Originally Posted by warrenpenalver
Originally Posted by skeg
If you have a fear of snakes or heights and come face with them and think about them all the time what happens? Apparently distraction and correct breathing is the key, but more complex. You have to unlearn the habbit or reaction you have learnt. Its not an illness as such.
True but you can never get rid of the fear 100% IMO. Especially if it has a bad memory attached to it. Irrational fears are a bit easier to deal with. I'm afraid of hieghts but I have become comfortabel with the fear through repeated exposure. I couldn't go onto roofs of big buildings without being in constant fear of falling. Standing near the edge made me feel ill and my knees used to go weak.
Well people out there do get over it but its all about how you go about it. The example about snakes and heights was just to highlight that if you think about it it will become worse. The same as if you split up with a girl, talking about it all the time makes you worse when really you need to take your mind off it and move on.
People have all these panic troubles because they are worried about whatever situation it is they suffer with and like the original poster said end up worse because they avoid the situation in order to not get it. So you no longer is about fear of the situation but fear of getting the fear, lol. That is what hampers your life.
Find something that you concentrate on fully like and activity, hobby and you won't feed it. You won't notice it. Same with the inital feelings, if you feel them then think of something else or do a math puzzle in your head. Do this long enough and your habbit, your way of thinking is UN- learnt. People aren't born with it they just get it after something occurs in their life. So it can be reversed too. The key with correct breathing is not to take shallow breaths that are rapid but slower slightly deeper ones but release slowly, Don't take deep breaths, too many people think this relaxes you but it actually makes you more tense.
