I'd probably want to meet up, talk to him, to give him the cards back personally...see if he's really the bastard you think he is.

It'll give you closure at least, it'll mean he knows that cards in the future won't be welcome, so you wouldn't have this problem again. It'll also mean that when he dies you'll never think ''what if'' as you gave it that chance. Lots of people get guilty when family they don't know die, even though it isn't their fault they didn't get on...needless guilt must be an awful thing to live with.

By what you've written giving yourself an hour together to just talk might fill in some gaps and make how you feel make sense so that you can put those feelings behind you and get on with your life, with or without him in it.

I couldn't accept cash from somebody I didn't like/respect...but as others have said...it's really neither here nor there in this situation..its the idea he's held out an olive branch really..and would you like to accept it, or ignore it.