Originally Posted by
Mal.
He's started seeing a lass again that he's seen on and off before, and the last time it ended BADLY! She's a very destructive and controlling person and has been in pretty much all her previous relationships. When I found out he was seeing her again I basically called him a spastic and said he should know better and we fell out.
I know she's been through a bit of shit recently and he says she's completely changed, but I don't believe it for a minute and think he's just delusional! I've never known ANYONE completely change, because you can't change your personality...
I dunno, can people REALLY change???
Basically,at this age no.
When your a teenager etc then IMHO you tend to do silly things as it's all part of growing up.fuck me,if asbos were around when I was young I'd have about 10 by now and so would most of the boys I know,now we all live in suburbia and a good few of my mates are doctors and lawyers etc,pillars of the community.
I see girls around where I live now and their so nicey nice mumsie types with their people carriers,2 perfect children and hubby who clearly knows nothing about them getting wrecked down mumbles on a Friday night and sucking off bouncers to get into nightclubs underage!!!100% true that,and I believe the girl involved is a social worker now!!
Sure,people can calm down,90% of the peeps I knew from back in the day have,the 10% that didn't are either dead or drug addicts by now!
It's a shame to say it but if you want someone back that badly you'll tell them pretty much what you want them to hear.I've been back tomalley my ex's at some point when Ive finished with them,it's rosy for a month or so then all the gremlins resurface again,the niggles that caused you to leave in the first place.
I've been here before with mates and tried to advise them but deep down they know their right,I know I thought that when my mates tried to warn mr,they were right but I was blind to it at the time and carried on with the girl and basically had my heart broken again.
Relationships can be really hard going,me and the missus have been together 9 years and I've never cheated on her and were 100% honest to each other,but we've had some major rows over the years usually over fuck all!!!
I know youre only looking out for your mate and so would I do the same thing,but be prepared to be the bad guy until it goes tits up with him and the missus,then be prepared to be the shoulder to cry on,that's where real mates come into play.