For reading the ecu from the J3 connector you can use the Moates F2A and F2E adapters along with a suitable chip programmer such as the Moates Burn2. Moates did do an adapter called the FORDEMU for use with an emulator but they've discontinued it because it only really worked with the eec-iv and the QH is now available.

There is other stuff available to do the same but it tends to be aimed at the commercial tuner and the price reflect this.

I'm afraid I don't know where to get the ATAFF and ABAR0 calibration or definitions (aka strategy files) from. DIY stuff for European ecu's is pretty thin on the ground. The definition files are what interpret the various parameters into user friendly values and unit. The calibration files are the binary files from the rom.