i eventually got everything working, mainly by using youtube
i had to uninstal the old version of forscan, reinstal the new version, get it set up, change the setting for the reader and all sorts, plus then start the scan in ms mode before it would recognise stuff, then switch it to hs mode for it to work
however, seeing as i bought the kit way way back in prehistoric times, it won't now work fully with my car
hence my £50 amazon from america purchase of a full on bit of kit to plug and play
however, i'm still not so sure on what i'm supposed to change as not all the modules have appeared, hence my purchase, i don't appear to have a body control module listed so i can't change anything
and all i wanted to do was turn on my puddle lights, would have been cheaper to drive to someones house and get them to do it for a 6 pack