I havent spoken to my dad in, think its 8 years now. He left my mum 22 years ago I dont wont anything to do with him, but like you he sends the cards on christmas and birthdays with the cheques in...................and all i do is open them, remove the cheque and throw the card away without looking at it. Of course i pay the cheques in and spend his money, but so what, he owes me My mum always reads the cards and tells me i should send a card, but sod that, to me, he is forgotten about