the "sensible" option is 4wd every time, the performance difference is marginal in reality, they both give you a big every time...
as to which is "best" is very much down to personal taste and passion..
the big benefit of 4wd is you never have to worry about approaching the oncoming traffic looking through the side window when you're not expecting it
the novelty of the occasional tail-out action soon wears off when it starts doing it on occasions when you weren't expecting it...
all IMO of course, but then i'm an old bastard who drives a car like my gran would..