Bob
Hard blow M8 Been there myself. Hence the name Dangerous

But consider this:-
If its been going on for years then this sneeky fooker doesnt really think anything of your Mrs at all. To him shes just a shag otherwise she would have left you ages ago.
My advise is this.
Sort out the money first Keep all you can for yourself (you dont say if you own the house jointly)
Go out partying for a while Take a few birds out ,get your leg over, drink beer (the usual).
Get yourself a fit thing on your arm and rub your ex`s nose in it Always look as happy as a dog with two tails and that she did you the biggest favour of your life.

When this tosser realises he has to take her on with two kids etc He`ll be up the road quicker than the Reyland Coz
And all she will be left with is time to reflect on what she lost.


My Mrs was with her Ex for 17yrs Married & gave him two kids. He had been up to no good almost all the time Until she found out 4 yrs ago.

I delight in seeing him squirm at the door whilst his kids come to me, talk about me to him, have his ex in my arms & he cant do Jack shit about it.
(plus i`m twice his size anyway )
He now lives in a one bed on his own & parts with his hard earned every month.

Meantime we`re out looking for a new place around £500k

Remember revenge can be taken in several ways. Physical will heal in a few weeks & he or she would get over it ( not suggesting you should harm her as could not condone violence to women no matter what)
Mental lasts for ever - she will never forget

Difficult to put into practice i know but once the trust is gone its over