I didnt go an see grandad when he was in the nursing home at deaths door. I saw him a few days before & it was bad enough. I wanted to remember him as he was rather than he was in the nursing home as a shadow of his former self, only identifiable by his tatoo on his arm.

I dont regret not being there at all.

Gran is also in a home with altsimers (spelling ??) & I find it very very hard to go and visit her. It just makes me more sad to see her now to what she was. She does still recognise me when I do go and smiles / giggles (she hasnt talked for years).