IT LIVES again.
after all your input and advise. a lot of checking rechecking and checking again, i found the problem.
2 faulty brand new relays.
so 2 more sent from athens, another 55 euros, so 110 euros in totall.
i also installed a new chip. pins looked nasty.
hey presto, the beast lives.
thanks for all our advice guys.
will post a video asap.