My Nan has been poorly with cancer for many months now and this evening we have been told that she has taken a turn for the worse and the nursing home have asked for the family to be with her.

I have taken the choice to not go. I am so close to my nan and we have a special bond, and every time I have left her recently I have broken down in tears, it breaks my heart when she asks me "who are you?" I ahve been really struggling to deal with my emotions recently through other personal matters too.

I am now really wondering if I have made the right choice in not being with her, or will she know how much I loved her anyway?

Just wondering what other people would do if they were in the same situation?

Has anyone regretted not being with someone close when they passed away?

Sorry for the sensitive subject matter.