after watching the story un fold on eastenders i find myself realising that i am in a very similar situation to the asian lad on there in the respect of finding myself drawn to people of the same sex and am now at the point were i need to sit down with my wife and tell her my feelings and after seeing raj's post recently and him coming out of the closet and working with him recently think that this might be the person to express how i feel about him to, so what i'm after is advice from you guys on how to A approach my wife and tell her how i feel and B tell raj and see how it goes, please remember theses are my feelings that we're on about and be kind