i split with my wife 3 years ago after a 13 year stint with her. im now divorced, although we had been together since we were teenagers we just drifted apart and went our seperate ways and we were both happy to do this. we also have 4 year old twins and people said you cant stop together for the sake of the children, it will just be the same 5/10 years down the line, they were right. i suppose it was just like a habit as time went by but now we seem to be happy and get on great. hope things work out mate.