

 

I would start by talking to her mum about it without her knowing, see what she says as there may well be a reason behind it(ex's).
Ask her if she could gently talk to her if she is worth it.
tabetha

 

Ginge,i dont say it everytime just every now and then casually say it,im by no means that close to my mum anyways just like to say it every now and then to be kind if you like! but if my missus is there when i do she hits the roof...when we get home!

 

she sounds like your typical average woman..

possesive
fucked up in the head...

stick with it

 

Give her a slap, and tell her to get a grip! Otherwise you will be under the thumb mate.. Point out the fact ow much time she spends with hers etc.

 

The treat em mean keep am keand thing is true to,when we fist met i was a cunt not bothered about her and would got out every nite nearly all weekend etc and she would never moan when we were together,she was just happy i was with her.

Ans at the time she alwas used to go to my mums and hang around there just for an excuse to see me, but say she was coming round to see my mum.She must be fucked up! I think im just gonna do a runner! Spain here i some!

 

Nothing like giving your mum one

 

Shane, i dont see you posting on here for ages, then you come back sproutng this soppy crap Shes deffo got to you mate!

 

There is nothing wrong with having a strong family bond..

Dunno about the 'love you' and 'kiss' thing....My mum is 60 ffs

What is she like with her family? There might be some background u don't know about....

Hate to ask but does she go out alot?

 

 

I would just sit her down and tell her she being a fucking Pain in the arse and if it doesnt stop she can pack here things a fuck off.

As for telling your Mum you love her theres nowt wrong with that mate. I allways do it and allways will, even if i have mates with me etc.

 

your only 21 - get out while you can!!

 

You love your mum. So what?

 

oh the pain

 

sounds like she is a little possesive then...

you should let her know how you feel, just keep a knife close to hand, but away from her! set time for her if you havent... see ifthat helps!!

if not then might be woth getting out of there, otherwise you will have 2 kids a dog and a rusting RS...

 

fck'ell are you sure we aint goin out with the same bird lol that's my gf to a tee....no wait mines a bit worse, she smashes things up etc etc....

my adive on how to deal with the situation...

FOOK KNOWS??? sorry mate

....when you sort the situation out, tell me how you did it please

ps i've tried reasoning and screaming back, hasn't worked up to now...when were you thinking of going to spain ?

 

Been there done that ,Get fuckin rid , they will tell you theyre sorry and change

 

She sounds exactly like my ex a few years back that i bought my first house with.

as soon as we moved in the change almost happened over night - contact with family and friends was frowned upon, yet she wanted to be out with her friends every weekend - and was at her parents almost everyday on the way home from work.

my interest in cars which id had for a long long time before i met her was now called 'childish' even tho she shared the interest up until movng in.

to say our relationship didnt last a great deal of time is putting it politley - she did my head in (litterally)


i normally think people putting posts up about there personal life are daft - but in all honesty mate - if shes like this so early on she will only get worse - run and hide

 

do it while you have the chance, she won't be around forever

mum's are amazing and should always know how much their kids love and appreciate them

 

A lot of girls are like this, but I guess that takes the mick a bit. Wouldnt suggest dumping her just yet! you moved in with her for a reason. Better off discussing it with her. If she goes off on one just rebel against it and when she does go off on one give her the reason why youve done it.

Nothing wrong with saying you love your mum becuase they are not always going to be around. Theres people out there that would give anything to have a propper mum so its nice to see someone appreciates mum! If anything id be made up if my other half did that!

I wouldnt say your gf's a "case" just got a few possesion issues. I dont know what gets people like this because I do what I want and expect my other half to have a life also. But sometimes its the way it is all they want is the other person and nothing else.

Love makes you completley oblivious to whats going on around you sometimes.

Maybe just when things are better, suggest she takes up a gym, or dance classes knitting or a college night course doing massage (practice on you!), something to keep her busy at night which leaves you to do what you want! Its a start x

Boys with above posts, you run away too quickly! Id only do the same though if a guy got like that with me, I'd be like "See you Biii".

Be brave and try to correct things first! Fair play, if its not meant to be its not meant to be but its nothing too major, not like shes running around trying to hit you with a frying pan just yet!

 

Mate! Wierdo alert. How the fook can she be jelous of you spending time with your Mum and telling her you Love her. I always end a conversation with anyone in my family "Love you" even if we have just had a huge argument!!!!

 

I personally think it is likely to be down to the fact that you tell your Mum that you love her, but don't possibly say the same to your girlie, so she feels threatened?

Best thing to do is sit her down and explain that you do love her (IF you do ) and that you have always said this to your Mum, so is just out of habit. Also explain how unreasonable she is being (compare the amount of time she spends with her parents to how much you do, and then ask her why she feels so threatened given the disparity of time). I bet she says it's because you don't tell HER how you feel about HER .

Relationships are all about communication .

 

Mate she sounds nuts! She's jealous of ANY other woman in your life and this will never change.

Also, what Ginge says is true, the ones like that are the ones more likely to fuck you over, believe me on that.

 

listen to this guy! He's got the right idea!

 

Well, if the stories are true, that's because he is half woman!

 

reason why I plan to buy my own house lol trying to avoid the situation where possible!

 

You're not weird - your girlfriend is!!!

 

set your foot down, and tell her your the man in the house

i wouldn't

 

1st thing id do if i was there again is buy condoms!!!!!!!!!!!!
there could be worse to come if shes doing what you say she is

 

I lost my mum in januray i would give anything to hear her voice again or for me to say i love or to see her again. Girlfriend come and go your mum weather you like it or not will always be your mum you carnt change that if your gilrfriend thinks that you are strange for saying that you love your mum when you talk to her on the phone the only person that i see strange is your misses.

Sorry to come over strong but your mum dad brothers sister basically family come first girlfreinds second

Just a question but is her contact with her mum and dad good

 

My point exactly Nick.