I dont think you went over the top. When i split with one of my ex's a few years back i threatened to stab her with a kitchen devil she ran down the road screaming and the next thing i know i had the armed police and dog patrol banging on my door... i was lucky in the fact that the coppers who arrested me were good to me and helped me see what a cock i had been, my advise is hold ya head high and get on with your life and dont let a women fcuk u up.