Our lass is really doing my nut in

Ever since she started her new job, shes been doing lots of "overtime" in the evenings at the office etc, mostly when ive been working on an evening etc. Anyway was round there this afternoon and she was like "oh forgot to tell ya, im working tonight" (she always keeps tuesdays free as its one night i never work)

Ive thought something dodgy for a while, so anyway I parked round the corner about half 4ish, ready for her to leave to get to "the office" at 5. 5.30 and still no sign

Did a quick 3 pointer and went back round to the other side of her road, where theres a clear view of the house (trying not to drive down her road to make myself known ) noticed her car was still on the drive, and a silver Civic parked on the side of the road outside. Yet shes still texting me as though shes at work?!

7pm comes and she rings me, she sounds a bit shaky/as though shes upset, starts saying she hates confrontations and that work have asked her to work christmas when she said she didnt etc etc. Strange? So did a quick blast up the road to her house, her car STILL ON THE DRIVE, yet no silver Civic on the side? She then says that she isnt going to be doing overtime tomorrow night (even tho shes already told me she was gonna) Seems strange huh?!...as though her and this fella have had a barny?

Anyway, half 8 comes, "im home now, got out a bit early" bla bla bla, anyway didnt go round coz as you can imagine im a bit pissed at this point. Other thing that gets me is that she always texts her overtime hours in to "Paul" at the office who is supposedly her new boss.

Anyway am gonna ask the slut tomorrow gonna have to be done as its gonna nag etc even if it is somet innocent (doubt it as she acctually needs to use the car to get to the office ) but what you guys reckon?

Am i being taken for a fool or ya reckon there is a reasonable explanation? I say the former myself...

 

why wait till tomorrow relationships are built around trust and honesty and from what you say i think there is none of it going on here.

 

i would of chapped her door mate an said u were passing to get something back (might not work if she lives on her own) but other wise i still would of knocked an said i was passing an seen your car thought u were at work?

let us know how it goes,

MB.

 

Look on the bright side its 2 weeks to Christmas and if she's shagging the boss you won't have to buy her a present 'result'

 

Reasonable explanation?!!!

Did she text you saying she was at work when she was at home?

 

Well done Jules - i bet he feel's great now

 

dodgey

ask her if she's cheeting & then you can surely tell from her facials if she's lying...

how long have you been with her?

got kids?

 

I reckon if you were better in bed she wouldnt need Civic Man.

Seriouly the best way is to turn up unannounced, then you'll know. Even better if you can turn up as Civic man is leaving.

 

go into her work and speak to her boss
or just knock on her door when you think someone else there, find out

 

Sorry but i've always been a 'glass half full' person mate

 

does she ever get txts when she is with you and say ohhh they are off a girl/mate etc that deffinitely is dodgy.

 

Ask her..tell her you know she didn't go to work etc.

You never know it might be totally different to what you think...she might have some weird sick old relative and she's too embarassed to mention it or something (ahhhh, I just see the best in people me ).

No excuse for lying, but it might not be her cheating on you.

It doesn't sound too good though from what you've said

 

Have told her that ive been called into work tomorrow evening so will just blank her most of the day tomorrow then borrow a mates car and sit and wait I think. I do have a key (somewhere ) so can gain access if needed.

Regarding the texts, yeah everytime she gets one she usually says "oh its only Andy" (a good mate of both mine and hers, deffo nothing going on ther as hes gay) or "its only John" which is the father of her kid, but is Citroen man, not Civic man

 

I dont think it would be the right time for facials

 

Fair enough buddy but i reckon JayKay's slightly less optomistic than you right now

 

That's a pretty good reply actually! Either that or teach her a fuckin lesson when the cunt comes through the door! (If you've got evidence if not, just be sure! )

 

rofl

 

why not find out what time she properly finishes work at then go have a hide somewhere an see if her an civic man turn up at the same time take a mate with you so if u get caught u can say i was just showing him where u lived he was curious?

MB.

 

 

I know that she works days 9-2.30 everyday except Sunday, and that is a definate as ive been in the house when she has come back on breaks etc and have seen her car parked outside peoples houses (she is home help)

She claims she is doing overtime on evenings doing "care plans" starts at 5, finishes at 9, now i usually turn up just after 9 and she is at home, John is usually there 2 as he has been babysitting but thats fine...just seems strange that all night her car was parked outside the house yet shes claiming to be at work?! Its not as though the office is within walking distance either!

 

Lots of extra cash floating about from the overtime?...there should be!

 

thats some fucked up shit fella dont confront her catch her out women will always try to lie there way out of a situation (no offence to you honest women im sure u exsist )

and remember if shes lied to the other fella and he dont know about you its not his fault however if he knows rip his arm off and feed it to him

hope it all works out for you it aint nice and tbh dont look good

 

Erm, hate to break it to you but women can text each other mate

 

sound iffy mate.i had an ex cheat on me and she was the same.hard one to call,hope you get it sorted out

 

hows life together..allot of arguing etc lately?

 

i mean when they go all quiet and dont reply back to it then say im just nipping the lav or summet. and you say well what did they want and the reply is ohhh nothing really

 

just thought i would mention that lack of arguments actually show signs of long term cheating,,,, so arguments aint always the sign

the ONLY well to tell IMO is buy a dog as they will smell the difference when she gets home,,,, i aint talking shite but prob aint the best way to look at buying a pet


have you ever had sloppy seconds before as if you jump on her straight away you will be able to tell that too


OR get a broken bottle and stick it behind the wheel of her car so when she pulls out shes got a flat and needs help to fix it,,, that or imobilise her car another way and then see what her excuse is as YOU will be the mug she calls to help her and then she will have a pony excuse why shes there



theres a old saying my old boss said to me when i thought m ex was cheating


it is lookis like shit, tastes like shit smells like shit it aint fucking flowers


time to sort out your cd collection as EVERY time i broke up with some bitch i lost my best fucking cd's


we all been there mate,,, its shite but HONESLTY there are proper women out there who are better,,,, avoid the ugley ones who dont get attention too,,, they seem to be the WORST at cheating belive it or not


talk about glass hallf open,,,, the BEST thing in the world my ex could have done was cheat on me,,, gave me a VALID and TOTALLY free pass to nail her sexy mate


oh and we currantly have a kid together and been together for 7 years,,, as said BEST thing she ever done and she cant even say its wrong,,, as SHE finished it and opened that door that would NEVER have been allowed,,,,,, and i wanted to fuck her for YEARS

 

hope to god your missus dont ever arrange a suprise for you mate,,,,, shes planning on buying you a ferrari as your special and look after her ect and you are selling the house under her and packing her bags

 

pmsl

 

IMO, catch her in the act.... NO excuses, NO explantions !!!

Finish it there and then and be done with her

 

DONT CATCH HER MATE,,,, ive been there and even though you KNOW shes doing it you wont belive it,, catching her will just make you feel even more insecure and MAYBE you might do similer to what i done when i found out,,,, trust me aint worth it and was TOTALLY out of character for me,,, also got me in alot of shite and a court order


just find out,,,, get USED to the idea and then dump the bitch ( but dont forget your fucking cd's )

if you are thinking it mate and you are desperate enough t share with strangers means you KNOW what shes upto and you dont want anyone else to know


HELL i even let it go for a while and tried to fight to keep her,,, ironic considering that UNTIL i found out she was cheating on me i was fucking any bird who i could get away with,,,,, when she had a affair i stopped and decided that i wasnt gonna loose a bird to another bloke,,,, it was more a case of "why does she need to go elsewhere ect,, whats wrong with me"


you KNOW shes doing it mate,,, you really do so NOW is the time to think that even if she did stop what happens in 3 years time when you have a kid she gets another offer,,,,, remember that blokes dump there bird for another bird,,, women get it all arranged and they plan the leaving when its a iron claw deal that they wont loose out,,,,,, then they just tell you out the blue and move out with a entire future planned


i guy finds a bird and dumps the old one as they cant be arsed with the long term lying ect,,, they just want the other one and get on with life



dump her mate and get over it

 

btw also remembe theres a difference between cheating and having a affair

cheating is just about the cat having the cream,,, its purely just for the person whos doing it to have fun ect


having a second relationship is when the person NO LONGER cares about you and is planning on keeping this new relationship going UNTIL they know its working then they will cut off the dead fat,,,, that will be you mate



cheating is fucking a person a few time,,, being naughty/dirty ect doing things you dont find will be the same with the missus,,, its all about the person doing it



as much as i dont agree with it i was once a cheater,,,,, not with my missus btw before people think but when i was younger trying to have the image to show off to all my mates and so i know there 2 different things as most of the time i never bothered to remember there name and used to fuck em and leave in the morning


these days i cant get it up after a night on the piss so i retired from that

 

Don't listen to Ginge

Get a sniper rifle (with silencer), sit across the road again, and wait for the fucker to come out

 

I seen something like this on emmerdale mate, Turned out the lad wasn't gay at all and was porking jack dingle's missus. You wanna watch him. That time you walked in on them he wasn't trying her dress on because he's beirut it's more the fact she whipped him into wearing it. On a serious note your probably just paranoid and she's telling you she's in work when really civic man is the local handyman and she's knitting you a wooly jumper for christmas.

 

i came home one day to find a bloke sitting on my chair, playing my playstation and drinking a fucking can of my fucking beer,,,,,, I looked at my ex who looked back at me with a smile on her face like a 15 year old girl whos noticed a bloke staring down her top,,,,, seriously i was lost and confused what to do


i walked in the kitchen confused and seen the knife rack and walked back in asking him what he wants to happen next,,,,,,, that was the ONLY point the bitch wipped the smile from her face,,,,, but i had my knee on his chest and a knife along his lips talking in a VERY VERY calm voice

they both left and she ran straight to the police saying i done that TO HER THE FUCKING BITCH !!!


but when the left i went fucking ape and punched everything,,,, asked myself why i never stabbed him, then ACTUALLY blamed MYSELF for comming home early,,,, imagine that

heres the worst bit,,,,,, I DIDNT FUCKING LOVE THE BIRD,,, HONESTLY I DIDNT,,,,, i was just ashamed at not being able to keep a bird who wasnt all that and thought it was me


dont go mental at anyone mate,, get rid and move on,, trust me it will fuck her off alot quicker as if you give him a slap it will show you cared and women LOVE fucking with your head !!!

 

[quote="Benni"]
may i sugest you have a DNA test done for all of your kids mate if you belive that story

 

[quote="Ginge !"]ROFL! Dont have any yet. My girlfriends always too busy for that kind of thing, Knits me some cracking wooly jumpers to make up for it tho. Just like the ones you buy in the shops.

 

too busy, what working overtime or helping her nan/mates ect baby sit


women cheat alot more than blokes im afraid,,, they just are cleaver and there mates dont grass em up to ya like your mates do or WORSE,, your mates tell there birds,,,, but you mates birds NEVER tell there blokes so you can get told

 

I'm just kidding mate.. Altough i'm suprised to hear they cheat more than men.

 

wait for civic boy to turn up, catch her at it, tell her to get to fook, job done!!!

it churns your stumoch when you think somethings going on, but the sooner you find out the truth the better!