With your Ex-that sounds like good luck to me-she didn't respect you enough to have a proper relationship-not easy but move ob there and count your blessings-ya coulda found this out after havin 2 kids with her-that'd suck worse than knowing now

With your parents....thats up to them I mean you can't really get in the middle...just because you disagree with your mothers choices shes not gonna stop bein your mother you can only try to supprot BOTH of them in a rough period in their lives

Your grandparents is a tough thing to hear, count yourself lucky your around to comfort them and say goodbye....its all you can do in this situation( I was in rural Oz when my grandad became ill--he rang me and said not to come home cos it wouldn't change things and turned out I wouldn't have been home in time)at least you can spend some time with both of them

With RE: to work-----I've been outta work since september last year gettin bits and pieces as I go by. There's a lot of people in the same boat ie finding it tough at the moment but the economic situation is making the majority of 20-30 yr olds passengers IMO because we're used to working hard and achieving things not working hard and becoming un-employed. You probably can't do much, except keep on keeping on, on that front

Try not to let it all get you down so much

Not much help I know

Just seen you got an offer of help with the car- your luck is turning now